Parents to the End: How Baby Boomers Can Parent for Peace of Mind, Foster Responsibility in Their Adult Children, and Keep Their Hard-Earned Money

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Armed with the twin swords of guilt and anxiety, many baby boomers are marching toward retirement to a tune unlike any their own parents heard a generation ago. Just when they expected peace of mind and an empty nest, far too many boomers are discovering a different reality:

• Adult children living at home without contributing to the household
• Repeated requests for money that’s often not repaid
• Relationship strains that have left them bewildered

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Parents to the End: How Baby Boomers Can Parent for Peace of Mind, Foster Responsibility in Their Adult Children, and Keep Their Hard-Earned Money

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Overview

Armed with the twin swords of guilt and anxiety, many baby boomers are marching toward retirement to a tune unlike any their own parents heard a generation ago. Just when they expected peace of mind and an empty nest, far too many boomers are discovering a different reality:

• Adult children living at home without contributing to the household
• Repeated requests for money that’s often not repaid
• Relationship strains that have left them bewildered

To help parents save themselves from distress and spur their adult children to get on-track, Herman offers practical strategies and poignant insights. Throughout "Parents to the End," she recognizes the delicate balance parents must strike between giving appropriate help to their adult children and just enabling them, while also taking into account individual differences and needs.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780983639671
  • Publisher: NTI Upstream
  • Publication date: 1/1/2013
  • Pages: 221
  • Sales rank: 381,162
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Linda M. Herman, LMHC, has been in private practice as a psychotherapist in Seattle, Washington for nearly two decades. She has led parenting workshops throughout the Pacific Northwest, including on the topic of "Raising Responsible Children in an Age of Affluence." She is a baby boomer and the mother of two adult children.

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Table of Contents

Part 1 Baby Boomers as Parents of Adult Children

1 Post-Adolescent Parenting 3

2 The Happiness Conundrum 11

3 The Paths to Anxiety 19

4 Words of a Generation 25

5 Handling Guilt: How Perfect Do We Have to Be? 35

Part 2 The Dance of Differentiation

6 Separation and Individuation: What's Good, Normal, and Healthy? 45

7 The Adult Child's Temperament and Environment 53

Part 3 Making Things Better Real People, Real Problems, Real Solutions

8 "Those Aren't My Values": Substance Abuse and Severe Behavior Problems 67

9 "She Just Won't Grow Up": Slow to Bloom or Just Irresponsible? 77

10 "We Don't Talk Anymore": Alienated Parents, Alienated Adult Children 87

11 "What to Do as a Stepparent": Blended Family Matters 101

12 "I Wasn't Prepared for This": Gender Orientation 111

Part 4 Saving Yourself

13 Their Pain is our Pain 123

14 Grief and Loss 131

15 Forgiveness and Letting Go 141

Part 5 Going On From Here

16 Creating Drive: How Do You Do It? 151

17 Parenting in the New Economy: The Trend Toward Multigenerational Living 161

18 The Bill of Rights for Parents of Adult Children 171

19 Twelve Truths for Parents of Adult Children 181

Acknowledgments 193

Appendix A Finding Your Parenting Style 195

Appendix B Is Your Child's Behavior A Problem? 203

Appendix C Worksheets 207

Notes 211

Index 217

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