Private and Personal: Questions and Answers for Girls Only

Private and Personal: Questions and Answers for Girls Only

by Carol Weston

I'm not popular and I don't get it because I do what all the cool girls do.

My best friend thinks she is fat...We think she might have an eating disorder.

My parents treat me like a baby.

My so-called best friend wrote me a letter and it really hurt my feelings.

My boyfriend really likes me but I don't like him that much anymore.

What's wrong with me? I


I'm not popular and I don't get it because I do what all the cool girls do.

My best friend thinks she is fat...We think she might have an eating disorder.

My parents treat me like a baby.

My so-called best friend wrote me a letter and it really hurt my feelings.

My boyfriend really likes me but I don't like him that much anymore.

What's wrong with me? I don't have a boyfriend!

I'm afraid I'm growing up too fast!

Thousands of girls just like you have written to Carol Weston for advice about their bodies, boyfriends, periods, pimples, friendships, family matters and more.

Editorial Reviews

You just cannot have enough good advice books for the always questioning, self-doubting pre-teen and young teenager. All the stuff that every girl wants to know, but assumes her friends already know and parents could not possibly know, is included in this book. The letters are mostly from middle school students who wonder and worry about everything. The kids who write think that everyone else is having a better time than they are and they want advice on how to do things to make themselves happy. The author, having many years of experience, answers in an inspirational, practical and insightful manner with a touch of humor. This book will make everyone's life just a little easier and perhaps more peaceful, if not completely happy. KLIATT Codes: J—Recommended for junior high school students. 2000, HarperTrophy, 345p, 21cm, 99-96353, $9.95. Ages 13 to 15. Reviewer: Sherri Forgash Ginsberg; Duke School for Children, Chapel Hill, NC, July 2000 (Vol. 34 No. 4)
School Library Journal
Gr 5-8-Weston has compiled questions and answers from 15 years worth of her "Help!" column in Girls' Life magazine. Though the "frequently-asked-questions" style can be dry and one-dimensional, the author creates an atmosphere of chatting with a close friend over cocoa. Issues such as nutrition, family problems, skin care, periods, worry and depression, friendships, and boyfriends are addressed in an easy, approachable style. The author writes to her audience for the purpose of encouragement, building self-esteem, and offering basic advice on growing up in our times. A solid, serviceable addition.-Kim Harris, Newman Riga Library, Churchville, NY Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.|

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HarperCollins Publishers
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5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.82(d)
Age Range:
10 - 18 Years

Read an Excerpt


Everyone says to be yourself, but that can be hard because you're still figuring out who you are. Do you think about what you enjoy doing, what you're good at, why you hang out with the people you hang out with? How are you like and unlike your friends? When I moved in the middle of sixth grade, I felt more self-conscious than self-confident, and I wanted to blend in and be accepted. I've gotten bolder as I've gotten older, and now instead of just fitting in, I'm happy to stand out. I like working on goals that matter to me and caring about people who care about me. I like being who I am.

I hope you like being-and becoming-who you are.

Dear Carol,

Sometimes I want to be younger, sometimes I want to be older, and the rest of the time I feel caught between both worlds. I can't tell anyone because I don't have the courage.


Dear Confused, it took courage to tell me. And I'm here to tell you that feeling confused is totally normalespecially now. Of course you want to do kid stuff. Of course you want to do teenage stuff. It's fun to do cartwheels and it's fun to slow dance. if you talk to a close friend, you may find that she understands just how you feel and has even felt the same way.

Dear Carol,

I have a strange problem. Sometimes I have a positive attitude about myself and feel great. Other times it's the exact opposite. I have a negative attitude and feel bad.


Dear Positive/Negative,

Sounds human to me. Everyone's confidence goes up and down. rib strengthen your selfesteem, do things that make you proud. Work to pull up grades, join activities tobuild skills and deepen friendships, volunteer for a cause, and find time to do what you do well-whether it's drawing, writing, or running races. Try to learn a lot about one subject, too, such as sea otters, shipwrecks, or Van Gogh. Becoming an expert in a field can help you feel on top of things.

Dear Carol,

I really need your help. I don't know who I am. Am I a tough girl dressed in block or a kind little girl?

Split Personalities Dear S.P.,

Nobody is 100 percent tough or 100 percent kind. Different people and situations bring out different sides of you. You're still changing and growing. Perhaps you're a mix of tough and kind and proud and modest and athletic and artistic and serious and fun. Nothing wrong with that!

Dear Carol,

I'm afraid I'm growing up too fast I feel bad for my mom because I am the youngest She treats me like a baby, and I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Growing Up

Dear Growing Up,

It can be bittersweet for parents to watch their little darlings outgrow childhood clothes, books, and games. But moms also feel proud of daughters and sons as they strike out on their own. In lucky families, children grow into adult friends.Just as your mom loved you as a baby, toddler, and little kid, she will love you as a young adult. And you'll never outgrow hugs and conversation.

Dear Carol,

I am 12 and I'm afraid to grow up. I just know I'll miss being a kid. I try my best to think how great it will be to be an adult, but one more year and it's all over.

Female Peter Pan

Dear FPP.,

What's all over? Childhood doesn't end abruptly the moment you turn 13 or get your period or have your first bra or date or kiss. Growing up is gradual. And you'll always be you. Enjoy being 12, but relax-your parents aren't about to kick you out of the nest or make you start buying and cooking all your food or buying and washing all your clothes. As for how great it is to be an adult, here are three things to look forward to: no homework, no tests, and you usually get to pick your roommate.

Dear Carol,I'm sort of a goody-goody. I get straight A's and have never really broken the rules. Lately I've been tempted to do wild things like dye my hair, pierce my body, or even steal and stuff. it's wrong, but I'm tired of being Miss Perfect.Miss Perfect

Meet the Author

Carol Weston is a writer and speaker. She is the author of For Girls Only, Private and Personal, and Girltalk (Fourth Edition) as well as four Melanie Martin novels for younger readers. She's also the "Dear Carol" advice columnist of Girls' Life. Parenting says "Carol Weston gets girls" and Newsweek calls her a "Teen Dear Abby." Of For Girls Only, USA Today wrote, "There are so many dumb advice books that it's a pleasure to find one that really works." Carol has been a guest on Today, Oprah, The View, and other shows and has spoken at many schools both as an author of novels for elementary school kids as well as an advice giver for middle and high school kids. A Phi Beta Kappa Yale graduate with an M.A. in Spanish, she can give a talk at your school in English or Spanish. She now lives in Manhattan with her husband, daughters, and feisty cat Mike.

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