Pursuing Peace: A Christian Guide to Handling Our Conflicts


Here is a manageable book on reconciliation that offers a practical, grace-based plan with a simple three-step model. Ultimately, it addresses various types of conflicted relationships so that peace might be established.

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Here is a manageable book on reconciliation that offers a practical, grace-based plan with a simple three-step model. Ultimately, it addresses various types of conflicted relationships so that peace might be established.

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“Interpersonal conflict is a misery maker, stirring up chaos and the fog of war. Robert Jones carefully walks down the narrow road that makes peace and stirs up joy. His presentation is judicious, wide-ranging, balanced, biblical, and full of grace. Every counselor needs to know these things. Every struggler willing to take the time will benefit—and we are all strugglers in these matters. Speed-reading not allowed! Pursuing Peace needs to be slowly absorbed and would make a marvelous twelve-week study.”
David Powlison, Executive Director, Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation

“Conflict comes in many shapes and sizes, so we need a variety of perspectives and insights into how to respond to it in biblically faithful ways. I am delighted that Robert Jones has brought his many years of pastoral and counseling experience to bear on this topic—providing a fresh perspective on how to approach conflict and estranged people in a grace-filled, gospel-centered way.”
Ken Sande, President, Peacemaker Ministries

“In a day when ‘us and them’ seems to be the default presumption with which our society confronts culture, politics, and religion, Robert Jones has provided us a scripturally sound and pragmatic path to follow to experience the peace for which most of us have a God-given desire. While the book may find itself in the syllabus of many Christian counseling classes, it is equally at home in the school of practical theology. Rich with biblical references and connected to practical application, Pursuing Peace will be helpful specifically for those dealing with issues of conflict in any arena of life, and generally for all who wish to gain a clearer understanding of how to interact with others in God-pleasing ways. With uncanny insights and sharp clarity, Dr. Jones addresses and then makes sense of normal, everyday conflicts and how they should be handled so that full resolution might be experienced. This book is indeed a helpful contribution to the culture of our day.”
Thom S. Rainer, President and CEO, LifeWay Christian Resources

“Robert Jones has written a most profitable and sound book in Pursuing Peace. Though I wish it were not needed in the church today, the fact is that the message and advice of this book are desperately needed even among believers. I urge all of God’s leaders in the household of faith not only to read this volume, but to discuss it as a guide for what to do the next time the peace of Christ’s church is disturbed. Such reading and discussion will save loads of grief and some future headaches, as well as possible loss of the joy of the Lord.”
Walter C. Kaiser Jr., President Emeritus and Distinguished Professor of Old Testament and Ethics, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary

“Conflicts in relationship are inevitable. However, they do not have to be destructive. Pursuing Peace is a faithful, biblical guide that shows us how we can actually grow and mature spiritually, and find grace and peace on the other side. This valuable resource will well serve the body of Christ.”
Daniel L. Akin, President, Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary

“Sinful human beings live in a broken and fallen world full of unwanted opportunities for painful and destructive conflict. Dr. Jones’s practical and biblical insights provide an excellent guide to navigate the realities of conflict in God-honoring and effective ways. This book is for everyone who struggles with the inevitable conflict that so deeply impacts our lives and relationships. Pursuing Peace promotes faith, hope, and love in the One who is the Prince of Peace. A must-read for every believer.”
Judy Dabler, Reconciliation Specialist and Founder, Live at Peace Ministries; coauthor, Peacemaking Women: Biblical Hope for Resolving Conflict

“Robert Jones gives us both a grand, God’s-eye view of conflict and a down-to-earth, practical roadmap for healing in our relationships. The big picture keeps us coming back to the gospel again and again for fresh grace and wisdom, and the practical guidance brings it all home to daily life. This book has helped me personally and will be a valuable resource to me as a pastor as I counsel others through conflicts with spouses, family members, and friends.”
Mike Wilkerson, author, Redemption: Freed by Jesus from the Idols We Worship and the Wounds We Carry

“You do not need to read this book if you never experience conflict or do not know anyone else that does. If, however, conflict is part of your experience—as it is for the rest of us—you must read this book. Dr. Jones’s words are anchored in the words of Scripture, rich in the graces of Christ, and full of practical wisdom. This book will serve as a reliable guide to anyone interested in pursuing relational peace.”
Heath Lambert, Executive Director, Association of Certified Biblical Counselors; Associate Professor of Biblical Counseling, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; author, The Biblical Counseling Movement after Adams

Pursuing Peace is an excellent guide for helping people biblically resolve conflict and is greatly needed in our world of inevitable conflict.”
Oletha Barnett, Conflict Resolution Director, Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship; Attorney at Law, DeSoto, Texas

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781433530135
  • Publisher: Crossway Books
  • Publication date: 7/31/2012
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 528,986
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Robert D. Jones (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) serves as a biblical counseling professor at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is a certified biblical counselor, a Christian conciliator, an adjunct instructor, and a church reconciliation trainer with Peacemaker Ministries. Jones is the author of Uprooting Anger and has written numerous ministry booklets and articles.

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Table of Contents

Preface 11

Acknowledgments 15

1 Finding Hope in the God of Peace 17

2 A God's-Eye View of Conflict 29

3 Keeping God Central 43

4 Getting to the Heart of Our Conflicts 57

5 Owning Our Sins before God Our Savior 74

6 Apologizing That Makes a Difference 90

7 Cultivating Grace Attitudes 106

8 To Forgive or Not to Forgive 122

9 Battling Bitterness by Grace 137

10 Redeeming the Art of Rebuke and Granting Forgiveness 151

11 Reconciliation in Action 167

12 When Nothing Works 182

Appendix A Forgiveness on Two Levels 196

Appendix B I Believe in the Forgiveness of Sins 199

General Index 201

Scripture Index 205

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  • Posted August 23, 2012

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    I think a book like this is needed

    Robert D. Jones is the assistant professor of biblical counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is the author of the Resources for Changing Lives booklets Forgiveness, Angry at God? and Bad Memories, and has written numerous articles and book reviews for the Journal of Biblical Counseling.

    His most recent book, Pursuing Peace; a Christian Guide to Handling our Conflicts offers practical techniques for biblical reconciliation all the while helping others to do the same.

    My seminary degree is actually in pastoral ministry, so my classes revolved around counseling, shepherding and performing funerals. While everyone else was learning how to write a sermon, I was learning how to craft a eulogy. Now that I am a pastor in the field I can tell you first hand how important a book like this is. Much of ministry is about dealing with people face to face and only a small portion of it revolves around giving the Sunday message.

    My mentor told me once that “people are people.” I use that phrase in just about all aspects of ministry, and so if you are a person who works close with people – chances are you are going to experience conflict. Our first reaction is probably to avoid conflict or push it off onto someone else. It’s something that scares us because it’s an aspect we are never prepared for.

    Robert Jones’ book is the perfect tool to help navigate those issues in a way that is organized and well supported. Believe it or not, there is a biblical way to deal with conflict and most often we don’t follow it too closely.

    Spoiler alert: a big part of it has to do with “love.”

    In chapter six, the author offers up a review of what it means to apologize, and I would argue that this is worth the entire value of the book right here. When was the last time you were taught how to say you’re sorry? So often apologizing is a write off that we throw out to the hurting as a cheap way to get out of real sympathy or authentic remorse.

    I think a book like this is needed in the world that seems to be slowly moving away from human interaction.

    I would reccomed this for anyone who is in a leadership position either in the secular world or in the ministry.

    Thank you to Crossway for providing this review copy and the opportunity to share my thoughts.

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