Jane Fonda has won two Academy Awards, but perhaps her memorable film appearances occur in her two-dozen exercise videos, including a pair released just last year. Now 73, this human dynamo has inspired millions of viewers to regard their mature years not as a wobbly decline, but a continual ascent. Her Prime Time challenges readers to enhance every aspect of their physical, mental, social, and spiritual wellbeing. Filled with specific information and new research, this book shows how women and men can flourish as they move past mid-life. Making the most of the second half of your life.
Prime Time: Love, Health, Sex, Fitness, Friendship, Spirit--Making the Most of All of Your Lifeby Jane Fonda
In this inspiring and candid book, Jane Fonda, #1 bestselling author, actress, and workout pioneer, gives us a blueprint for living well and for making the most of life, especially the second half of it. Covering sex, love, food, fitness, self-understanding, spiritual and social growth, and your brain. In Prime Time, she offers a vision for successful living/i>
In this inspiring and candid book, Jane Fonda, #1 bestselling author, actress, and workout pioneer, gives us a blueprint for living well and for making the most of life, especially the second half of it. Covering sex, love, food, fitness, self-understanding, spiritual and social growth, and your brain. In Prime Time, she offers a vision for successful living and maturing, A to Z.
Highlighting new research and stories from her own life and from the lives of others, Jane Fonda explores how the critical years from 45 and 50, and especially from 60 and beyond, can be times when we truly become the energetic, loving, fulfilled people we were meant to be. Covering the 11 key ingredients for vital living, Fonda invites you to consider with her how to live a more insightful, healthy, and fully integrated life, a life lived more profoundly in touch with ourselves, our bodies, minds, and spirits, and with our talents, friends, and communities.
In her research, Fonda discovered two metaphors, the arch and the staircase, that became for her two visions of life. She shows how to see your life the ÒstaircaseÓ way, as one of continual ascent. She explains how she came to understand the earlier decades of her life by performing a life review, and she shows how you can do a life review too. She reveals how her own life review enabled her to let go of old patterns, to see what means the most to her, and then to cultivate new goals and dreams, to make the most of the mature years. For there has been a Òlongevity revolution,Ó and the average human life expectancy has jumped by years. Fonda asks, what we are meant to do with this precious gift of time? And she writes about how we can navigate the Òfertile voidsÓ that life periodically presents to us. She makes suggestions about exercise (including three key movements for optimal health), diet (how to eat by color), meditation, and how learning new things and creating fresh pathways in your brain can add quality to your life. Fonda writes of positivity, and why many people are happier in the second half of their lives than they have ever been before.
In her #1 New York Times bestselling memoir, My Life So Far, Jane Fonda focused on the first half of her extraordinary lifeÑwhat she called Acts I and IIÑwith an eye toward preparing for a vibrant Act III. Now we have a thoughtfully articulated memoir and guide for how to make all of your life, and especially Act III, Prime Time.
Now in her early 70s, celebrity icon Fonda (My Life So Far, 2006, etc.) is embracing what she refers to as Stage Three of life.
The author assures readers that aging is an enlightening experience when approached with a positive perspective.She invites us to visualize life not as an arch, "taking us from childhood to a middle peak of maturity, followed by a decline into infirmity," but rather as a staircase that symbolizes "our potential for upward progression toward wisdom, spiritual growth, learning, toward...consciousness and soul." Interweaving heartfelt personal anecdotes about her struggles and successes in life, and those of others close to her, with cited research conducted by a variety of specialists, Fonda offers a comprehensive guide to living life to the fullest, particularly beyond middle age. She thoroughly addresses all the essential components that contribute to one's physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health, such as fitness, nutrition, meditation, romantic love and sex, friendship and financial planning. With a sincere determination to redefine society's perception of life beyond middle age, Fonda advocates for a group whose contributions to society are often underestimated and undervalued. Although geared toward those 60 years of age and over, the author's wealth of wisdom can benefit readers of any age who want to proactively prepare for their future.
An inspirational and highly informative guide to living the second half of life with enthusiasm and buoyancy.
“A how-to book about being happy and self-aware [that] cites research and interviews with upbeat, lively, sexually active older people to extract some all-purpose lessons about endurance.”—The New York Times
“Warm, informative, and incredibly life affirming.”—Woman’s Day
“Read this, age gracefully.”—InStyle
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The Arch and the Staircase
The past empowers the present, and the groping footsteps leading to this present mark the pathways to the future.
—Mary Catherine Bateson
Several years ago, i was coming to the end of my sixties and facing my seventies, the second decade of what I thought of as the Third Act of my life— Act III, which, as I see it, begins at age sixty. I was worried. Being in my sixties was one thing. Given good health, we can fudge our sixties. But seventy—now, that’s serious.
In our grandparents’ time, people in their seventies were considered part of the “old old” . . . on their way out.
However, a revolution has occurred within the last century—
a longevity revolution. Studies show that, on average, thirty- four years have been added to human life expectancy, moving it from an average of forty- six years to eighty! This addition represents an entire second adult lifetime, and whether we choose to confront it or not, it changes everything, including what it means to be human.
Adding a Room
The social anthropologist (and a friend of mine) Mary Catherine
Bateson has a metaphor for living with this longer life span in view.
She writes in her recent book Composing a Further Life: The Age of Active
Wisdom, “We have not added decades to life expectancy by simply extending old age; instead, we have opened up a new space partway through the life course, a second and different kind of adulthood that precedes old age, and as a result every stage of life is undergoing change.” Bateson uses the identifi able metaphor of what happens when a new room is added to your home. It isn’t just the new room that is different; every other part of the house and how it is used is altered a bit by the addition of this room.
In the house that is our life, things such as planning, marriage,
love, fi nances, parenting, travel, education, physical fi tness, work,
retirement—our very identities, even!—all take on new meaning now that we can expect to be vital into our eighties and nineties
. . . or longer.
But our culture has not come to grips with the ways the longevity revolution has altered our lives. Institutionally, so much of how we do things is the same as it was early in the twentieth century,
with our lives segregated into age- specifi c silos: During the fi rst third we learn, during the second third we produce, and the last third we presumably spend on leisure. Consider, instead, how it would look if we tore down the silos and integrated the activities.
For example, let’s begin to think of learning and working as a lifelong challenge instead of something that ends when you retire.
What if the wonderfully empowering feeling of being productive can be experienced by children early in life, and if they know from fi rst grade that education will be an expected part of their entire lives? What if the second, traditionally productive silo is braided with leisure and education? And seniors, with twenty or more productive years left, can enjoy leisure time while remaining in the workforce in some form and attending to education if for no other reason than to challenge their minds? Envisioned this way, longevity becomes like a symphony with echoes of different times recurring with slight modifi cations, as in music, across the life arc.
Except that we don’t have the sheet music to this new symphony.
We— today’s boomers and seniors— are the pioneer generations,
the ones who need to compose together a template for how to maximize the potential of this amazing gift of time, so as to become whole, fully realized people over the longer life arc.
In attempting to chart a course for myself into my sixties and beyond, I’ve found it helpful to view the symphony of my own life in three acts, or three major developmental stages: Act I, the fi rst three decades; Act II, the middle three decades; and Act III, the fi nal three decades (or however many more years one is granted).
As I searched for ways to understand the new realities of aging,
I discovered the arch and the staircase.
The Arch and the Staircase
Here you see two diagrams that I have had drawn, because they make visualizable two conceptions of human life that have come to mean a lot to me.
One diagram, the arch, represents a biological concept, taking us from childhood to a middle peak of maturity, followed by a decline into infi rmity.
The other, a staircase, shows our potential for upward progression toward wisdom, spiritual growth, learning— toward, in other words, consciousness and soul.
The vision behind these diagrams was developed by Rudolf Arnheim,
the late professor emeritus of the psychology of art at Harvard
University, and for me they are clear metaphors for ways we can choose to view aging. Our youth- obsessed culture encourages us to focus on the arch—age as physical decline— more than on the stairway— age as potential for continued development and ascent. But it is the stairway that points to late life’s promise, even in the face of physical decline. Perhaps it should be a spiral staircase! Because the wisdom,
balance, refl ection, and compassion that this upward movement represents don’t just come to us in one linear ascension; they circle around us, beckoning us to keep climbing, to keep looking both back and ahead.
Rehearsing the Future
Throughout my life, whenever I was confronted by something I
feared, I tried to make it my best friend, stare it in the face, and get to know its ins and outs. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “You gain strength, courage, and confi dence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” I have found this to be true.
This is how I discovered that knowledge about what lies ahead can empower me, help me conquer my fears, take the wind out of the sails of my anxiety. Know thine enemy! Remember Rumpelstiltskin,
the evil dwarf in the Grimms’ fairy tale? He was destroyed once the miller’s daughter learned his name and called it out. When we name our fears, bring them out into the open, and examine them in the light, they weaken and wither.
So, one of the ways I have tried to overcome my fears of aging involved rehearsing for it. In fact, I started doing this in Act II. I
believe that this rehearsal for the future (along with doing a life review of the past) is part of why I have been able— so far— to live
Act III with relative equanimity.
Being with my father when he was in his late seventies and in decline due to heart problems was what began to shatter any childhood illusions I’d had of immortality. I was in my mid- forties, and it hit me that with him gone, I would be the oldest one left in the family and, before too long, next at the turnstile. I realized then that it was not so much the idea of death itself that frightened me as it was being faced with regrets, the “what if”s and the “if only”s when there is no time left to do anything about them. I didn’t want to arrive at the end of the Third Act and discover too late all that I had not done.
I began to feel the need to project myself into the future, to visualize who I wanted to be and what regrets I might have that I
would need to address before I got too old. I wanted to understand as much as possible what cards age would deal me; what I could realistically expect of myself physically; how much of aging was negotiable; and what I needed to do to intervene on my own behalf with what appeared to be a downward slope.
The birth of my two children had taught me the importance of knowledge and preparation. The fi rst birth had been a terrifying,
lonely experience; I went through it unprepared and unrehearsed,
swept along passively in a sea of pain. The second birth was quite the opposite. My husband and I worked with a birth educator in the months leading up to my due date, so that I was able to visualize what would happen and know what to do. The physical ordeal was no less grueling, the process no faster, but the experience itself was transformed. With knowledge and rehearsal, I found it easier to ride atop the sequence of events rather than be totally submerged by the pain.
I brought what I’d learned from childbirth to my experience facing late midlife. As I said, I was scared back then— it is hard to let go of children, of the success that came with youth, of old identities when new ones aren’t yet clearly defi ned. I felt I could choose whether to be blindly propelled into later life, in denial with my eyes wide shut, or I could take charge and seek out what I needed to know in order to make informed decisions in the many changing areas of my life. That’s why, in 1984, at age forty- six, before I’d even had my fi rst hot fl ash, I wrote Women Coming of Age, with Mignon
McCarthy, about what women can expect, physically, as they age,
and what parts of aging are negotiable. It was a way to force myself to confront and rehearse the future. I was shocked to discover how little research had been devoted to women’s health. Most medical studies I found had been done on men. I’m happy to say this has started to change.
At forty- six, I began to envision the old woman I wished to be,
and I described her in that book:
I see an old woman walking briskly, out- of- doors, in every season. She’s feisty. She’s not afraid of being alone. Her face is lined and full of life. There’s a ruddy fl ush to her cheeks and a bright curious look in her eye because she’s still learning.
Her husband often walks with her. They laugh a lot. She likes to be with young people and she’s a good listener. Her grandchildren love to tell her stories and to hear hers because she’s got some really good ones that contain sweet, hidden lessons about life. She has a conscious set of values and the knack to make them compelling to her young friends.
This is an example of rehearsing the future . . . good to do at any age!
I’m glad I wrote it down, because it’s fun for me to read my forty- six- year- old vision of my senior self, almost thirty years later, as a reality check to see how well I’m doing. Some days, I actually think
I’m doing pretty well. I’m still feisty, and my solitude (which I cherish)
doesn’t feel like loneliness. Humor has defi nitely come to the fore. I’m no longer married, but I do walk together with my— what to call the man I am with when I’m seventy- two and unmarried?
“Boyfriend” sounds too juvenile, don’t you think? So then, what?
“Lover?” That seems too in- your- face. I think I’ll go with “honey.”
Anyway, my honey and I walk together, we laugh a lot, and we try to swing- dance for fi fteen or twenty minutes every night— when we can. I feel I may have fi nally conquered my diffi culties with intimacy.
(Or maybe I just found a man who isn’t scared of it!)
Gerontologists such as Bernice Neugarten have learned from their studies of the aged that traumatic events— widowhood,
menopause, loss of a job, even imminent death— are not experienced as traumas “if they were anticipated and, in effect, rehearsed as part of the life cycle.”
Betty Friedan, in her book The Fountain of Age, wrote, “The fi nding emerges that the difference between knowing and planning,
and not knowing what to expect (or denial of change because of false expectations) can be the crucial factor between moving on to new growth in the last third of life, or succumbing to stagnation,
pathology, and despair.”
With the help of many friends of all ages, as well as gerontologists,
sexologists, urologists, biologists, psychologists, experts in cognitive research and health care, and a physicist or two, I have written this book. Even though I was already in my own Act III,
doing this has been a form of rehearsal— for myself and for you, the reader. I wanted to be prepared and learn all I could. I wanted to be able to say to myself and to you, “Let’s make the most of the years that take us from midlife to the end, and here’s how!”
I do not want to romanticize the process of aging. Obviously,
there is no guarantee that this will be a time of growth and fruition.
There are negatives to any stage of life, including potentially serious issues of mental and physical health. I cannot address all these things within the scope of this book. As we know, some of how life unfolds is a matter of luck. Some of it—about one- third, actually—
is genetic and beyond our control. The good news is that this means that for a lot of it, maybe two- thirds of the life arc, we can do something about how well we do.
This book is for those of us who, like me, believe that luck is opportunity meeting preparation; that with preparation and knowledge,
with information and refl ection, we can try to raise the odds of being lucky, and of making our last three decades— our Third
Acts— the most peaceful, generous, loving, sensual, transcendent time of all; and that planning for it, especially during one’s middle years, can help make this so.
Arnheim’s staircase made me realize how important it can be to see life as an interplay between one’s beginning, middle, and end. I
found out that if we understand more deeply what Act I and Act II
are (or were) about, who we are (or were becoming) during those foundational years, what dreams are still to be realized and which regrets addressed, then we can see Act III as a coming to fruition,
rather than simply a period of marking time, or the absence of youth. We can understand it not as the far side of the arch— as the decline after the peak— but as a stage of development in its own terms.
We can experience it as part of the staircase— with its own challenges and joys, pitfalls and rewards, a stage as evolving and as satisfying and different from midlife or youth as adolescence is from childhood.
In 1996, Erik and Joan Erikson wrote, in The Life Cycle Completed,
“Lacking a culturally viable ideal of old age, our civilization does not really harbor a concept of the whole of life.”4 The old ways of thinking about age, the fears of losing our youth and facing our own mortality, have kept us from seeing Act III as a vital, inte-
grated part of our overall story, the potential- fi lled culmination of the fi rst two acts. This old thinking is even more tragic now, in light of the extension of the life span. It can rob us of wholeness, and it can rob society of what we each, in our ripeness, have to offer.
Those of us now entering our Third Acts are, on the whole,
physically stronger and healthier than ever before. There is every likelihood that, if we work at it individually and collectively, we can develop a new “culturally viable ideal of old age” and see our lives as a series of stages that build one upon the other. Our doing so will not be just for us; it will represent a major cultural shift for the world around us and will help younger generations reconceive of their own life spans.
I have been inspired and encouraged by what I have learned while writing this book. I hope reading it will do the same for you.
And so let’s begin.
Meet the Author
Jane Fonda is an Oscar- and Emmy-winning actress and highly successful producer. She revolutionized the fitness industry with the Jane Fonda Workout in 1982 and has sold more than seventeen million copies of her fitness-focused books, videos, and recordings. She is involved with several causes and is the founder of both the Georgia Campaign for Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention and the Jane Fonda Center at Emory University. She is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller My Life So Far, and she received a Tony nomination in 2009 for her role in 33 Variations. She lives in Los Angeles.
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She was outspoken about the Viet Nam war and she admits that she went too far. She was correct about the war being wrong for America, wrong for Viet Nam, and wrong for the world. The courageous men and women who served are to be honored, but the revisionsits should not criticize those who told the truth about a tragic mistake in foreign policy that cost more than 55,000 Americans their lives. Jane Fonda is a brilliant, thoughtful, skilled writer. Her books are well written and worth the investment of time and a few dollars required to find out they can benefit the reader. If you don't want to support Ms. Fonda, read a library copy. You'll probably buy your own copy afterward.
This is certainly not the platform to be ranting about politcal views; why not write your own book if you have such strong opinions; we will then see how many stars you receive. REVIEW: Again, 5 STARS to a woman & author intrepid enough to follow through LIVING HER LIFE MINDFULLY & sharing what she has learned with those who care to live a long, healthy lifestyle. Well worth it. THANKS JANE!
Correct me if I am wrong. America is the land of freedom. I respect every man and woman who fought in Vietnam; however, this space is reserved for book reviews. This book is insightful. It is well written. If your agenda is to prevent someone from stating his/her view regarding the war, find a different forum. I applaud Ms. Fonda for a job well done. Anonymous
Jane Fonda is an amazing writer. I loved this book and recommended it to others.
Jane Fonda had the guts to speak her mind politically at a time when that was not a popular thing to do. I plan to buy her book and I exercise with her tapes almost daily. Go Jane!
I am only half way through the book but am so inspired to get my health back on track and Jane breaks it all down to where it is easy to really understand about diet and why and why not to take supplements. I am motivated to do more walking and have noticed already that I have more energy and can walk longer at a time. I might mention I am 75 years young and feeling so much better by just moving it off the couch and away from the TV. This is a very well written book and when I am finished it is going to my granddaughter for her to get on track too. Thanks Jane
I understand the veterans that get upset to a point, but I believe it is time to let it go. When your young and naive and get caught up in the passion of what you believe in, it is easy to make bad decisions that you later regret. We have all done things that we are ashamed of and may have even brought shame on ourselves or our parents for having done them. I am a proud American and I support our troops no matter what, even when I don't agree with the decisions that my country makes. It is wrong to ask people to boycott B & N, they publish many different kinds of books, many of which I am sure are objectionable to someone. You should read her book, it is worth reading.
Apparently you Vietnam Vets can't read either. This space is for book reviews. Not your political agenda.
I am an RN who is now 66 and still working and running marathons and who keeps up on aging and maintaining the best possible health...for me and my patients. I have always liked Jane Fonda as an actress, exerciser and writer, but didn't expect so much good information from this book. She has done the interviews and research, interjecting experience from her own life, making a very readable and informative book. I thought that I was totally informed on all aging related subjects, but I learned more from this book. Anyone, male or female who is getting older HAS to have this information!
Jane gives her perspective on aging~ good things to think about for "your 3rd act" as she refers to the 60's +
I've followed Jane Fonda and her "life insights" since the early days of "Feel the burn". The take away from "PRIME TIME", has been equally meaningful, insightful, and surprisingly relevant to me on more than one level ! I appreciate her sharing, as she is someone I have admired and believed in throughout...and having written these experiences for all to learn from will help me Soooo much in my OWN Act III. Great thanks, and I highly recommend!!!
Give me a freaking break! Fine! We heard your message! So give it up! THIS is for book reviews. I WILL buy this book because those who actually read the book loved it! As Christians, none of us are perfect. Let God judge her. Noe shut it!!!
The 3rd Act bigger and better!
I almost read the entire book in one seating. Straightforward and well written. Jane at her best.
Read the book for what it stand for she had wonderfully wrote it with great care. This book would be good for all ages. She has great information it this book on ageing. Thanks Jane for opening my eyes.
Great book to read I've love her since her first movie Barefoot in the Park, I have watched some of her exercise shows.
I didn't know Jane Fonda was in charge of the US troops that were sent to VietNam..if you righteous people don't forgive, then you will never be forgiven.