Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years - Raising Children Who Are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful

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Overview

Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love the child, there will be moments filled with anger, frustration, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my child deliberately lie to me? Why won't she listen to me? Should I ever spank her when she is disobedient?



Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen's Positive Discipline series. These books offer a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today's world. Now completely updated to report the latest research in child development, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will teach you how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You'll find practical solutions on how to:



Prevent misbehavior through nonpunitive discipline—not punishment
Avoid the power struggles that often come with the challenges of mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training
Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home by using methods that teach important life skills
Employ family and class meetings to tackle discipline and developmental problems
And much, much more!

"Once parents grasp and use the amazing power of Positive Discipline, their home will be transformed into a place of love and learning like no other."

—Joan K. Comeau, Ph.D., president, Family Information Services



"By leading parents in a natural direction of wisdom and responsibility, this book encourages trust in the parentchildrelationship and asks the simple yet profound question, 'Given this particular situation, what will you do?'"

—Janice Lind Raun, M.A., family therapist



About the Authors

Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.,
coauthor of the bestselling Positive Discipline series, is a nationally known speaker and education specialist.

Cheryl Erwin, M.A., is a marriage and family therapist in private practice, parenting consultant, public speaker, and coauthor of several Positive Discipline books.

Roslyn Duffy, also coauthor of several Positive Discipline books, is a child care director with over seventeen years of experience, a counselor in private practice, parent and education specialist, and public speaker.

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Editorial Reviews

Cathy Young
Weary parents of preschoolers, take heart. The newly updated edition of the indispensable Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will inspire you in your efforts to keep up with your superactive three-to-six year olds, and it will empower you with new tools for teaching your kids how to be responsible, respectful, and resourceful. What is positive discipline? Put simply, the authors of this modern classic believe that neither parents nor children win over the long term when kids are punished for their misbehavior. They advocate a new kind of discipline that allows children to learn from their mistakes and gives parents an opportunity to teach children lifelong skills in making wise choices and taking responsibility for one's actions. Authors Nelson, Erwin, and Duffy believe that children learn best when they are supported -- never shamed or discouraged -- and they've come up with a toy box full of new ways for parents to prevent misbehavior in positive and loving ways. In fact, by the end of this lively book, you may even become a believer in the authors' most radical idea: Discipline can be a fun, affirming experience for kids as well as their frustrated parents. Discipline, fun? Sure! Positive Discipline for Preschoolers teaches parents how to listen actively to their young children so that it's possible to prevent acting-out behavior before it begins. The authors do a marvelous job of revealing how preschoolers actually think about themselves, their needs, and different concepts like sharing and helping. Kids think differently than adults, and adults can circumvent frustrating power struggles by understanding a child's motives when she demonstrates defiant behavior. For instance, the authors show readers why the word "no" is entirely abstract and in "direct opposition to the developmental need of young children to explore their world and to develop their sense of autonomy and initiative." Instead, the authors teach readers several new and supportive ways to convey "no" to their young children; some of these ideas include saying what you do want the child to do, just saying yes a few times to break out of the pattern of always saying no, asking kids questions instead of saying no, and discussing troubling behavior at constructive family meetings. This more supportive way of communicating with kids opens the door for young children to ask questions, discover new ways of solving difficulties, and learn to think about the consequences of their actions -- skills that take time to develop but will last them a lifetime. As Nelson, Erwin, and Duffy make crystal clear, the only behavior that parents can control completely is their own, and "the magic that occurs [with positive discipline] is that children usually change their behavior in response" to the adult. By respecting a child's different temperaments, by finding ways for children to feel involved in family processes (for example: chores with which even the youngest children can help, or asking for their ideas for solving different family problems), by presenting kids options from which to choose (picky eaters can be allowed to choose between the dinner that's on the table or a peanut butter sandwich, for instance), parents teach their children courtesy, cooperation, respect, and patience. Even bedtime and potty-training struggles can benefit from affirming, nonpunitive discipline and open, respectful communication. Most important, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will help frustrated readers relax and enjoy the process of parenting more. This is a book about how both parents and kids can learn from mistakes and celebrate successes. By dealing with conflicts in a more proactive, supportive way, parents will discover that they'll have much more energy because they won't be immersed in as many power struggles with their kids. By teaching their children to make their own decisions (within clear, approved ranges), parents will not feel the need to lecture, to rescue their children from painful situations, or to fix things all the time. Indeed, we all know that wisdom and strength come from learning to solve our problems creatively. As the authors so eloquently suggest, positive discipline will show parents how "to allow our children, with our encouragement, teaching, and love, to taste life for themselves and learn its lessons." Cathy Young is a freelance writer living in Washington State. á
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780761515159
  • Publisher: Crown Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 10/28/1998
  • Series: Positive Discipline Series
  • Edition description: REVISED
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 368
  • Product dimensions: 7.38 (w) x 9.12 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Meet the Author

Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., coauthor of the bestselling Positive Discipline series, is a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist. Her books have sold over a million copies. She lives in Salt Lake City.
Cheryl Erwin, M.A., is a marriage and family therapist and the coauthor of numerous books in Prima's POSITIVE DISCIPLINE series on raising great children. She lives in Reno, Nevada.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Prologue: By the Children
Part One: The Joys and Woes of Adjusting to Your Growing Child
1. The Wild and Wonderful World of Preschoolers
2. "Where Has My Baby Gone?" From Toddler to Preschooler
3. "Don't Talk to Me in That Tone of Voice": Feelings and the Art of Communication
Part Two: Understanding Your Growing Child and Yourself
4. "I'm More Capable Than You Think I Am": Nurturing Initiative, Not Manipulation
5. Understanding Developmental Appropriateness
6. The Miracle of a Young Child's Mind: Preschoolers, Learning, and Brain Development
7. Temperament: What Makes Your Child Unique?
8. "You Can't Come to My Birthday Party!" Social Skills for Preschoolers
9. "My Child Just Won't Listen to Me!" The Continuing Saga of the Developmental Process
10. Personality: Yours and Theirs
Part Three: Discipline Not Punishment Designed to Empower and Teach Life Skills
11. "I've Tried Everything . . . or Have I?": Discipline Versus Punishment
12. Decide What You Will Do
13. Positive Discipline Parenting Tools
14. Courage: From "I Blew It Again" to "I'll Try Again"
15. Class Meetings for Preschoolers
Part Four: "You Can't Make 'Em Do It": Exchanging Power Struggles for Respectful Cooperation
16. "Doesn't She Ever Get Tired?" Solutions for Bedtime Battles
17. "Open Wide . . . Please?": Preschoolers and Eating
18. Preschoolers and Potties: An Ongoing Battle?
Part Five: Understanding Your Child at a Deeper Level: Decoding the Belief Behind the Behavior
19. The Messages of Misbehavior: Reading the Code
20. Mistaken Goals at Home
21. Mistaken Goals in the Preschool Setting
Part Six: Child Care and Special Needs
22. Your Child and Child Care
23. Identifying Quality Child Care
24. When Your Child Needs Special Help
Conclusion
References
Index
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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 18, 2006

    Not a lot fo concrete examples

    I enjoyed reading this book then I began to wonder WHEN and WHERE I would come across real advice on what to do. While I love the spirit of the book - I found it lacked actual, concrete examples of HOW to positively discipline children. I thought it would have bulleted points - for example, 'If your child is doing this, then try A. B. or C.' Did not have that at all! Pretty frustrating, becuase the book describes itself as being a guidebook, but there's just not a lot of real guidance!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 12, 2004

    Review for a college paper

    I am in a parent involvement class on my way to be a preschool teacher, we had an assignment to pick a book that we as a teacher would recomend to a parent. we had to find a book and read it. My friend recomendid this book and I absolutly loved it. This book was one of the best books reviewed in my class (the classes desision) it was great I would definatly use it when I have children.

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