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Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change
     

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change

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by Valerie Porr M. A., Linda A. Dimeff Ph.D. (Foreword by)
 

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, dangerous impulsivity, and tumultuous relationships. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, dangerous impulsivity, and tumultuous relationships. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or staying in school.

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is a compassionate and informative guide to understanding this profoundly unsettling--and widely misunderstood--mental illness, believed to affect approximately 6% of the general population. Rather than viewing people with BPD as manipulative opponents in a bitter struggle, or pitying them as emotional invalids, Valerie Porr cites cutting-edge science to show that BPD is a true neurobiological disorder and not, as many come to believe, a character flaw or the result of bad parenting. Porr then clearly and accessibly explains what BPD is, which therapies have proven effective, and how to rise above the weighty stigma associated with the disorder. Offering families and loved ones supportive guidance that both acknowledges the difficulties they face and shows how they can be overcome, Porr teaches empirically-supported and effective coping behaviors and interpersonal skills, such as new ways of talking about emotions, how to be aware of nonverbal communication, and validating difficult experiences. These skills are derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Mentalization-based Therapy, two evidence-based treatments that have proven highly successful in reducing family conflict while increasing trust. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is an empowering and hopeful resource for those who wish to gain better understanding of the BPD experience--and to make use of these insights in day-to-day family interactions.

Winner of the ABCT Self Help Book Seal of Merit Award 2011

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"Valerie Porr has championed the cause of people with borderline personality disorder for decades. Her understanding of the disorder and its effects on the individuals themselves and their families, partners, and friends is outstanding. This readable and informative book distils her years of experience and her first hand knowledge of how to help patients and families, providing the practical wisdom that comes only with a genuine understanding of what it is to be 'borderline'. This is required reading for anyone, from novice to expert, who seeks an understanding of borderline personality disorder and who wants practical guidance on what helps."
--Anthony Bateman, Consultant Psychiatrist and Psychotherapist, Barnet, Enfield, and Haringey Mental Health NHS Trust and Visiting Professor University College, London

"Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr is like water for a parched land. Few psychiatric disorders are as misunderstood as borderline personality disorder, a condition that can be profoundly disabling to patients and devastating to families. Opinions about what families should do are plentiful, but evidence-based guidance, derived from solid research, is rare. This is what this book delivers. It is an invaluable roadmap for families of patients with BPD."
--John Oldham, Chief of Staff, The Menninger Clinic

"An important book for family members of people with BPD."
--Larry Siever, Professor of Psychiatry, Mount Sinai School of Medicine

"She ably explains neuroscience as it applies here and emphasizes understanding, validation, and acceptance (not unconditional love)... An outstanding model of the psychoeducational approach, this volume bridges a daunting gap between laity and psychotherapists. Highly recommended for professionals as well as families of these patients." --Library Journal

Library Journal
It takes a good therapist, researcher, and writer—mental health advocate Porr is all three—to tackle the difficulties of borderline personality disorder (BPD). Characterized by recurrent impulsivity, mood changes, and relationship difficulties, BPD may include unstable identity, paranoia, fear of abandonment, and suicidal behavior. Princess Diana is an example of a well-known person so diagnosed. Experienced therapists may shun these patients, so the good news is that, using a family-oriented approach that avoids interpretation and past history, practical help for this relatively neglected syndrome is available. Porr describes the use of dialectical behavioral therapy, an egalitarian, compassionate, realistic approach that makes loved ones effective as partners in therapy. She ably explains neuroscience as it applies here and emphasizes understanding, validation, and acceptance (not unconditional love). VERDICT An outstanding model of the psychoeducational approach, this volume bridges a daunting gap between laity and psychotherapists. Highly recommended for professionals as well as families of these patients.—E. James Lieberman, George Washington Univ. Sch. of Medicine, Washington, DC

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780195379587
Publisher:
Oxford University Press
Publication date:
08/12/2010
Pages:
424
Sales rank:
123,154
Product dimensions:
6.10(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.20(d)

Meet the Author

Valerie Porr, M.A., is a mental health educator and advocate trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and the founder and president of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA NAPD). She conducts psycho-educational training seminars for family members of those with BPD in New York and elsewhere.

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Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 10 reviews.
MHadvocate More than 1 year ago
This book is the antidote for all of the misinformation, bad advice and tough love literature you'll find in bookstores, the web and in the offices of mental health professionals. Valerie Porr writes in a clear, concise manner and never talks down to the reader. By describing what is happening in the brains of people with BPD, Porr helps the reader to understand that the illness has a biological basis. Ms. Porr then shows how this neurological disorder causes the person with BPD to suffer and explains why they act in ways that SEEM to be manipulative and despicable, but are actually reactions to their own personal suffering. Finally, and most importantly, Ms. Porr offers the reader a plan to help the person they love to change. This is a book about being compassionate and effective. If you follow its prescriptions, it will not only help you change the life of someone you know who is suffering from a terrible illness, it will change your life too.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing and gives me hope. First I started to learn all I could about this disorder and I became discouraged. Next I decided to learn as much as I can about the recovery process and how to move forward. This book is the best I've seen in regards to both increasing my understanding of the condition and how to manage this condition. I am truely grateful for this resource.
LezthePez More than 1 year ago
Great Book...full of good information, compassion and stratagies both for people with borderline personality disorder and those close to them.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book has been a God Send for me and my family !!!  It is as if it was written about our lives. I feel validated, understood and hopeful. I am thrilled to find new avenues of productive and helpful action and a new compassion for our BPD family member.  Thank you Valerie Porr for writing this book !!!
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