Parent in Control: Restore Order in Your Home and Create a Loving Relationship with Your Adolescent

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Parent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior ...
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Overview

Parent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior problems, shows parents how to combat an arsenal that ranges from blatant verbal challenges to physical violence, without resorting to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Bodenhamer, a former juvenile probation officer, draws on over twenty years of experience working with difficult children between the ages of 12 and 17 and their parents to offer techniques that work in as little as a few weeks. He covers a wide range of problems - whether your teen is simply ignoring household rules, or perhaps lying, or stealing - to more harmful problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or unsafe sexual activities. Using real-life scenarios, complete with actual dialogue, Bodenhamer walks you through potentially explosive situations, points out errors most parents frequently make, and provides tested solutions to averting immediate danger - and preventing it from happening again.

Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents face. In this straightforward book, the author of Back in Control--a former probation officer--shows parents how to combat this problem without having to resort to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Radio features.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Bodenhamer, a former probation officer who is director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Ore., believes we are confronting ``the worst behaved generation of children in American history.'' For parents who need to retake charge of their children, he suggests a three-point focus based on ``rule-based discipline, supervision and emotional attachment.'' Offering sound, practical advice on dealing with provocative and manipulative verbal challenges raised by teenagers and early adolescents, he presents a convincing case for giving highly detailed ``job descriptions'' to teens (if McDonald's has a 600-page operations manual for its employees, parents shouldn't shy from explaining precisely how to take out the garbage). Bodenhamer directly faces such incendiary issues as sex, substance abuse and peer pressure (including that from gangs). Frequently, however, he sounds a reactionary note, as when he rails against the American Civil Liberties Union as the nation's ``most persistent enemy of adult authority'' and cites ``an inherited link between impulsive and immature unwed teenager parents and the impulsive and immature children to whom they give birth.'' While there is valuable help here, much of it sounds like the stuff of talk radio. (Oct.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780684807775
  • Publisher: Touchstone
  • Publication date: 10/6/1995
  • Series: Fireside Book Series
  • Edition description: Original
  • Pages: 192
  • Sales rank: 990,382
  • Product dimensions: 6.10 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction 13
1 The Kids Before Back in Control 17
2 Understanding Children's Misbehavior 23
3 Behavioral Templates 34
4 Rules 56
5 Provocation and Manipulation 62
6 Flawed Supervision: Parent Out of Control 76
7 How to Regain Control of Out-of-Control Children 101
8 Jason, Eddy, Julie, Bonita, and Nicole Revisited 133
9 The Success Continues 142
10 Parents in Control - At Last 155
Appendix: Questions and Answers 163
Bibliography 175
Index 177
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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 19, 2005

    If only I would of had this book earlier.....

    Our daughter became so out of control that we had to resort to sending her to a youth therapy ranch where she has been for 8 months. When we went to visit her, the staff gave us this book to read and it has been so helpful to understand how to be the parent in control that we felt for so long we were not. Our daughter is progressing wonderful in the program but it has been costly in so many ways. I highly recommend reading and incorporating these principals to regain order in your home. If you love your child, you must take the steps to gain control.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 1, 2000

    Quit Being Afraid to Take Control of your Kids!

    In this strange era of parenting, where parents are attempting to negotiate with and befriend their children, they are caught in a never never land of distress. I'm a counselor and a teacher, and for the most part, I have to teach parents how to parent. It's all about reliable boundaries. The job of the child is to press against those boundaries constantly and see if you mean what you say. This book is generally one which promotes some positive skills, like 'sponging' up the argument. Sponge up their protests and do not permit any more negotiation. It works. I do it every single day. A good book at a good price. Every reader will gain some insight. If they don't need it, they'll at least be grateful their kids aren't the ones portrayed in it....

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