People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys [NOOK Book]

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You don't have to be controlled by difficult people!

Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they're on a mission to make us miserable! There's always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just "fix" that person, everything ...
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People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys

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Overview

You don't have to be controlled by difficult people!

Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they're on a mission to make us miserable! There's always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just "fix" that person, everything would be better. But we can't fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves.

In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people's craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people--and stay sane while doing it.

There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life--starting today!
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781441239624
  • Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 10/1/2012
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 31,449
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

Mike Bechtle (EdD, Arizona State University) is the author of People Can't Drive You Crazy if You Don't Give Them the Keys. His articles have appeared in publications such as Writer's Digest, Pastors.com, and Entrepreneur. A frequent speaker and former minister of worship, Bechtle lives in California.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

Part 1 Stuck in a Crazy World

1 I'm OK, You're Crazy 13

2 The Problem with Believing We're Right 23

3 How Relationships Work 31

Part 2 Changing Someone Else

4 Stop Yelling at the Toaster Oven 41

5 The Impact of Influence 51

6 Can I Fire My Family? 59

Part 3 Changing Yourself

7 Why Can't Everyone Be Like Me? 71

8 The Energy of Emotions 79

9 Seven Keys to Unlocking Healthy Relationships 87

10 Key #1-See Yourself Realistically 95

11 Key #2-Take Yourself Lightly 103

12 Key #3-Don't Sweat the Wrong Stuff 111

13 Key #4-Don't Rush Growth 120

14 Key #5-Live Through the Lens of Kindness 127

15 Key #6-Base Your Choices on Integrity, Not Convenience 134

16 Key #7-Go the Distance in Relationships 142

Part 4 Changing Your Environment

17 Prioritize Your Relationships 151

18 No Guarantees 159

19 When to Leave 165

Part 5 Putting It into Practice

20 Giving Up on Getting Straight A's 175

21 You Can't Steer a Parked Car 182

22 Your Relationship Survival Kit 189

23 It's Worth the Effort 196

Notes 205

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  • Posted October 28, 2012

    Don't let people drive you crazy

    What a practical book on dealing with people whose behaviors disturb your life! Although there are people whose behaviors are out of the norm and they tend to drive you crazy, Dr. Bechtle recognizes that the problem isn’t 100% the other person. You have choices to make in the process of dealing with them. Sometimes, (gasp), we are even part of the problem.

    His chapter on How Relationships Work is an excellent groundwork piece to help you recognize healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to handle them, whether they are family, friends, co-workers, etc. And no, you can’t fire our family!

    The biggest portion of the book relates to changing yourself. The author emphasizes that your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors need work on. I really appreciate his chapter on Seven Keys to Unlocking Healthy Relationships. This is, to me, the meat of the book. You can’t buy the ‘ingredients’ listed, but by following the Word of God, they can become part of your life (many are the fruit of the Spirit).

    When you get to the chapter on You Can’t Steer a Parked Car, hopefully you’ll have the empathy to try to understand why a particular person irritates you so much. I, personally, do not believe most people try to make your life miserable. Some have had difficult childhoods that make them struggle harder than you.

    I do have a difficult time with the author calling these people in your life ‘crazy people,’ because it’s shaming. As I mentioned earlier, some have had difficult childhoods and survived the best way they knew. But I do agree that it’s not your job to ‘fix’ them. He is quick to remind us that you can’t change anyone but yourself, but you can impact others by influencing them. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn’t. Nothing is guaranteed. Pray for them, befriend them if you can, and leave the changing up to God.

    This book was provided free by Donna Hausler of Baker Publishing Group (Revell) in exchange for my honest review. No monetary compensation was received.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 1, 2013

    Probably the most practical book I've ever read on relationships

    Probably the most practical book I've ever read on relationships. We all have crazy people in our lives (and we're probably the crazy person in someone else's life. . . ) It's easy to become a victim of their craziness -- but Bechtle provides practical solutions on being proactive. Great resource on taking control of our own choices, where our happiness doesn't depend on what someone else does. He's a great storyteller, and writes with humor. Awesome read!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted December 28, 2012

    First, the disclaimer. I was given this book as a gift from Dr.

    First, the disclaimer. I was given this book as a gift from Dr. Bechtle, but without any obligation to review it. Still, I figured I should mention it. I was planning to buy it anyway because I have read Mike's other books and found them very practical and helpful. From the title, you can tell that it will probably be a "self-help" book. What the title doesn't tell you is that you will really enjoy reading it.

    As other reviewers have mentioned, it is both practical and helpful. It focuses on what we can do to deal better with the people in our lives who drive us crazy, realizing that we can't change them, but we can work on changing our own attitudes. After celebrating Christmas with our families, most of us can relate immediately to several of the situations and personality types he mentions. It was not quite an "easy read" for me because I kept finding things I had to go back and re-read, and then take some action. In the sense of enjoying the book, it IS an "easy read". It is written in language anyone can understand, and presents ideas we can all relate to.

    I definitely recommend this book, and Mike's other books, as well.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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