Positive Discipline in the Classroom: Developing Mutual Respect, Cooperation, and Responsibility in Your Classroom

Positive Discipline in the Classroom: Developing Mutual Respect, Cooperation, and Responsibility in Your Classroom

by Jane Nelsen, H. Stephen Glenn, Lynn Lott
     
 

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Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Hundreds of schools also use these amazingly effective strategies for restoring order and civility to today's turbulent classrooms. Now you too can use this philosophy as a foundation for fostering

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Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Hundreds of schools also use these amazingly effective strategies for restoring order and civility to today's turbulent classrooms. Now you too can use this philosophy as a foundation for fostering cooperation, problem-solving skills, and mutual respect in children. Imagine, instead of controlling behavior, you can be teaching; instead of confronting apathy, you will enjoy motivated, eager students! Inside, you'll discover how to:

Create a classroom climate that enhances academic learning
Use encouragement rather than praise and rewards
Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior through the use of class meetings
Understand the motivation behind students' behavior instead of looking for causes
And much more!


Over 1 million Positive Discipline books sold!


About the Authors

Jane Nelson, Ed.D.,
coauthor of the bestselling Positive Discipline series, is a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist. Her books have sold more than a million copies


Lynn Lott, M.A., a nationally known speaker and therapist, has coauthored three other books in the Positive Discipline series.


H. Stephen Glenn, Ph.D., also a popular speaker, is the coauthor of the bestselling classics Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World and 7 Strategies for Developing Capable Students (both from Prima).

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780761524212
Publisher:
Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
03/28/2000
Series:
Positive Discipline Series
Edition description:
Revised
Pages:
272
Product dimensions:
7.40(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.65(d)

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Chapter 1

Positive Discipline:  An Encouragement Model

A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.  It is essential to healthy growth and development.

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Many people think of academic study as the purpose of school and that discipline programs should support academic excellence. Therefore, adults administer common disciplinary approaches based on rewards and punishment in an effort to control students. However, research demonstrates that unless children are taught social and emotional skills, they have a tough time learning, and discipline problems increase.

Positive Discipline is a different approach. Picture a train trying to reach its destination on one track. It can’t be done. The train needs two tracks, and so do our schools. The first track is academics, and the second track is social and emotional development. Positive Discipline consists of methods that involve students in focusing on solutions instead of being the recipients of punishments and rewards. Schools that have used this integrated system (both tracks side by side) report that behavior challenges decrease and academic excellence increases. The following photo, used with permission from the Visalia, California, School District, illustrates what they refer to as “A Climate for Learning.”

Years ago one of the authors was struggling to learn how to use a ­computer—­she wondered if it was worth all the effort. Then she heard someone say, “It’s too late to decide whether there should be an electronic train. The choice now is when to jump on the train.” His words have echoed in her mind as one new electronic development has followed another. Her world is filled with electronics that make her life easier and more interesting. She’s glad she jumped on the train. Now that you’ve been introduced to the two tracks of Positive Discipline, we hope you’ll want to jump on that train.

Before you shake your head and say, “No way! I can’t handle one more thing in my already busy classroom,” we hope you’ll consider this: Positive Discipline will make your life easier. ­Really! If you’re a kind and firm teacher who focuses on academics along with teaching social and emotional skills, you’re already on board. If you’re wondering if a Positive Discipline classroom is the direction you’d like to go, here are some questions for you to consider.

1.Do you want your students to be good decision makers?

2.Do you want your students to learn resilience?

3.Do you want your students to learn responsibility ­(response-­ability)?

4.Do you want your students to learn cooperation?

5.Do you want your students to learn listening skills?

6.Do you want your students to learn to use ­self-­control?

7.Do you want your students to learn to be comfortable with accountability?

8.Do you want to provide a forum where others can say how they were affected by hurtful behavior?

9.Do you want to help students learn how to make amends for the mistakes that hurt others?

10.Do you want a classroom where students are learning the qualities and strengths for good character?

11.Do you want a classroom where academic excellence can happen because students are encouraged to love learning?

Positive Discipline–trained teachers create classrooms where young people are treated with respect, have the courage and excitement to love learning, and have the opportunity to learn the skills they need for a successful life. The Positive Discipline vision is about schools  where children never experience humiliation when they fail but in- stead feel empowered by the opportunity to learn from their mistakes in a safe environment. Many of the social and emotional skills students learn are represented in the Significant Seven Perceptions and Skills.

Three Empowering Beliefs That Help Children Succeed  in School and in Life

1.I am capable.

2.I contribute in meaningful ways, and I am genuinely  needed.

3.I use my personal power to make choices that positively influence what happens to me and my community.

Four Empowering Skills That Help Children Succeed  in School and in Life

1.I have discipline and ­self-­control.

2.I can work respectfully with others.

3.I understand how my behavior affects others.

4.I can develop wisdom and judgment skills through daily practice.

Here is a description of how Positive Discipline methods teach the Significant Seven.

I Am Capable

To develop a belief in their own personal capability, young people need a safe climate in which they can explore the consequences of their choices  and behavior without judgments about success or ­failure— ­without blame, shame, or pain. Positive Discipline methods provide a safe climate in which students can examine their behavior, discover how it affects others, and engage in effective problem solving to create change.

I Contribute in Meaningful Ways,  and I Am Genuinely Needed

To develop the belief in their significance in primary relationships, young people need the experience of having others listen to their feelings, thoughts, and ideas and take them seriously. They need to know “I am important, and I count.” In a Positive Discipline classroom, everyone has the opportunity to voice opinions and make suggestions in an orderly, respectful process. Students learn that they can contribute significantly to the ­problem-­solving process and can successfully follow through on chosen suggestions. They experience the primary goal of all ­people—­a sense of belonging and significance.

I Use My Personal Power to Make Choices That Positively Influence What Happens to Me and My Community

Many teachers fail to understand that students have personal power and will use it in one way or another. If they are not given opportunities to use it in productive ways, they will probably use it in destructive ways. Young people, to develop a healthy use of power in their lives, need the opportunity to contribute in useful ways, in an environment that encourages them but also holds them accountable. They need to learn to understand and accept their power to create a positive environment. A Positive Discipline classroom is a place where students can experience that it is okay to make mistakes and to learn from those mistakes. In Class Meetings, they learn to take responsibility for their mistakes (accountability), because instead of being punished, they receive assistance in exploring ways to learn from their mistakes. They also learn that even when they can’t control what happens, they can control their response to what happens.

I Have ­Self-­Discipline  and ­Self-­Control

A Positive Discipline classroom is an excellent place where students can name and claim their feelings and develop empathy and compassion. Young people seem to be more willing to listen when they are listened to. They gain understanding of their emotions and behaviors by hearing feedback from their classmates. In a nonthreatening climate, young people are willing to be accountable for their actions. They learn what a feeling is and how to separate their feelings from their actions. They learn that what they feel (anger, for instance) is separate from what they do (hit someone), and that although feelings are always acceptable, some actions are not. Through the ­problem-­solving process, they learn proactive rather than reactive ways to express or deal with their thoughts or feelings. They develop ­self-­discipline and ­self-­control by thinking through the consequences of their choices and by accepting suggestions for solutions from other students. The notion of inviting students to explore the consequences of their choices is quite different from imposing a consequence on them, which is usually a poorly disguised punishment. By exploring the consequences of choices, students learn from their mistakes instead of trying to hide them or defend them.

I Can Work Respectfully with Others

A Positive Discipline classroom provides the best possible opportunity for young people to develop social skills through dialogue and sharing, listening and empathizing, cooperating, negotiating, and resolving conflicts. When a behavior problem arises, teachers, instead of stepping in and resolving it for the students, can put it on the Class Meeting agenda, or use the Four ­Problem-­Solving Steps, or instruct students in the use of the Wheel of Choice. All these methods, discussed in Chapter 7, allow students and teachers to work together on developing ­win-­win solutions.

I Understand How My Behavior  Affects Others

A Positive Discipline classroom is a place where students can respond to the limits and consequences of everyday life with responsibility, resilience, and integrity. They learn that it is safe to take responsibility for their mistakes because they will not experience blame, shame, or pain. They learn to give up the victim mentality of blaming others (“The teacher gave me an F”) and accept an accountability mentality (“I received an F because I ­didn’t do the work”).

I Can Develop Wisdom and Judgment Skills Through Daily Practice

Young people develop judgment skills only when they have opportunities to evaluate problems by being socially conscious and aware of what is happening around them. When a problem develops in a Positive Discipline classroom, students explore what happened, what caused it to happen, how their behavior affects others, and what they can do to prevent or solve such problems in the future. In this way, they learn to respond to the needs of the situation.

What People are saying about this

Shannon Potter
Shannon Potter, fifth-grade teacher, Sheridan Elementary, Houston, Texas

As a first-year teacher, I used Positive Discipline in the Classroom as a guide for classroom management. Because this book so clearly explains each of the eight building blocks for successful meetings, I was easily able to implement classroom meetings with my students. They learned mutual respect and problem-solving skills, while I learned how to be an effective classroom manager.

S Miller
Shana Miller, third-year teacher, Olivet Community Schools, Michigan

I have used the Positive Discipline in the Classroom approach for three years. After using this program, I experienced so many successes that I cannot imagine what a classroom would be like without it.

Jan Reed Forsse
Jan Reed Forsse, adjunct professor, Azusa Pacific University, Azusa, California

I encourage every student I teach to use Positive Discipline in the Classroom. Its approach is the key to creating a feeling of community in the classroom--a community in which students truly learn to respect and help each other by using class meetings and other communication and problem-solving skills.

Barbara H. Davis
Barbara H. Davis, assistant professor, College of Education, Southwest Texas State University, San Marcos, Texas

As a teacher educator, I have found Positive Discipline in the Classroom to be a powerful tool for helping novice teachers develop effective classroom management skills. The components of Positive Discipline provide beginning teachers (and veterans) with a framework for creating caring environments in which children share in the problem-solving and decision-making processes. I highly recommend it for teacher preparation and school district professional development programs.

Bill Scott
Bill Scott, Principal, Birney Elementary, Marietta, Georgia

Positive Discipline in the Classroom has brought back the joy of being an educator. The jargon-free concepts and strategies are easy to follow and have changed my life as a principal, as well as the lives of my teachers and students. We have all grown together to create a school climate in which everyone is treated with dignity and respect and in which students can learn the skills they need for success. Without question, Positive Discipline in the Classroom is a must for every educator.

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The Acclaimed Bestseller That Can Improve Your Classroom Experience Forever!
Lonisa Browning
Lonisa Browning, first-grade teacher, Brookhollow Elementary, Pflugerville, Texas

Positive Discipline has influenced my class in ways that amaze me. My main goal for class meetings has been to provide students with the skills necessary to solve conflict, both in and out of the classroom. I have witnessed my children move from "Stop!" to "I value your friendship, and I don't want us to fight anymore. How can I help to solve this?"-thoughtful words for a first-grade child to say and understand. My class has developed into a community of friends who are there to lend helping hands or attentive ears to anyone in need.

Dina Emser
Dina Emser, M.A., former elementary school principal, educational consultant, personal and professional coach

I have seen Positive Discipline transform the way teachers view themselves and their students. By participating in the activities included in this book, it becomes obvious how learning shifts from head to heart, where positive change can really take root.

Robert W. Reasoner
Robert W. Reasoner, president, International Council for Self-Esteem

This book should be standard operating procedure. I highly recommend it to anyone who seeks to teach young people!

Meet the Author

JANE NELSEN, Ed.D., is a licensed family and child therapist and an internationally known speaker LYNN LOTT, M.A., M.F.T., is a therapist and author of more than 18 books and manuals including four in the Positive Discipline series. H. STEPHEN GLENN, Ph.D. was the coauthor of the bestselling classic Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World.

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