Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story

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In her poignant work, Jodee Blanco tells how school became a frightening and painful place, where threats, humiliation, and assault were as much a part of her daily experience as bubblegum and lip-gloss were for others. It is an unflinching look at what it means to be an outcast, how even the most loving parents can get it wrong, why schools fail, and how bullying is both misunderstood and mishandled.

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Overview

In her poignant work, Jodee Blanco tells how school became a frightening and painful place, where threats, humiliation, and assault were as much a part of her daily experience as bubblegum and lip-gloss were for others. It is an unflinching look at what it means to be an outcast, how even the most loving parents can get it wrong, why schools fail, and how bullying is both misunderstood and mishandled.

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  • ISBN-13: 9781440509865
  • Publisher: Adams Media Corporation
  • Publication date: 7/18/2010
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 78,134
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

Survivor, expert, and activist Jodee Blanco is one of the country's pre-eminent voices on the subject of bullying. Inspired by the thousands of letters she receives from students, parents, teachers, and Adult Survivors, Jodee has become one of the nation's most sought-after keynote speakers, seminar presenters, and crises consultants. More than half a million students, teachers, and parents have participated in her acclaimed anti-bullying program It's NOT Just Joking Around!™. Her story of survival and forgiveness has drawn the attention of the national media, as well as recognition from the United States government. Jodee is also the author of Please Stop Laughing at Us . . . One Survivor's Extraordinary Quest to Prevent School Bullying, the sequel to this book. Please visit Jodee's website, www.jodeeblanco.com, for more information.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 23, 2009

    Not even worth the effort!

    I'm sorry but, no sympathy for Jodee for me. She was her own worst enemy. She was a manipulator and provoker, and while I won't blame her for all the horrible things that happened to her, I would completely be lying if I said I didn't see how she constantly found herself in horrible situations. She's no victim to me. A victim is someone who doesn't do anything wrong. She did plenty of wrong, so she should have bore some of her consequences, in addition to her perpetrators. She wants everyone to feel sorry for her and makes excuse after excuse, instead of offering up anything useful.

    8 out of 19 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 28, 2006

    A Waste of School Funds

    We have a promising program at school which involves the board picking one book for all of the high schoolers to read, so we're all 'bound together by a common thread' if you will. This year's book was terrible. It was a saint-fest about this 'tortured nerd/goodgirl/actress' and how the terrible people of her teen year made her life a living hell. Firstly, my middle school years were hell too. Like Miss Blanco, I was often under the physical and mental scorn of my classmates. Despite this I did have friends and in hindsight, I realize that I was stuck-up in middle school. Some of it I brought on myself. This woman however, pins the blame solely on her parents and the world. It's a hypocracy. My other personal favorite part is that the martyr sinks to her assailants' level and uses cruel stereotypes and descriptions to make her look even better. Me and my nerd friends didn't take too kindly... Save trees and the idea of literature itself- don't read this book

    7 out of 13 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 25, 2005

    Hardly worth one star

    This tale is highly narcissistic and without a moral. No moral, unless of course you consider revenge as a moral. Ms. Blanco fails to recognize that she is the common denominator in a story that is at best 'belly aching.' When she states that a cheerleader who had her lip gloss replaced with glue 'had it coming' because of her 'imperious' attitude--the message is that bullying is justified. As an educator there was little value in this book for young people experiencing bullying. There was, sadly, too much 'poor me.'

    7 out of 14 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 16, 2011

    Unrealistic

    Please Stop Laughing at Me...One Woman's Inspirational Story by Jodee Blanco is her personal story of being bullied during the majority of her young life. As a teacher, and as a person who experienced being bullied, I wanted to enter into Jodee's experiences to gain wisdom and insight into the very real problem of bullying in our schools. Something Ms. Blanco says in her introduction to the book struck a chord within me, and really sums up the feeling of someone that's been bullied. She says:
    "I let students know that bullying can damage you for life, and that bullying just isn't the mean things you do, it's also all the nice things you never do, like letting someone sit alone at lunch, always picking the same person last when dividing teams for class, or talking about someone instead of with them. I explain that this can be worse than overt physical abuse, because it doesn't make the victim ask himself "What's wrong with you?" it makes him ask himself, "What's wrong with me?," and he will likely carry that self-doubt his entire life." (Blanco, 1x)
    Now, while I do think Ms. Blanco helps the reader to identify the struggles and trauma of someone who is bullied, I also feel like she perpetuates a strong "victim mentality" which is NOT helpful nor conducive to the healing of the bullied individual. Maintaining that victim mentality often makes relating to peers even more difficult. I hesitate saying this because it is so important for the victimized child to be heard. But common threads throughout the book are that Jodee seems to consider herself morally and ethically superior to her peers (and makes this obvious in how she attempts to relate to them), consistently pursues relationships with people who want nothing to do with her (while seemingingly able to get along with people on the debate teams, writing clubs, and theater groups she joins), and appealing to parents who spoil her by giving her whatever she wants. These were some of the elements of this book that just did not ring true with me.
    Yes, bullying is a horrible reality. I have personal experience with it. What is not realistic is that the bullied victim is always some kind of misunderstood saint. Quite often, the bully/victim scenario is NOT one-sided. A case in point: I had two students, one of whom was a known bully. The students were often supervised closely to ensure that they had little contact. Both students were instructed to stay away from each other. For the most part, the "bully" abided by this. However, the "victim" was observed not just by me, but by other adults to continually come around the bully, attempting to engage in conversation or play with him. I realize that the "victim's" insecurities fed into him wanting to be accepted by the bully, but at what cost? Lots of time was wasted on crisis control, which could have been avoided if the "victim" had simply played with peers who already were friendly towards him.
    This book would have more credibility for me, if Ms. Blanco's experiences had been balanced with concrete examples and strategies (perhaps in collaboration with a knowledgeable psychologist) on how she could have dealt more appropriately with her social difficulties.

    6 out of 7 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 28, 2006

    Don't waste your time

    This was a poorly written book about a girl who tried to fir in with the kids she considered 'popular' from elementary years through high school. It is ridiculously unrealistic and consistantly has a whiny 'they hate be because I'm gifted' tone. Throughout the book she talks about how she is morally on a higher level than her peers but then the next moment she is making fun of the underdogs to try to fit in with the 'in' crowd herself. She spends her life trying to become someone she's not to get accepted, all the while narrating that she knew exactly who she was and was proud of that. Maybe the girl would have had friends if she would just BE HERSELF and make friends with other kids in school, not just the people she considered to be the most popular. That way she wouldn't have written this painstaking novel that is thrust upon us today. Also...ending every other paragraph saying something like 'I thought the kids might not hit me with rocks tomorrow. I had no idea how wrong I would be...(dun dun dun)' is definitely abusing a writer's freedom of the use of foreshadowing. My entire High School read this book as a school-wide reading program in an effort towards unity. I must say it was very successful. I have witnessed many people who don't usually talk to each other making passing comments about how ridiculous this book is and laughing together. It's become a school-wide inside joke. THANK YOU MS. BLANCO.

    5 out of 13 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 30, 2005

    Oh, please....

    This book rings untrue and reads like an updated version of a 'damsel-in-distress' fairy tale (sans prince of course grrrl power, anyone?) Blanco consistently depicts herself as a martyr throughout the entirety of the book. Seriously, it goes beyond a 'goody two shoes' attitude. As if bullying was validated if it was only the result of random targeting, Blanco writes herself as being bullied because she defended mentally disabled children, or deaf children, or abused children. I'm sorry, nobody is a martyr 100% of the time, and we are expected to believe that exactly when most girls are desperate to fit in (teen years, tween years) Blanco kept a stiff upper lip and NOT ONCE FOR A SINGLE SECOND thought, 'Gee. Maybe I should just try and fit in more.'? Please. In trying to paint a pleasing picture of herself, Blanco misses the point. Bullying is dangerous exactly because it makes people want to give up doing what is right in favor of doing what is popular, both the bully and the bullied. And the coda in which all the former little savages are transformed into wonderfully civilized adults? WRONG. Studies have proven that physically agressive bullies become physically agressive people later in life. I'm 16 and the people who learned to solve their differences in middle school through fistfighting still want to resolve their problems the same way senior year in high school. Graduating from the school in which they caused trouble didn't magically make them see the error of their ways. I picked this up 2 years ago because I was 14 and horribly bullied myself, Blanco makes herself out to be a saint on earth and thus made it impossible for me to identify her struggles with mine because...well, gee....I'm just teased 'cause I'm not fashionable..is it more laudable then to be teased because I'm a bleeding heart fetal pig activist? Grow up, Jodee, get over it.

    5 out of 13 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 25, 2008

    A waste of trees

    I bought this book and its sequel thinking I would gain some insight on how to help my son. This book was absolutely horrible. Blanco comes across as whiny, petulant, arrogant, and spoiled. She whined about 'not fitting in' yet did absolutely nothing to help herself. Her only goal was to be one of the 'popular' kids. No wonder she was laughed at. Rather than move on and find her own niche she became desperate and pathetic. The implausibility factor runs high, too. Jetting off to Santorini on a day's notice? Puleeze! Calling mommy to pick Jodee up because poor Jodee was being 'picked on'? Unbelievable. Her parents created the monster that Blanco is. Blanco comes across as an overindulged brat who never grew up.

    4 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 6, 2006

    Incessant, annoying whining

    Let me break this book down for you. It's about a girl who complains about not being accepted and being bullied all the time, and she wonders constantly why she doesn't fit in. She complains that nobody likes her. But in the midst of our trying to be sympathetic, we forget that she is trying to fit in with the 'in' crowd, not trying to be herself. She finds friends in the theatre group she is a part of. She has plenty of opportunities to make other friends. But she just whines and complains on every single page that she isn't accepted. I would be less of a person for sympathizing with someone who let something as stupidly farcical as this destroy 20 years of her life.

    4 out of 8 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 23, 2009

    This book is a waste of time!

    If you're looking for a moving account of bullying, don't bother with this book. It's completely useless. It doesn't teach or tell you anything about bullying or how to get past it. It's simply the author bragging about how far she's come from being picked on. It was a complete waste of my money, but more importantly, a complete waste of my time!

    3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted April 30, 2011

    A Sad Book

    I requested this book because I wanted to know more about bullying. There are more and more case of bullying reported in school in this country and I wanted to find out more on what is the cause of it. Any prevention or how to avoid these case from happening.

    From this book, I found that that bullying can happen for not much reason at all. It can be a simple peer pressure or just that they don't like who you are friend with.

    I am shocked at what Jodee Blanco had gone through trying to fit in with the popular crowd. The bullying was so bad till she had to change school. Although she said she managed to come in terms her past it when she attended her high school reunion but based on how this book is written, I feel that she had yet to fully let go of her past.

    Would it have been better if she had not tried so hard to fit in? Maybe find her own group of friend?

    My disappointment in this book is that it did not much solution on how to stop or prevent bulling from happen. Neither provide much information on how the school authorities could have helped. This books feels more like a memoirs instead of and inspirational book

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 7, 2012

    Bad dreams!

    Very inspirational book miss jodee! Ive experience similarities because ive grown my breast since i was 7 and it was terror boys would hold my arms behind my back and pinch them in pain and punch them like punching bags but that wasnt the only reason theres more,,,,,,, thank u very much to know the victims arent alone and to keep our head held high and stand up for what we believe in

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 3, 2012

    Slene awesome book reveiw

    This athor was AWESOME!!!!SHE EVEN CAME TO MY HIGH SCHOOL!!!!!!

    1 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 17, 2012

    GREAT BOOK!!!!!!!!

    This is an amazing book. I cant believe kids would do things like this. It makes me want to reach out and help kids that are going through tough times.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 22, 2012

    Brings bullying to a whole new light...

    A memoir about a young woman who was bullied from a very young age all the way through until her senior graduation. It's powerful, beautiful, angry, bitter, moving, disheartening, and extremely true. Jodee went through serious physical abuse as well as outrageous mental abuse. The novel keeps you interested because you want something to happen, someone to step in and help her, anything to make this poor young woman be happy and healthy.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 1, 2012

    Everyone should read this book!

    Please stop laughing at me. Isn't it sad that someone would be forced to ask that. Every person, young and old, should read this sad but true book. If you are bullying someone or have been bullied, are being bullied you must read this book. It hold a life message that everyone should discover! I recomend this book to everyone.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 14, 2011

    Didn't get very far

    I didn't get past the first few pages in this book. Just didn't hook me. Maybe I'll come back to it later on.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted August 30, 2011

    moving, yet questionable.

    This whole story is told as if the popular kids are the only group of friends that one can try for. Every child goes through the phase of trying to get into that group, but most kids realize that there are better individuals to befriend than just them. There are countless numbers of other kids in schools that don't treat people as badly as the popular kids treated jodee. It makes me wonder if this story isnt a bit of a revenge tactic towards only the popular groups of any school from a girl who couldnt settle for anyone of a lower status. It just doesnt fully add up to me. Im not saying this story isnt true, and i feel large amounts of compassion for the hell that this young girl had to go through for so long, but there are more students to a highschool than drug experimenters and sex freaks.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 11, 2006

    Good... but unrealistic

    this book really is good. there are just some things that are really questionable. some things that are just completely unrealistic. this is supposed to be a true story but there are some events that happened in this book that must have have been embelleshed. i mean there is just no way that this whole story is real. some of the things that happened to this girl just doesnt make sense. she must be adding details to get sympathy or there must have been something wrong with her that shes just not telling us because the same thing happened at every single school she went to. the only difference was that the kids were different and the things they did varied slightly but it still had the same idea. i like the book and i do recommend it but if before you read it make sure you know that probably most of this story is made up. i'm sure that kind of thing happens all the time but i dont think it would to that degree of brutality. kids just don't hold a fellow student down and throw rocks at them. i never saw anything that cruel throughout my school years and besides this took place outside the school. where were all the teachers? if this really did happen they must have known what was going on but they would not just sit back and do nothing about it. they would have taken some action which they hardly ever did.

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 14, 2005

    Hmm...not sure about this book

    I was really hoping this book would give a real treatment of bullying in schools. However, I feel as though the author really plays the victim card, and at times, I feel she is an unrealiable narrator. Also, I think the book is not written very well. There are times when I cringe at certain phrases and the flow of the book is often interrupted

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 14, 2005

    How could people be so mean?

    I just got this book yesterday from my public library. I was so shocked to see what Jodee had to go through, i am a 16 year old junior, and i have to go through some of that each and everyday, and it is hard. I think Jodee is my idol for living through that, i never could have.

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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