Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story

Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story

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by Jodee Blanco

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In her poignant work, Jodee Blanco tells how school became a frightening and painful place, where threats, humiliation, and assault were as much a part of her daily experience as bubblegum and lip-gloss were for others. It is an unflinching look at what it means to be an outcast, how even the most loving parents can get it wrong, why schools fail, and how bullying

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In her poignant work, Jodee Blanco tells how school became a frightening and painful place, where threats, humiliation, and assault were as much a part of her daily experience as bubblegum and lip-gloss were for others. It is an unflinching look at what it means to be an outcast, how even the most loving parents can get it wrong, why schools fail, and how bullying is both misunderstood and mishandled.

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Please Stop Laughing at Me... 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 192 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Please Stop Laughing at Me...One Woman's Inspirational Story by Jodee Blanco is her personal story of being bullied during the majority of her young life. As a teacher, and as a person who experienced being bullied, I wanted to enter into Jodee's experiences to gain wisdom and insight into the very real problem of bullying in our schools. Something Ms. Blanco says in her introduction to the book struck a chord within me, and really sums up the feeling of someone that's been bullied. She says: "I let students know that bullying can damage you for life, and that bullying just isn't the mean things you do, it's also all the nice things you never do, like letting someone sit alone at lunch, always picking the same person last when dividing teams for class, or talking about someone instead of with them. I explain that this can be worse than overt physical abuse, because it doesn't make the victim ask himself "What's wrong with you?" it makes him ask himself, "What's wrong with me?," and he will likely carry that self-doubt his entire life." (Blanco, 1x) Now, while I do think Ms. Blanco helps the reader to identify the struggles and trauma of someone who is bullied, I also feel like she perpetuates a strong "victim mentality" which is NOT helpful nor conducive to the healing of the bullied individual. Maintaining that victim mentality often makes relating to peers even more difficult. I hesitate saying this because it is so important for the victimized child to be heard. But common threads throughout the book are that Jodee seems to consider herself morally and ethically superior to her peers (and makes this obvious in how she attempts to relate to them), consistently pursues relationships with people who want nothing to do with her (while seemingingly able to get along with people on the debate teams, writing clubs, and theater groups she joins), and appealing to parents who spoil her by giving her whatever she wants. These were some of the elements of this book that just did not ring true with me. Yes, bullying is a horrible reality. I have personal experience with it. What is not realistic is that the bullied victim is always some kind of misunderstood saint. Quite often, the bully/victim scenario is NOT one-sided. A case in point: I had two students, one of whom was a known bully. The students were often supervised closely to ensure that they had little contact. Both students were instructed to stay away from each other. For the most part, the "bully" abided by this. However, the "victim" was observed not just by me, but by other adults to continually come around the bully, attempting to engage in conversation or play with him. I realize that the "victim's" insecurities fed into him wanting to be accepted by the bully, but at what cost? Lots of time was wasted on crisis control, which could have been avoided if the "victim" had simply played with peers who already were friendly towards him. This book would have more credibility for me, if Ms. Blanco's experiences had been balanced with concrete examples and strategies (perhaps in collaboration with a knowledgeable psychologist) on how she could have dealt more appropriately with her social difficulties.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you're looking for a moving account of bullying, don't bother with this book. It's completely useless. It doesn't teach or tell you anything about bullying or how to get past it. It's simply the author bragging about how far she's come from being picked on. It was a complete waste of my money, but more importantly, a complete waste of my time!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I bought this book and its sequel thinking I would gain some insight on how to help my son. This book was absolutely horrible. Blanco comes across as whiny, petulant, arrogant, and spoiled. She whined about 'not fitting in' yet did absolutely nothing to help herself. Her only goal was to be one of the 'popular' kids. No wonder she was laughed at. Rather than move on and find her own niche she became desperate and pathetic. The implausibility factor runs high, too. Jetting off to Santorini on a day's notice? Puleeze! Calling mommy to pick Jodee up because poor Jodee was being 'picked on'? Unbelievable. Her parents created the monster that Blanco is. Blanco comes across as an overindulged brat who never grew up.
Shannon Rebinski More than 1 year ago
This whole story is told as if the popular kids are the only group of friends that one can try for. Every child goes through the phase of trying to get into that group, but most kids realize that there are better individuals to befriend than just them. There are countless numbers of other kids in schools that don't treat people as badly as the popular kids treated jodee. It makes me wonder if this story isnt a bit of a revenge tactic towards only the popular groups of any school from a girl who couldnt settle for anyone of a lower status. It just doesnt fully add up to me. Im not saying this story isnt true, and i feel large amounts of compassion for the hell that this young girl had to go through for so long, but there are more students to a highschool than drug experimenters and sex freaks.
smallkucing More than 1 year ago
I requested this book because I wanted to know more about bullying. There are more and more case of bullying reported in school in this country and I wanted to find out more on what is the cause of it. Any prevention or how to avoid these case from happening. From this book, I found that that bullying can happen for not much reason at all. It can be a simple peer pressure or just that they don't like who you are friend with. I am shocked at what Jodee Blanco had gone through trying to fit in with the popular crowd. The bullying was so bad till she had to change school. Although she said she managed to come in terms her past it when she attended her high school reunion but based on how this book is written, I feel that she had yet to fully let go of her past. Would it have been better if she had not tried so hard to fit in? Maybe find her own group of friend? My disappointment in this book is that it did not much solution on how to stop or prevent bulling from happen. Neither provide much information on how the school authorities could have helped. This books feels more like a memoirs instead of and inspirational book Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
Guest More than 1 year ago
We have a promising program at school which involves the board picking one book for all of the high schoolers to read, so we're all 'bound together by a common thread' if you will. This year's book was terrible. It was a saint-fest about this 'tortured nerd/goodgirl/actress' and how the terrible people of her teen year made her life a living hell. Firstly, my middle school years were hell too. Like Miss Blanco, I was often under the physical and mental scorn of my classmates. Despite this I did have friends and in hindsight, I realize that I was stuck-up in middle school. Some of it I brought on myself. This woman however, pins the blame solely on her parents and the world. It's a hypocracy. My other personal favorite part is that the martyr sinks to her assailants' level and uses cruel stereotypes and descriptions to make her look even better. Me and my nerd friends didn't take too kindly... Save trees and the idea of literature itself- don't read this book
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was really hoping this book would give a real treatment of bullying in schools. However, I feel as though the author really plays the victim card, and at times, I feel she is an unrealiable narrator. Also, I think the book is not written very well. There are times when I cringe at certain phrases and the flow of the book is often interrupted
Anonymous 8 months ago
Could not put it down. Highly recommend it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm glad to see so many other people have rated this book as "one star." Before I was even halfway through, I was already calling Jodee a victim, and tired of her "woe is me" attitude. Not only that, but she is so obsessed with being friends with the popular crowd, she brings much of the bullying upon herself! I myself was bullied horribly in seventh grade, and it ended when I stood up for myself. This girl had the problem at three different schools, and high school as well. I'm an educator, and I bought the book to read to my middle/high school students. I'm already fed up with it, and I'll be donating it BACK to the library.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
“Please Stop Laughing at me” by Jodee Blanco is a book about a girl who suffered through years of bullying at the hands of her peers. The story starts out as Jodee, as a young woman, is attending a high school reunion. While she sits in her car, terrified of venturing into the building, she recalls the events that lead her life in the direction it is currently taken. From her younger years attempting to find her spot among her peers, to her days as a new student struggling to fit in at a new school. Though years of intense bullying and self discovery, The story follows Jodee through much angst, worry, tears, joys and bouts of happiness. I originally picked up this book hoping to find something that was relatable. For the most part I was able to enjoy the story and relate to the main character in many different ways. This allowed me to discover that the troubles I went through in my own younger years, and even now, were not considered all that uncommon. For those who have struggled with bullying in the past, this  not perfect, I did enjoy this book. book allows them to read about others who suffered through the same issues. As for those who have never encountered issues such as bullying, it allows them to get a feel as to how the experience can negatively affect a person, for years into the future.  Though I largely thought positively of this book, it does have some weak points. Throughout the novel Jodee is seen becoming increasingly spiteful to her peers. Often resorting to pranking and at some points, harassing other students to deal with her own stress. Though somewhat understandable, this does not send a positive message for the younger readers who look to this book for advice. There is also a point where Jodee goes through a self harm phase, and does little to discuss how dangerous and damaging the acts can become. I am worried that some desperate youth who looked to the book for  advice would view this as a way they can also deal with their issues. Jodee also talks negatively about meeting with a counselor which may discourage some readers from seeking help themselves.  Personally, I did find myself enjoying this book. I went through some tough times when I was younger and was able to find myself relating to Jodee and her experiences. It was refreshing to realize that no, I was not the only child to suffer through this. This book also gives some interesting perspective on what it is like  to go through this type of harassment, and I often found myself expressing sympathy for her. Although at times the novel seemed to portray Jodee as a bit of a provoker, often attacking back at the bullies and such, I found myself enjoying this book.  I would suggest this book to those who are also struggling with issues such as bullying or having trouble just fitting in. It would also be a valuable read for those who are often the ones who are bullying. Its a good read to really see things from a different perspective, though I would not suggest those who are rather young, as they might take the wrong message from this book. All in all, though it was
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After finishing this book, it gave me a wider view on life... And how significant it is. Especially when im only an 8th grader. Honestly, this book felt heartwarming. I feel as if all teachers, adults should read this to better understand kids in the area. I've seen kids hurting and acting irrationally when there are no adults in sight but when one comes.... its all goody two shoes. Bullying happens everyday and everywhere. I've been bullied, most definitely everyone has or will be in some way. However, the book also gave me a bothersome feeling. I felt as if it didnt give a good perspective or moral of life... Other than that, I say try it out.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is the first girl ive seen with the same name as me and almost spells it the same mine is spelled JOEDEE most are spelled JODY ,JODIE wow im surprised .. but glad my name is unique ^_<
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very inspirational book miss jodee! Ive experience similarities because ive grown my breast since i was 7 and it was terror boys would hold my arms behind my back and pinch them in pain and punch them like punching bags but that wasnt the only reason theres more,,,,,,, thank u very much to know the victims arent alone and to keep our head held high and stand up for what we believe in
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Azboy More than 1 year ago
I know this story. However, I find some of these incidents hard to imagine. Overall, I would recommend to anyone that has to live like this today. Do something about it !
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tp58 More than 1 year ago
Thought there should have been "more". Sometimes it seemed like she was recounting a story she heard instead of one she lived.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I purchased this book for a friend of mine who works with children who are often bullied, and who has an adult son who is a high-functioning, though autisic. She had heard of this book from a good source, and wanted to read it.
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This is an amazing book. I cant believe kids would do things like this. It makes me want to reach out and help kids that are going through tough times.
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Read it,......loved it!