good book for helping pre-teens prepare for the teenage years
James Dobson is a name known and respected by many homeschooling families. A licensed family psychologist, he has been associated with Focus on the Family and promotes a definite Biblical worldview. He was one of the first evangelical religious leaders to tell Bible believers publically that they needed to get their children out of public schools and has been a big promoter of homeschooling. The first five chapters of this book discuss such subjects to teenagers as self-esteem, peer pressure, adolescent body changes (for both boys and girls), falling in love, and emotions. The sixth chapter is the transcript of a roundtable discussion that Dr. Dobson had with four teens and a couple of others. Please note that this book is very frank and detailed in discussing these subjects, but never vulgar or otherwise inappropriate. I would recommend that this book be part of every homeschool student's "sex education" (or whatever parents want to call it) curriculum beginning at around age 12 or with the onset of puberty, but don't just hand the book to children and have them read it on their own.
Parents should sit down with their pre-teens/early teens, read the book together, and discuss what is said. Dr. Dobson wrote, "Most people who have already made the journey through adolescence recall the scary physical changes that were occurring during those early years....There's no doubt about it: adolescence was a turbulent voyage for most of us 'old folks' (i.e., those over thirty!)." I'm glad that he said "most people." Yes, I was an adolescent once (35-40 years ago), and I still remember those years. Of course, I had my share of problems, doubts, fears, anxieties, insecurities, and other difficulties, but for me it didn't seem to be the "scary" and "turbulent voyage" that it was for others but was just another phase in the process of growing into what God wanted me to be. I suppose that having a firm faith in the Lord, a solid home foundation, and a lot of adults who were interested in my welfare helped. However, I realize that many young people today, even with those advantages, still have a tough time, and this book provides information and encouragement. Even in this book, statements like, "The result was a very uneasy, tense society where everyone knew he could be laughed out of school if he made one social mistake," show the dangers of the "herd mentality" endemic to the public (and private) school setting.
There is little in this book with which to disagree. A new, 2005 updated edition is now available.
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Overview
What do you say to an adolescent who’s getting ready to enter those turbulent teenage years? Dr. James Dobson, one of America’s leading family psychologists, knows how to speak directly and sincerely to today’s adolescents about the topics that trouble them most. Topics include avoiding feelings of inferiority, handling peer pressure, drug abuse, puberty, sexual development, menstruation, masturbation, romantic love, overcoming discouragement, sound decision-making and handling independence.
DR. JAMES C. DOBSON, Ph.D. is founder and chairman of the board for Focus on the Family. His internationally syndicated radio program, Focus on the Family, is heard ...