The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love, and Life

by Michael Ellsberg

Overview

“Effective business networking depends on effective eye contact.”
 —Dr. Ivan Misner, author of Masters of Networking

 

“The Power of Eye Contact is a must-read book if you want a lasting relationship—or want to deepen the one you’re in.”
—Marie Forleo, author Make Every Man Want You

 

“Both mysterious and rewarding, the text reveals the powerful secrets of using the eyes to connect with others.”
—Rom Brafman, co-author of Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior

 

The secret to success in business, love, and life is The Power of Eye Contact. Author Michael Ellsberg provides an authoritative and extensive guide to mastering a potent force that can change your life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780061782213
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	04/27/2010
Pages:	241
Sales rank:	540,382
Product dimensions:	5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Michael Ellsberg is the founder of Eye Gazing Parties, the world's only singles event based on eye contact. He collaborated on Flirting with Disaster; Why Accidents Are Rarely Accidental. He graduated from Brown University and lives in Brooklyn with his fiancé.

Table of Contents

A Note to Readers xv

Introduction xv

1 What Bill Clinton Knows About Eye Contact: The Evolution of Rapport 1

2 How to Become a Master of Eye Contact in Two Weeks 34

3 Eye Flirting, Part I: For Women Only 55

4 Eye Flirting, Part II: For Men Only 80

5 The Eyes Are the Windows to the Sale: Eye Contact for Sales and Business 105

6 How to Wow a Crowd with Eye Contact: Public Speaking and Presentations 131

7 If Looks Could Kill: Eye Contact in Hostile, Aggressive, or Competitive Situations 147

8 Truth and Eyes: Eye Contact and Lie Detection 157

9 Eye Love You: Eye Contact in Relationships and intimacy 169

10 Gazing at the Divine: The Spiritual Side of Eye Contact 180

11 Going Deeper: A Graduate Degree in Eye Contact 205

Epilogue 215

Acknowledgments 217

Appendix: Ralph Waldo Emerson on Eyes and Eye Contact: From The Conduct of Life (1860) 221

Notes 225

Works Cited 231

Interviewees 237

What People are Saying About This

Marci Shimoff

“Something magical happens when two people connect eye-to-eye. Michael Ellsberg’s wonderful book helps you create that magic every day.”

Ivan Misner

“Effective business networking depends on effective eye contact. If you want to improve your networking skills, this book will be an important read.”

Thomas Farber

“Michael Ellsberg incisively surveys the many centuries of literature on the qualities of eye contact, skillfully interviews contemporaries who shed light on its complex dynamics, and with a clear eye and open heart offers profoundly practical guidance to those who hunger to see deeper—into others and themselves.”

Martin Strel

“After I swam the Amazon, demand for my public speaking skyrocketed. No one has taught me more about connecting with audiences on a visceral level than Michael Ellsberg.”

Coleman Barks

“Rumi often speaks of the soul mystery that gets exchanged through the eyes, in the glance. Michael Ellsberg provides a clear guide on how we can bring this practice, with all its beauty and power, into our own lives.”

Marie Forleo

“The Power of Eye Contact is a must-read book if you want a lasting relationship—or want to deepen the one you’re in. Few skills hold as much potential in the realm of the heart as offering your deep presence through your gaze. Michael Ellsberg shows you the way.”

Rom Brafman

“Ellsberg takes us on a captivating journey through the world of eye contact. Both mysterious and rewarding, the text reveals the powerful secrets of using the eyes to connect with others.”

Editorial Reviews

Something magical happens when two people connect eye-to-eye. Michael Ellsberg’s wonderful book helps you create that magic every day.” — Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason

“Effective business networking depends on effective eye contact. If you want to improve your networking skills, this book will be an important read.” — Dr. Ivan Misner, author of the New York Times bestselling Masters of Networking and Truth or Delusion? Busting Networking's Biggest Myths

“Ellsberg takes us on a captivating journey through the world of eye contact. Both mysterious and rewarding, the text reveals the powerful secrets of using the eyes to connect with others.” — Rom Brafman, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior

“The Power of Eye Contact is a must-read book if you want a lasting relationship—or want to deepen the one you’re in. Few skills hold as much potential in the realm of the heart as offering your deep presence through your gaze. Michael Ellsberg shows you the way.” — Marie Forleo, author Make Every Man Want You

“Rumi often speaks of the soul mystery that gets exchanged through the eyes, in the glance. Michael Ellsberg provides a clear guide on how we can bring this practice, with all its beauty and power, into our own lives.” — Coleman Barks, bestselling author of The Essential Rumi, The Soul of Rumi and Rumi: The Book of Love

“After I swam the Amazon, demand for my public speaking skyrocketed. No one has taught me more about connecting with audiences on a visceral level than Michael Ellsberg.” — Martin Strel, holder of 4 Guinness World Records in marathon swimming, co-author of The Man Who Swam the Amazon, professional public speaker

“Michael Ellsberg incisively surveys the many centuries of literature on the qualities of eye contact, skillfully interviews contemporaries who shed light on its complex dynamics, and with a clear eye and open heart offers profoundly practical guidance to those who hunger to see deeper—into others and themselves.” — Thomas Farber, author of The Beholder

From the Publisher

After I swam the Amazon, demand for my public speaking skyrocketed. No one has taught me more about connecting with audiences on a visceral level than Michael Ellsberg.

Martin Strel

The Power of Eye Contact is a must-read book if you want a lasting relationship—or want to deepen the one you’re in. Few skills hold as much potential in the realm of the heart as offering your deep presence through your gaze. Michael Ellsberg shows you the way.

Marie Forleo

Ellsberg takes us on a captivating journey through the world of eye contact. Both mysterious and rewarding, the text reveals the powerful secrets of using the eyes to connect with others.

Rom Brafman

Rumi often speaks of the soul mystery that gets exchanged through the eyes, in the glance. Michael Ellsberg provides a clear guide on how we can bring this practice, with all its beauty and power, into our own lives.

Coleman Barks

Michael Ellsberg incisively surveys the many centuries of literature on the qualities of eye contact, skillfully interviews contemporaries who shed light on its complex dynamics, and with a clear eye and open heart offers profoundly practical guidance to those who hunger to see deeper—into others and themselves.

Thomas Farber

Something magical happens when two people connect eye-to-eye. Michael Ellsberg’s wonderful book helps you create that magic every day.

Marci Shimoff

Effective business networking depends on effective eye contact. If you want to improve your networking skills, this book will be an important read.

Dr. Ivan Misner

"Effective business networking depends on effective eye contact. If you want to improve your networking skills, this book will be an important read."

Doctor - Ivan Misner