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The Orphaned Adult: Understanding And Coping With Grief And Change After The Death Of Our Parents
     

The Orphaned Adult: Understanding And Coping With Grief And Change After The Death Of Our Parents

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by Alexander Levy
 

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Losing our parents when we ourselves are adults is in the natural order of things, a rite of passage into true adulthood. But whether we lose them suddenly or after a prolonged illness, and whether we were close to or estranged from them, this passage proves inevitably more difficult than we thought it would be. A much-needed and knowledgeable discussion of this

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Losing our parents when we ourselves are adults is in the natural order of things, a rite of passage into true adulthood. But whether we lose them suddenly or after a prolonged illness, and whether we were close to or estranged from them, this passage proves inevitably more difficult than we thought it would be. A much-needed and knowledgeable discussion of this adult phenomenon, The Orphaned Adult validates the wide array of disorienting emotions that can accompany the death of our parents by sharing both the author's heart-felt experience of loss and the moving stories of countless adults who have shared their losses with him. From the recognition of our own mortality and sudden child-like sorrow to a sometimes-subtle change in identity or shift of roles in the surviving family, The Orphaned Adult guides readers through the storm of change this passage brings and anchors them with its compassionate and reassuring wisdom.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780738203614
Publisher:
Da Capo Press
Publication date:
10/28/2000
Pages:
208
Sales rank:
85,799
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.25(h) x 0.50(d)
Lexile:
1120L (what's this?)

Meet the Author

Alexander Levy has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty years. He lives on a farm in Pennsylvania.

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Orphaned Adult 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This title was very helpful to me in beginning to identify and begin living with the myriad of complex emotions associated with the recent passing of my Mother. I found the recollections and insight provided by the author and various subjects effective in validating the thoughts and feelings of this very diffcult time.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My mom recently died (Sep 03) and my dad died in 1966. (I'm 39 yrs. old) I have read several books on grief, but none as good as this one. I would recommend it to everyone with parents who have passed on.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a truly amazing book on the subject of parental loss. In the aftermath of my parents' deaths, I have read nearly all of the books out there, and this is by far the best. Although I am unusually young (28) to have lost both parents, although mine passed in an unusual manner (together, in a car accident), and although my relationship with them was closer than many people's (I am an only child and spoke to them every day) -- all things which tend to distance my experience from those of others', including the authors of most books on this subject -- Levy's book spoke to me tenderly, honestly, and universally. Levy insightfully and compassionately explores not only the intensity of grief wrought by the loss of one's parents, but also what such loss means in terms of an adult child's identity, how it impacts one's interactions with other loved ones and friends, and how it can impact our religious beliefs. He also discusses techniques for getting through grief, and even includes a section on ongoing relationships with parents following their death (whether it be through visitations or conscious rituals). I can't recommend this book enough, really.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have the pleasure of recommending this life-altering book. A year after losing my mother and then father, I faced a fog of uncertainty. Levy's careful construction of words, both his and his patients', layed a groundwork from which I could begin to re-build my shattered life. I am 35 and for the first time in my life, I am without a real "home". If you have lost your parents, as an adult or a child, you undoubtably may feel the same way. After being placed in my hands, Levy's book remains by my bedside as a reminder that I am going to be ok.
Her_StepSister More than 1 year ago
I have this on my Kindle and will purchase it for my stepsister who is having alot of difficulty with the recent loss of her mother (her father died in her early childhood); my stepmother. This loss is both of her parents. We still have my father (her stepfather). Based on the reviews here and elsewhere, I hope she finds comfort in reading this. I also have Grieving the Death of a Mother by Harold Ivan Smith. My mother died in my early childhood, I now feel like I have lost two mothers since my stepmother raised me. I will be buying this book for my stepsister as well. She was very close to her mother, and though she was in her 70s when she passed, it's never easy losing both of your parents. Each of these books will be helpful to me now and also when my dad passes. I do hope that my stepsister can find some comfort while reading these two books. Society gives us a timeline of about two weeks to 'get over it' but when it's one's parents, the grieving never ends no matter what the age of the adult child. I will review again after I have read these books.
Jennie3298 More than 1 year ago
When my husband lost his mother (having lost his father 10 yrs ago), I had to find out why he was vascillating back and forth betweens such incredible high points and low points that caused him to lash out at others one minute and then be the life of the party the next. I felt so compelled to identify the emotions he must be feeling - something I was unfamiliar with since I am still blessed to have both of my parents still living. By reading this book, I gained indepth knowledge of the roller coaster ride my husband must be on....the extreme emotional tendencies....the sadness....the feeling of not having anyone in his life that was guaranteed to love him, no matter how much convincing I tried to do to tell him that I would guarantee him that I would love him forever. Because of this book, I am better able to understand...and help my husband during this time. I now know how to help him through this grief and through the intense sadness, all the while reassuring him that I am there and always will be. Thank you, Dr. Levy....you have been a Godsend in this girl's life!!
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