Parenting with Pets: The Magic of Raising Children with Animals

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  • ISBN-13: 9781887542586
  • Publisher: Book Publishers Network
  • Publication date: 10/28/2007
  • Pages: 180
  • Sales rank: 1,287,219
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Table of Contents

Dedication     iii
Acknowledgments     ix
Why This Matters     1
Children and Pets     5
Why Get a Pet and What to Expect     6
A Legacy of Love     11
The Role of a Pet in the Changing Child     11
Home, Our Childhood Center     12
The Developmental Years     15
Preschool     15
Early Elementary     19
S.L.C. Utah Canine Library Reading Programs     20
Handling Frustration     23
Adolescence     25
Young Adult     31
Responsibility     35
The New Pet     38
Pets Teach Tolerance     47
Before Training Your Animal     50
Where Do Babies Come From?     61
Pets and the Circle of Life     61
Boys, Girls, and Sex     63
Sexual Development     64
Grief     70
Healing     81
The Communication Bridge     85
Misbehavior = Miscommunication     92
Opening Positive Communication     95
An Open Heart: Pets in Our Life     103
Love Unconditional     111
Trust and Faith     117
Will any Pet Do?     123
Buying a New Pet     129
Easy Starter Pets     130
Pets That Need More Care     136
Pets That Need the Most Care     140
Final Note     146
Suggestions for Maximum Success for Pet Ownership     147
Other Considerations before You Buy a Pet     148
Nature in the Lives of Children     149
Tips for Sharing Nature with Your Children     154
Suggestions to Naturalize Your Outdoor Play Space     155
Some Final Thoughts     159
References     163
Helpful Resources     173
Choosing a Pet     173
Booklets     173
Death and Grief     173
Raising Children     174
Service and Therapy Dogs     175
Training Dogs / Dogs and Children     175
Cat help and questions     175
Bird help and questions     175
Appendix     178
Weekly Chore Chart for Daisy     178
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  • Posted December 8, 2010

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    A true learning experience even for those parents/pet owners who think they know it all.

    I was captivated by the warm stories tossed throughout this book of owners and their pets. Each a short adventure into another place and time. At first I was a little skeptical about this book because I thought it might be one of those pushy do it this way with your pet books. After reading I was truly pleased and surprised. I was given advice without the harshness other pet books can bring and presented with examples of real life experiences in the process. Being a parent and a pet owner is hard work but a true joy, only those of us willing to take on the responsibility can know the pleasure it brings to the family.

    Parenting with pets gets into the joys and sorrows a pet can bring to the family and how communication is much easier with your child when you have a pet in the family. It teaches us how pets caress the soul of even the toughest child and teaches them acceptance and love, lessons they will forever keep and pass own to the next generation.

    The best part of this book for me was the Grief section since it really puts into perspective how we as parents need to make sure we are there for our children for this process and how important it is.

    As a parent and a pet owner I have experienced this with my kids and my 20 year old daughter still has a fresh wound since she lost her beloved dog this past year. The anniversary of Niko's death a great Dame/lab mix was the week of Thanksgiving. He was so sick and she struggled with having to put him down. I made sure I was there for her and told her it was her decision. Even though I knew Niko was suffering I did not push her to make the choice until she was truly ready.

    Parenting with Pets is a great book not only for parents to read before acquiring a pet but also for parents who already own pets. If you are thinking about purchasing a pet for your family it has many tips on how you can avoid getting stuck with the chores after the excitement of pet ownership has died down for your children. You can also find a pet guide in the back of the book that can help to narrow down a particular kind of pet for your family type.

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  • Posted May 3, 2010

    Parenting with Pets: Beyond the Basics - thorough review of the benefits of pet ownership and the positive effects on families and individuals.

    Kudos to authors, Christine Hamer and Margaret Hevel! Their work, Parenting with Pets, is a wonderful study of the benefits of pet ownership as it relates to family dynamics and, in particular, childrens' relationships with pets. Hamer and Hevel have stretched boundaries to honestly present all aspects of pet ownership, leaving readers with wonderful tips and real-life experiences that illustrate how pets enrich our lives and learning, from toddlers to teens and beyond.

    I found this book to be an easy, enjoyable read that not only reinforced my own feelings regarding the importance of pets, but further educated me on the subject. I especially appreciated the authors efforts in highlighting the pros and cons of a wide variety of pet choices, enabling readers to make educated and responsible decisions in choosing future pet family members.

    I further applaud the inclusion of solid and effective parenting guidance, seamlessly incorporated, drawn from the authors' personal experiences, both with their own families and from their careers, as well as their utilization of interviews with other sources.

    Parenting with Pets is a must read for anyone with pets or considering adding a pet to their family. As well, I would consider it an invaluable resource for any facilities that handle pet adoptions or purchases, animal rescue facilities, school counselors, family and child therapists, senior living advisers and grief counselors.

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  • Posted April 1, 2010

    Great Read for Parents Considering Adding a Pet to the Family

    As a family with a yellow Labrador Retriever, I really enjoyed reading this book. We had our dog prior to the birth of our son, and I would have to agree with the book as to the benefits our dog is to our family. My son absolutely loves his dog, and the dog provides wonderful family interaction and unconditional love. This book was wonderful to read because it made me understand more about our dog, and the impact the animal can have on a family, both emotionally and physically. This book also explored teaching skills as a parent when you incorporate the animal into the family. The book is full of pictures and writings from children. It is an easy and fun read. If you are thinking about adding a pet to your family, this book wonderful and definitely a Must Read! You must check out this book for yourself to learn more! This book is full of great information.

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  • Posted March 29, 2010

    A must for anyone considering adding a pet to their family.

    Parenting with Pets explains how important a pet can be to children of all ages. Pets can provide someone for a child to talk too and often help you find the soft spot in those that are rough around the edges. Even at two and a half my Son helps us walk the dog. He has also learned how to pet her gently as she is a small dog. Parenting with Pets helps you to make teachable moments with children of all ages and their pet(s).

    My husband always says "our dog will be the source of a very tough conversation one day." I remember growing up when our dog had kidney failure and had to be put to sleep. I was in college. Our children will be much younger when our precious pet moves on. The Circle of Life chapter was very informative on how to handle this subject. I was encouraged by the words in this book not to let the fear of a pet passing over shadow the positive affects a pet can have on the family.

    This is a book I will be coming back to before we add another pet to our home. In the chapter Will Any Pet Do? the authors write about a variety or common pets and provide detailed information on the pest, the cost and time commitment necessary. While I am not sure I would do well with a rat or guinea pig it is important to discuss all the pet options as a family and decide which one will fit best with your family when the time comes.

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  • Posted February 9, 2010

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    THE parenting resource for getting a Pet!

    I found this book to be VERY informative and interesting. I would go as far to say - IF you are thinking of getting your child a pet, READ this book first. Not only will you have a good idea of WHAT type of pet is better suited to YOUR child, but you'll know the reason WHY your child should have a pet, including:

    1. Companionship: Pets don't discriminate and they don't judge. At Purdue University Center for the Human-Animals Bond, Dr. Alan Beck found that nearly seventy percent of children confide in their pets. The children said that they knew their pets would not betray them or their secrets.

    2) Responsibility: Children provide the pet with food, water, and clean housing and in the process, discover that they are needed and relied upon in a way they most likely have not experienced before. Assuming responsibility, at its deepest level means children learn to be responsible for themselves, for their actions and hopefully for the global community.

    3) Non-verbal communication: Brenda Bryant, a University of California-Davis Applied Behavioral Science Professor found children with pets have increased verbal skills-becoming more attuned to nonverbal communication as a result of interactions with their pet ("reading" their pet's body language). These children also demonstrated the ability to draw the correct conclusions about emotions from human faces more accurately than those from homes without a pet. AND another study showed that kids that get bullied are not good at reading non-verbal communication...So a pet could cut down on bullying!

    Yup, the book covers ALOT. I liked how she broke down the age groups and how they handle emotions and their psychological and intellectual challenges. It is interesting to think about this when selecting a pet.

    I grew up with dogs and cats (and hamsters and fish), so I understand all the benefits of having a pet, but the book helped me to make valid choice regarding a possible pet recently, based on the psychological/physical limits of my child, as explained in the book! Hamer uses real life scenarios to bring home her points, for those who may not have grown up with pets and it is a great addition to the book!

    I can't recommend this book enough! If you know of someone looking at getting a pet for the kids- recommend they read this book- they'll be happy you did!

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  • Posted February 5, 2010

    In-depth Resource for Parenting with Pets

    Parenting with Pets is an in-depth resource for anyone who is considering (or already has) pets. The authors use personal stories and interesting studies to help keep the attention of the reader. The authors talk about the changing roles of pets throughout a child's life (preschool, early elementary, adolescent, young adult) as well as the benefits and responsibilities during these ages. It goes into how pets can help children (and parents) communicate about topics such as birth, reproduction, and death. Finally, the authors go into deciding which pet (if any) would be a best fit for your family. The book includes several pages of helpful resources at the end.

    There is a good bit of technical information included in this book, but the personal stories and studies woven throughout the book help achieve a good balance. If you are looking for a book that will tell you why pets and children can be a good mix, this book will, most likely, be a good fit for you.

    Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the author for the purpose of writing a review. No other compensation was received. All opinions are my own.

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  • Posted January 24, 2010

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    Kids and Pets made easy

    I found this book to be very informative for parents that already have or are thinking about getting pets. I loved how everything was in chapters and each chapter only focused on one or two things. My favorite part of the book was the chapter titled " Will Any Pet Do?" Christine lists some great questions to ask before getting a pet and also details some great pets to consider.

    The only thing I found lacking with the book was it doesn't take into account much {fish and hermit crabs are mentioned} the reptile pets. Ad a mother of children with pet dander allergies, if it has fur or feathers we can't have it. So we are proud frog, fish, turtle and lizard owners.

    The personal stories and thoughts added throughout the book are a great touch and we all loved sitting around reading!

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the author in exchange for my review.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 26, 2008

    Informative for anyone with a pet!

    This is a book filled with helpful information for pet owners, families with pets! The true stories sprinkled thoughout are beautiful! Don't miss adding this one to your household!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 9, 2008

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    Looking for a book with helpful information on buying or living with pets--this is it! The stories scattered throughout will touch your heart! Hey folks, Parenting with Pets just won an Indy book award!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 24, 2008

    A must for those with pets!

    Information written in a useable fashion for raising children with pets. Poignant stories from children and adults!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 12, 2008

    Parenting with Pets: The Magic of Raising Children with Animals

    Thie is a great resopurce for parents and/or grandparents raising children with a pet! Information for developing positive family and pet experiences and understanding our connection with the world around us.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 1, 2008

    Parenting with Pets: The Magic of Raising Children with Animals

    This informative book offers a terrific guide for parents with children and pets! The stories from children and adults about how pets have touched their lives are heart warming. A must read!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 8, 2007

    A reviewer

    A marvelous resource for parents thinking of buying a pet or have one in their household! Heart warming stories with informative lessons.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 12, 2007

    The Perfect gift for anyone

    Parenting with pets is a marvelous book full of wonderful information and heart warming stories. Parenting with pets definitly deserves five stars!!!

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