Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage [NOOK Book]

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Dr. Laura Schlessinger reveals how to bring a marriage back from the brink of disaster.

Jumping off her million-copy bestseller The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlessinger exposes the sensitive and loving truths necessary to produce and sustain a wonderfully satisfying marriage. First and foremost, men and women need to understand and appreciate the uniqueness of masculinity and femininity. Both husband and wife have power in their relationship, and both need...

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Overview

Dr. Laura Schlessinger reveals how to bring a marriage back from the brink of disaster.

Jumping off her million-copy bestseller The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlessinger exposes the sensitive and loving truths necessary to produce and sustain a wonderfully satisfying marriage. First and foremost, men and women need to understand and appreciate the uniqueness of masculinity and femininity. Both husband and wife have power in their relationship, and both need to realize this to ensure for themselves the personal satisfaction they yearn for. Dr. Laura explores the best ways a couple can relate, caretake, and nurture each other, and how to rescue a troubled marriage that seems doomed to fail.

Using real-life examples from her call-in radio show, Dr. Laura focuses on the typical mistakes made by men and women in their relationships, and gives us real-life solutions for keeping our unions strong, loving, and lasting.

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This book is the proper follow-up to Dr. Laura's bestselling 2004 The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. In The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage, Dr. Schlessinger doles out healthy doses of her trademark wisdom about the respective roles of men and women in marital life. Her traditional stance on issues like divorce, sex, chores, and interfaith marriage might surprise, even offend some readers; but this award-winning call-in radio host will keep you interested.
Publishers Weekly
The bestselling author (The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands), columnist and talk show host does not deviate from her strong belief that women are largely responsible for happy marital unions, which should be their first priority. For Schlessinger, "feminism robbed women of their essence and their ability to find pure joy and happiness," but the fair sex can regain that by promoting a traditional relationship with their husbands. Many of Schlessinger's golden rules recall suggestions from previous books: avoid interfaith marriage, stay together for the sake of the children and never say no to a husband who wants sex. Never insist that a man wash his own dishes, either; both women and men should respect the division of labor and a woman's status as homemaker. Although Schlessinger acknowledges that men have a responsibility to communicate and recommends that they express gratitude to their wives for domestic attentions, she clearly delineates a successful marriage as one between a male financial provider and a female emotional caregiver. She includes a digression on the differences between the sexes and the masculine/feminine polarity. Though this latest guide will confirm Dr. Laura's retrograde views for many, devotees will continue to look to her for answers. (Jan.) Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
Library Journal
New York Times best-selling author Schlessinger-"Dr. Laura," as she's known on her radio show-is back with a follow-up to her The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Based largely on stories and surveys completed by listeners of past radio broadcasts, her latest book explores her ideas regarding what makes a healthy marriage. Schlessinger begins by explaining what masculinity and femininity are all about and assuring readers that "marriage is the best state for men and women." Using an easy-to-read, conversational format, she explores the expectations that women and men both bring to a marriage, as well as the benefits both sides experience, and she discusses key dos and don'ts for a healthy marriage. Above all, she asserts, successful marriages entail sacrifice and require both participants to put the needs of the other individual first in their lives. This title will no doubt be popular with followers of Schlessinger's broadcasts and is thus selectively recommended for public libraries.-Crystal Renfro, Georgia Inst. of Technology Lib. & Information Ctr., Atlanta Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061834042
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 10/13/2009
  • Sold by: HARPERCOLLINS
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 66,883
  • File size: 309 KB

Meet the Author

Dr. Laura Schlessinger, a licensed marriage and family therapist, is one of the most popular talk-show hosts in radio history and the only woman to win the prestigious Marconi Award for syndicated radio. She is the author of twelve New York Times bestsellers, writes a daily blog, and is a regular Newsmax columnist. She is heard daily on Sirius/XM Channel 155 live, and her program is streamed and podcast on drlaura.com. Dr. Schlessinger has her own YouTube Channel (YouTube.com/drlaura). She is also the skipper and driver of a racing sailboat program that won the 2010 international race from Newport Beach to Cabo San Lucas. She and her husband live in Southern California.

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The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage


By Laura C. Schlessinger

Harper Paperbacks

Copyright © 2008 Laura C. Schlessinger
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9780061142826

Chapter One

"Me Tarzan. You Jane."

The first and most obvious issue in approaching the glory and angst of marriage is to understand the fundamentals of the two people involved; one is a woman, the other is a man. And that is no small thing! Sometimes it must seem to frustrated spouses that each has more genetics in common with flies and daffodils than each other. Not so; but if one doesn't understand, admire, respect, and at times forgive, the nuances of the opposite sex, then the beauty and satisfaction that can arise from the uniting of man and woman in the most important covenant of marriage will not be discovered and enjoyed.

So much sociopolitical time and effort has been spent trying to eliminate the reality, subtlety, magic, and meaning of masculine and feminine, that men and women are afraid and hostile to acknowledge their own pleasure in being such and in yearning for the complementary gender in their spouse.

I remember some twenty-five years ago working with a middle-aged couple on their marital problems. Frankly it seemed as though they were hopeless, refusing to spend any time at all on their difficulties other than complaining and blaming each other for their unhappiness. I recall closing my eyes for a moment andjust listening. I could hear the hurt, loss, and need in their voices. Instead of trying to reconcile their "problems" I decided to get to the root of the plant and stop worrying first about the way the petals looked. I opened my eyes and interrupted their fight by saying, slowly, to each of them, "Sir, what do you do to make her feel like a woman?" and "Ma'am, what do you do to make him feel like a man?"

They both just stared at me, speechless. I insisted that they answer my question, despite their determination to get back into the fight. Finally she began to cry softly, and he looked deflated, when just seconds before, they were both energized, reddened with anger. We had some fifteen minutes left to the session, and they had nothing to say—to me or to each other.

Marriages are not business arrangements of coworkers or co-owners. Marriages are the joining of two minds, bodies, souls, spirits, hopes, dreams, needs, personalities, and different genders. Unisex clothing does not erase the fact that men and women are very different creatures, and that they are each at their best in enjoying life and love when they revel in those differences with awe and respect.

I did a number of surveys on my Web site (www.drlaura.com). The first had to do with men's and women's perceptions of the opposite sex. For all my questions about men/women, marriage/divorce, and so forth, I received thousands of responses, usually within an hour of my posting the questions! Presented here are, in no order, the most frequently mentioned answers. This first group of answers are from men, and they are about their perceptions and feelings about women in general. So you women need to read these with an open heart and mind, for in these answers are many of the solutions to your marital problems with your husbands. The second group of answers are from women, and they are also about women's perceptions and feelings about men in general. You men need to read those with the same open heart and mind, if you wish to move your marriage into a more satisfying place in your life.

Part A—Answers by Men

Question 1

What do you, as a man, most admire about women in general?

1. Social skills, nurturing nature, compassion, sensitivity, listening skills, focus on relationships and bonding (friends, family, community)
2. Physical softness, sexy, curvy, beautiful, and graceful bodies
3. They will sacrifice for family, the power of creation of new life, being mothers
4. Better at details (multitasking)
5. They take the rough, hard edges off this world, they bring feelings and emotions and a sense of intimacy to us logical guys
6. They can create a home out of any environment, adding aesthetics (color, grace, beauty) to life, they make a house into a sanctuary . . . a home, homemaking
7. The positive effect a good woman can have on her husband and family
8. In femininity there is gentle power over people

Paul, a listener, added: "What I admire the most among many things in women generally is the strength, inspiration, love, and support they give men. They are the balance that counterweights all the chaos, hard times, and heartache us men go through."

I believe that men yearn for their spiritual and psychological counterbalance to humanize and beautify life. I don't think it matters much to a man if his woman chooses to be an accountant or physician—as long as she is "his woman" and "a woman" to him. That understanding is lost to too many women today. Sadly it is all too typical for women to want to be seen by their men as the high-powered position they have at work, instead of as a woman, with those special attributes that are natural to her and yearned for by her man.

But the reality is that women today do not think of themselves in the context of helping "their man." Women today have been brainwashed into thinking that efforts in that direction are in the category of oppression, subservience, and catering to frail male egos. It is sad that this is the prevalent point of view, because interdependence is what ultimately feeds both the man and the woman what they truly need to be happy.

Generally when people lob the phrase "know your place," the understanding is that they are reminding someone of their subordinate position in a relationship or situation. I look at that quite differently. I believe that when a man knows that he actually has a place with his woman, and she with her man, they bring the best out in the other—and enjoy life more feeling purposeful, needed, wanted, and necessary.





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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 9, 2008

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    In our egocentric post-modern politically correct society, it is difficult to see the world from another person's perspective, especially that of the opposite sex. Dr Laura uses surveys from her website and excerpts of conversations from her radio show to help the sexes learn about one another. This is just the beginning...there is much wisdom in Dr Laura's advice that any married couple would do well to take to heart.

    5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 25, 2007

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    If only more people would read this book, it would save their marriages. Dr. Laura gives advice to males and females on how to treat their partners, how to solve conflicts, and how to balance work/marriage/family. Even if you think your marriage cannot be saved, read this and you will change your mind!

    4 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 16, 2013

    As a 52 year old masters degree educated executive I am buying D

    As a 52 year old masters degree educated executive I am buying Dr Laura’s the Care and Feeding of Marriage, Husbands and Women Power for my niece’s wedding gift. These books teach you to treat your husband as a man and not your girlfriend, and to use your feminine wiles instead of male directness to get along with him better. Typically men marry women because they are attracted to femininity. If he wanted a guy he’d be at the game, gym or a gay bar. Femininity works. Even at age 50 and 244 pounds, or dirty from the dog park or gym, men love me! In rebuke to those reviews that complain of women being exploited by being married to egotistical pigs, Dr Laura said that these books only apply to good husbands that women want to get along better with.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 21, 2011

    Dr. Laura's insight is profound!

    Dr.Laura examines the deepest thoughts and feelings each wishes the other knew, and provides practicle "let's fix this now" advise.

    No whining, griping or hiding; Her books are only for people who truly want to be happy together!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 6, 2010

    Very good!

    Enjoyable reading very useful information.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 22, 2009

    I Also Recommend:

    Does your relationship have issues?

    This book may or may not help. The problem is when we have a relationship issue we want our partner to change. Dr. Laura helps us look at ourselves and see what we need to do. It will offend some. She believes in the complementary nature of men and women. I did find a lot of helps in there. Unfortunately partner would not approve of it. If you both are wanting change, this definitely would help.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 9, 2007

    my gift to them

    you know what I just gave this book as a gift to three people they looked at me like a fool, but who cares. they may have wanted something materialistic those things parish in minutes to hours they could always go back to reflect to what was written in this book. I always say that everyone is their own chef and each has their own ingredient to make what they're putting together tastful and meaningful, but, people tell me that I'm not married or in relationship so how could I have an opinion. So, merry x-mas, happy b-day, anniversary, best wishes because this is what I'm giving thanks for the info

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 1, 2007

    the proper care&fedding of marriage

    the proper tool here is you and its always going to be you you can spend time flerting or you could get off your feet and get to work on your life and if you don't won't to do it well that's to bad i don't care if you have to spend your life killing your slef or not but in my case get up and do your work on the tool which is you!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 27, 2013

    terrible book

    Worst book ever. Testimonials added all the filler to make it the length of a book!

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  • Posted December 14, 2009

    IF you think the relationship problems are all her fault, this books is for you.

    Ladies, if you think you are the only one in the relationship that is selfish, this is the book for you. Men, if you think your relationship issue is all the girl's fault..again this is the book for you. Dr. Laura loves to minimize the importance of fullfilling women's needs..she equatees all of them as selfishness. Men's needs are important, however, so they are never selfish. The End.

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