Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment

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For a therapist, the very notion of healing the wounds of infidelity often seems overwhelming. What is needed is a carefully constructed, clinically based framework for interpreting and treating extramarital affairs - one that is flexible and yet concrete, empathetic and practical. Emily Brown provides just such a framework. Affairs, the author asserts, have less to do with sex than with the symptoms of troubled relationships: fear, disappointment, anger, emptiness, and the concomitant hope for love and ...
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Overview

For a therapist, the very notion of healing the wounds of infidelity often seems overwhelming. What is needed is a carefully constructed, clinically based framework for interpreting and treating extramarital affairs - one that is flexible and yet concrete, empathetic and practical. Emily Brown provides just such a framework. Affairs, the author asserts, have less to do with sex than with the symptoms of troubled relationships: fear, disappointment, anger, emptiness, and the concomitant hope for love and acceptance. She examines the affair not only in the context of the current family but in terms of the family of origin with its intimations of "unfinished business" tenacious patterns of avoidance, secretiveness, betrayal, seduction. Because this potent mixture of emotions past and present does find its way into the dynamic of marital and extramarital relationships, Ms. Brown delineates a typology of affairs - Patterns of Infidelity - that is tremendously useful in amplifying the unspoken message being conveyed by the Infidel: "I'll make you pay attention to me!"; "I don't want to need you so much (so I'll get my needs met elsewhere)"; "I don't like you, but I can't live without you"; "Help me make it out the door." In response to these patterns, the author proposes specific interventions that address the issue of the Infidel, the Spouse, and the Unmarried Other. She tackles some of the most formidable aspects of treatment: revealing the secret affair, cutting through the obsessive rage of the betrayed party, rebuilding trust in the couple relationship, and facilitating forgiveness and closure. She enthusiastically describes the appropriate use of group therapy as a vehicle that can serve much like a functional family in promoting (among other things) those relationship skills that were crucially lacking in the family of origin. She also explores the behavior patterns of the unmarried other in the context of both long- and short-term affairs. The reader will be
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The author identifies the issues and describes her approach to clients when there is an affair and discusses her conviction that affairs differ greatly in meaning and treatment needs to vary accordingly. Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781583910177
  • Publisher: Taylor & Francis
  • Publication date: 7/28/2002
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 288
  • Product dimensions: 6.30 (w) x 9.32 (h) x 1.03 (d)

Meet the Author

Emily M. Brown, MSW, LCSW, is Director of the Key Bridge Therapy and Mediation Center in Arlington, Virginia.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Preface
Pt. I Patterns of Infidelity 1
1 An Affair is a Family Issue 13
2 Types of Affairs and Their Messages 29
Pt. II Critical Issues in Treatment 51
3 Hiding, Telling, or Getting Caught: Issues in Revealing an Affair 55
4 Disclosing the Affair 77
5 Managing the Crisis: Cutting Through Obsession 85
6 Rebuilding for Conflict and Intimacy Avoiders 113
7 Rebuilding for the Addictive Family 137
8 Rebuilding and the Split Self Affair 161
9 When the Marriage Ends with an Affair 187
10 The Unmarried Third Party 207
11 The Use of Group Treatment 229
12 Trust, Forgiveness, and Closure 251
13 Children and Affairs: Issues and Interventions 269
14 Affairs and Violence 297
Pt. III Legacies: Our Client's and Our Own 313
15 Affairs, Divorce, and Remarriage 315
16 Family Therapists, Family Patterns, Family Secrets, and Affairs 331
Resources for Therapists and Their Clients 341
References 343
Index 349
About the Author 359
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