Pretending to be Normal / Edition 1by Liane Holliday Willey
Pub. Date: 05/01/1999
Publisher: Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
Pretending to be Normal tells the story of a woman who, after years of self-doubt and self-denial, learned to embrace her Asperger's Syndrome traits with thanksgiving and joy. Chronicling her life from her earliest memories through her life as a university lecturer, writer, wife and mother, Liane Holliday Willey shares, with insight and warmth, the daily struggles and challenges that face many of those who have Asperger's Syndrome. Pretending to be Normal invites its readers to welcome the Asperger community with open acceptance, for it makes it clear that, more often than not, they are capable, viable, interesting and kind people who simply find unique ways to exhibit those qualities.
The last part of the book consists of a series of substantial appendices which provide helpful coping strategies and guidance, based on the author's own experience, for a range of situations. This positive and humane book will provide not only insight into the Asperger world which will prove invaluable for the professionals who work with people with Asperger's Syndrome, but also hope and encouragement for other people with Asperger's Syndrome, their families, and their friends.
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Table of Contents
|The Gap Widens and Wondering Why||31|
|Losing My Way||47|
|A Slow Walk Home||63|
|Crossing the Bridge||77|
|Rocking My Babies||93|
|Settling In, But Never Down||107|
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This book was sent to me straight from God! My nine year old son was recently diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome by a neurologist. He recently had his first appointment with a psychiatrist however his prognosis for my son was bleak and left me in total despair. He said that my son would never be able to live alone, or have a rewarding career. I was devastated but vowed to fight this prognosis and also NEVER to see this doctor again. Ms. Willey is proof-positive that my child may be able to have a rewarding life. You don't know how much inspiration that you have given to me. Thank you!
This is a truly touching, insightful, and informative narrative. The writing is also exceptional--it could only have been produced by someone with Asperger's syndrome.
I feel, as Liane Holliday says, "Why, I wondered, did everyone refuse to accept my words as fact and not fiction? Why was I getting so much opposition? Why were my observations being discounted as so unimportant and unreliable?" So now, I feel quite fortunate that women like Liane are writing books to not only bring awareness to the world, but also to help those of us with a diagnosis. This book is both a memoir and a guide to life. Though every Aspie is a unique individual, there are many commonalities: a love of information and organization, details, routines, obsessive thinking (that's focus), logical and literal-mindedness, the often unbearableness of eye contact, a love of solitude and time to recharge...And the exhaustion we experience from feeling we have to hide who we are to fit in - "In fact, living with one foot in neurotypical land and one in Aspieland, is very stressful and exhausting." I'm glad the author is choosing to pretend a little less. She is an inspiration to me. This book is not only helpful and inspiring for those with an AS diagnosis, but for anyone who wants to learn more about what life is like for a woman with Asperger's Syndrome. Oh to have had this when I was younger! Thank you to Jessica Kinsgley Publishers and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review an advance copy of this book!
What a great title? Pretending to be normal is the exact description of the lives of many with Asperger's Syndrome. Pretending to be normal and never really being true to themselves. This book offers a better way to live one's life. Not just for those suffering from Asperger's Syndrome, this book helps their loved ones better understand the complexities of their Asperger's loved ones.
I sought this book out because it was by and for an adult with Aspergers. I was a bit disappointed with it in several ways. First, I was surprised to read that the author has not been formally diagnosed with AS, although she admits that fact in an early disclaimer. This becomes more of an issue as Ms. Willey asserts that her AS traits are 'melting away' with age, a possibility that is as unprecendented as it is unbelievable from her own narrative. There are other facts that emerge in this autobiography that don't exactly fit the AS picture. For example, Ms. Willey readily admits shortcomings in math and spelling. But the typical person with AS has a fascination with numbers, and often a photographic memory. This makes me wonder if Ms. Willey does in fact have Aspergers syndrome, rather than another similar condition. There were parts of the author's life story that came tantalizingly close to important revelations, but never went the extra step to realization. Still, her story held my interest enough to complete it.