Overwhelmed: Coping with Life's Ups and Downs [NOOK Book]

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Overwhelmed helps people make sense out of the transitions they face in every day life. This book is based on years of research—studies of people moving, adults returning to school, people whose jobs were eliminated, retirment, non-events like not having a baby, not getting promoted. These studies resulted in the development of a generic framework for understanding any type of transition. Based on this research, Overwhelmed presents a step-by-step approach to turning overwhelming transitions into challenging ...
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Overview

Overwhelmed helps people make sense out of the transitions they face in every day life. This book is based on years of research—studies of people moving, adults returning to school, people whose jobs were eliminated, retirment, non-events like not having a baby, not getting promoted. These studies resulted in the development of a generic framework for understanding any type of transition. Based on this research, Overwhelmed presents a step-by-step approach to turning overwhelming transitions into challenging experiences. By systemically sizing up transitions and one's resources for dealing with them, people can learn how to build on their strengths, cut their losses, and even grow in the process.
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Author and entertainment reporter Schwarz (The Hillside Strangler) documents the life of Juanita Slusher (1935-2005), from her birth and troubled childhood in Edna, Tex. to her days as a 14-year-old runaway, enslaved in the South Dallas sex trade, before escaping and becoming the popular Las Vegas erotic dancer Candy Barr-celebrated for the beauty and body that lured, all her life, the worst kinds of men. Schwartz's research includes a hundred hours of exclusive interviews with Slusher, who would only allow her story to be told after her death. A local legend, her connections to Jack Ruby and Mickey Cohen have been overstated in the title, but her story is a compelling, brutal tragedy set against a country's loss of innocence; she's even brushed by the investigation into JFK's assassination. Additionally, there's no redemption after a lifetime of abuse; she lived to see 70 and, according to Schwarz, spent the last 30 years of her life bitter and isolated. There was once talk of a Candy Barr biopic starring Farrah Fawcett; this is definitely the stuff of edgier television movies (think HBO, not ABC), and clearly a story she wanted told. 16 pages of b&w photos.
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Kirkus Reviews
Veteran true-crime/entertainment scribe Schwarz (Hollywood Confidential: How the Studios Beat the Mob at Their Own Game, 2007, etc.) charts the lurid life and times of a stripper. The burlesque star notorious for her association with Jack Ruby and mob boss Mickey Cohen was born Juanita Slusher to impoverished parents in a small Texas town. A precociously attractive child, she was regularly abused and molested by a string of neighbors and family members. (In a particularly horrific passage, Schwarz describes eight-year-old Juanita being put up as the jackpot in a pedophile poker game.) She ran away from home in her early teens, settling in Dallas. There she immediately fell prey to "the Capture," a tradition in which, Schwarz informs us, young girls were kidnapped, systematically raped and forced into prostitution, catering to the hypocritical Dallas establishment. After suffering in this role for a period, Juanita somehow managed to carve out a career as "Candy Barr," a burlesque dancer whose act was so transporting that she became the toast of Las Vegas and attracted Cohen's attention. Schwarz clearly presents this sensational material, but the book is one-dimensional. The endless litany of kidnappings, murder attempts, conspiracies, drug arrests, prison and rape after rape is hard to stomach and, after a while, hard to completely believe. Readers may raise eyebrows over the author's unquestioning acceptance of Barr's muddled, often half-remembered saga; they surely will wonder about his characterization of her as a brilliant artist. Quoted at length, she comes across as a rough-edged survivor and a self-mythologizer. Schwarz has written a compelling, upsetting screed against society'sdepraved exploitation of an innocent, but it lacks the rigor necessary for full-scale biography and social history. A punishing read, filled with righteous anger and fuzzy on details.
Ann McLaughlin
For the overwhelmed woman, time given to reading Overwhelmed will be well spent. The author has a rare gift: insight combined with clear, crisp writing. Her prescription for coping is mature, sympathetic, and-best of all-realistic.
Carol Tavris
Schlossberg's work represents an important and enormously helpful alternative to old-fashioned 'stage theories.' When you think you are having an 'age-thirty (or whatever) crisis,' there's nothing much you can do. When you realize that it isn't being thirty, or forty, or sixty that matters, but what is happening in your life, you can learn to cope with inevitable changes-and even thrive on them. This warm, wise book shows how.
Rev. Msgr. George G. Higgins
For better or worse, Americans are among the most mobile people in recorded history. Almost willy-nilly, they change their places of residence, occupations, schools, life styles, etc., at a dizzying pace. For those of us-and our name is legion-who at times feel overwhelmed by these unexpected and, more often than not, extremely painful disruptions in our hectic lives, Schlossberg's study of people in transition is just what the doctor ordered. She is a scholar in the best sense of the word, but wears her scholarship lightly, and her study is suffused with an appealing note of personal warmth and empathy too often lacking in works of this kind. I found her book instructive and personally very helpful, and I am pleased to recommend it enthusiatically.
Gerard I. Nierenberg
Schlossberg comes to the subject with great professional competence and experience and presents readers with much-needed solutions.
Bernard S. Arons
Nancy Schlossberg's Overwhelmed: Coping with Life's Ups and Downs is a combination self-help book and personal improvement tool-kit. Professor Schlossberg tells great stories—stories that teach and guide us to move from "overwhelmed" to "in control" as we face life's vicissitudes. What more could one ask for?
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781461663133
  • Publisher: M. Evans & Company
  • Publication date: 10/28/2007
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Edition description: 2nd Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 216
  • Sales rank: 618,247
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

Nancy K. Schlossberg is the author of eight books. She is co-president of TransitionWorks, a consulting firm; Professor Emerita at the College of Education, University of Maryland, College Park; and served as president of the National Career Development Association. She has been honored for her work by the American Psychological Association and the American Counseling Association. A frequent guest on radio and TV, Dr. Schlossberg’s work was showcased on page one of USA Today, and quoted in The New York Times, St. Petersburg Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Cleveland’s The Plain Dealer. She and her book are the focus of a 90-minute PBS pledge special, “Retire Smart, Retire Happy.”
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Table of Contents


Acknowledgments     xi
Preface     xiii
Introduction     1
Approaching Change     7
The Transition Process     9
Transitions: A Definition     9
Today Is Not Forever     13
Approaching Change: A Perspective     18
Your Transition     18
Transitions: Their Infinite Variety     21
Elected Transitions     21
Surprise Transitions-When the Unexpected Happens     25
Non-Events: When the Expected Doesn't Happen     28
Life on Hold: The Transition Waiting to Happen     30
Sleeper Transitions     33
Countertransitions: It Never Rains but It Pours     36
The Nature of Transitions     39
Types of Transitions: A Summary     39
Identify Your Transition     41
Taking Stock     43
Taking Stock of Your Situation     45
Your Evaluation of Your Transition     46
Your Ability to Plan     48
Timing     49
Control of the Transition     50
Previous Experience     52
The Permanence of the Transition     53
The Rest of Your Life     53
Summarizing Your Situation     54
Your Situation Review     55
Taking Stock of Your Self and Your Supports     57
Your Self     57
Your Supports     62
Putting It Together: The Case of David     73
Your Self Review     75
Your Support Review     75
Taking Stock of Your Strategies     11
Strategies to Change or Modify the Transition     80
Strategies to Change the Meaning of the Transition     88
Taking Stress in Your Stride: Managing Reactions to Stress     91
Using Many Coping Strategies     101
Your Coping Strategies Review     103
Taking Charge     105
Your Action Plan for Mastering Change     107
Weathering Change     108
Initiating Change     120
Let's Recap     129
Taking Charge of Your Non-Event Transitions     135
Understand Your Non-Events     136
The Dream Reshaping Process     141
Specific Strategies for Coping with Non-Events     148
And in Conclusion     149
Your Non-Event Review     149
Taking Charge of Your Work/Life Transitions     151
Handling Work and Family: Some Cases     152
Work/Life Transitions: Moving In, Through, and Out     162
To Summarize     170
Your Work/Life Review     170
It's Your Turn Now     171
The Transition Guide and Questionnaire     172
Putting the Parts Together     182
Moving Forward-Your Action Plan     185
Afterword: My Final Word: Make the Most with What You Have     187
Chapter Notes     189
About the Author     195
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