If you can recognize your guilt, you can use it for self-improvement Ask yourself: * Do you want to learn how to forgive yourself? * Do you want to correct mistakes instead of hiding them? * Do you ...
If you can recognize your guilt, you can use it for self-improvement
* Do you want to learn how to forgive yourself?
* Do you want to correct mistakes instead of hiding them?
* Do you become angry very quickly? (over-reacting)
* Do you get caught up in blaming and assigning guilt?
* Do you often ask yourself "Why did I do that?"
* Are you afraid that if you don't do everything your partner asks then he/she will leave you?
* Do you often put down or attack others before they can hurt you?
* Do you sometimes believe that nothing good can come your way?
* Do you opt-out of responsibility when possible?
If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you.
This is the book to help you overcome your unwanted emotional burden. Be ready to embark on a journey of discovery of the many different types of guilt and shame. You can use this little book as a manual to overcome emotional insecurity issues and to give you a clearer perspective on your own emotions of guilt and shame.
The exercises in this book will enable you to see yourself as you really are "warts and all" and further exercises will help you in eliminating destructive feelings and actions.
Lynda Bevan lives in a picturesque village in South Wales, United Kingdom. She is 59 years of age, married for the third time, with three (adult) children. During her teens and early twenties, she pursued and enjoyed acting and taught drama at local Youth Centers. Her 22-year career has involved working in the area of mental health, with the two major care agencies in the UK, Social Services and the National Health Service.
After the birth of her third child, and with her second marriage ending, she became employed by Social Services and climbed through the ranks to senior management level with some speed.
During her career with Social Services, she developed a passion for counseling and psychotherapy and worked extensively with mental health patients within the organization, setting up counseling projects in Healthcare Centers. The task was to tackle the issue of doctors who inappropriately referred patients to Psychiatric Hospitals for therapy when they had experienced events that arise in normal everyday life, e.g., divorce, anxiety, depression, bereavement, stress, loss of role. It was
during this time that she became involved in marital/relationship counseling and, coincidentally, was experiencing difficulties within her own relationship. The experience of working in this environment, and her own relationship issues, enabled Lynda to be innovative; creating methods of coping and developing strategies that enabled her and her patients to live within their problematic relationships. These strategies were devised and offered to patients who had clearly identified that they did not want to separate or proceed with the divorce process.
After taking early retirement from Social Services, she became employed by the National Health Service as a Counselor in the Primary Healthcare Setting. During this period in her career, she began using the strategies she had developed with patients who were referred for relationship counseling and who did not want to end their partnership/ marriage. These strategies have been used extensively over a ten-year period with impressive results.
Lynda is presently employed as a Manager of a charity that supports people who are HIV positive. She
is also the Resident Relationship Counselor