Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: A Workshop on Healing the Wound of the Heart

Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: A Workshop on Healing the Wound of the Heart

by John Welwood
     
 

Why is it that love is so great and powerful, and yet our relationships are so difficult and challenging? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully? While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters most—in our intimate relationships. In a weekend workshop

Overview

Why is it that love is so great and powerful, and yet our relationships are so difficult and challenging? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully? While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters most—in our intimate relationships. In a weekend workshop inspired by his award-winning book Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships, John Welwood addresses these questions and leads us through transformative exercises to overcome the fundamental obstacles that keep us from experiencing love’s full flowering in our lives. Through participating in these exercises, as well as listening to Welwood’s powerful teachings and the audience’s moving responses, we discover how to:

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Free ourselves from the deep-seated belief that we are not intrinsically loveable just as we are.

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Work creatively with the tension between love’s inherent perfection and relationship’s inevitable imperfection. 
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Understand and release grievances we hold against others for not loving us better—and against ourselves for not being better loved.
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Recognize and gain access to the absolute love that is always available to us.

4 CDs, 4 1/2 hours 

Editorial Reviews

Library Journal - Library Journal
Too often, our relationships leave us feeling frustrated, anxious, lonely, and sad. A nationally known psychotherapist, Welwood (Journey of the Heart) takes a psychospiritual approach to transforming our relationships by healing the "wound of the heart," i.e., the deep-seated, unconscious belief that we are unloved and unlovable as we are, which makes it impossible for us to give and receive love freely. In turn, this state of "unlove" causes us to numb our hearts and close ourselves off from others, thereby shutting down the pathways through which love can flow. To break free from this vicious cycle, Welwood offers practical exercises and real-life examples from his practice. His lyrical writing style may not appeal to quick-fix seekers, but the book will find an audience among New Agers and the deeply forlorn. For larger self-help collections.-Wendy Lee, Marshall-Lyon Cty. Lib., MN Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781590304358
Publisher:
Shambhala Publications, Inc.
Publication date:
03/27/2007
Product dimensions:
5.31(w) x 5.71(h) x 0.62(d)

Read an Excerpt

All the most intractable problems in human relationships can be traced back to what I call the mood of unlove --a deep insecurity that most people harbor within themselves about being loved or lovable just for who they are. This doubt about our connection to love makes it hard to trust in ourselves, other people, life, or love itself.

The mood of unlove often shows up in the form of instant emotional reactivity to any perception of being slighted or treated badly. It's as though a huge reservoir of distrust and resentment is ready and waiting to be released--which the tiniest incident can trigger. For some couples, these emotional eruptions happen early on, blowing a budding relationship apart in their first few encounters. For others, the mood of unlove might not wreak its havoc until well into a seemingly happy marriage, when one or both partners suddenly wake up one day and realize they don't feel truly loved.

Fortunately, just as the sun is never permanently obscured by clouds, so our native capacity for love, for genuine warmth and openness, cannot be destroyed. To say that our heart is wounded means that we are lost in clouds that temporarily block our access to the sun that is always shining. Healing the love-wound, then, involves something like opening up spaces in the clouds and inviting the sun to do what it naturally wants to do: shine upon us.

Meet the Author

As a psychotherapist, teacher, and author, John Welwood has been a pioneer in integrating psychological and spiritual work. Welwood has published six books, including the best-selling Journey of the Heart (HarperCollins, 1990), as well as Challenge of the Heart (Shambhala, 1985), and Love and Awakening (HarperCollins, 1996). He is an associate editor of the Journal for Transpersonal Psychology. He leads workshops and trainings in psychospiritual work and conscious relationship throughout the world.

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