Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World

Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World

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by Christine Fonseca
     
 

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Being an introverted child is difficult, especially in an ever-increasingly noisy world. Often viewed as aloof, unmotivated or conceited, introverted children are deeply misunderstood by parents, educators and even their peers. That's where Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World comes in. Designed to provide parents with a

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Being an introverted child is difficult, especially in an ever-increasingly noisy world. Often viewed as aloof, unmotivated or conceited, introverted children are deeply misunderstood by parents, educators and even their peers. That's where Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World comes in. Designed to provide parents with a blueprint for not only understanding the nature of introversion, Quiet Kids provides specific strategies to teach their children how to thrive in a world that may not understand them. Presented in an easy-to-read, conversational style, the book uses real-world examples and stories from introverts and parents to show parents and educators how to help children develop resiliency and enhance the positive qualities of being an introvert. With specific strategies to address academic performance, bullying, and resiliency, Quiet Kids is a must read for anyone wishing to enhance the lives of introverted children.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
09/16/2013
Schools and our culture favor the extrovert, asserts YA author and school psychologist Fonseca (The Girl Guide), a self-identified introvert who conducts workshops on the subject. Society “cherishes extroversion,” she writes, but there is nothing wrong with introversion (which may affect as much as a quarter of the population), and it does not need to be “fixed.” According to Fonseca, the difference is neurological: the introvert’s brain utilizes the neurotransmitter acetylcholine, while the extrovert relies on dopamine. Introverts need solitude, time to process before answering a question (e.g., in class), and are unsettled by competitive environments. Fonseca focuses on the introvert’s strengths (creativity, curiosity, deep thinking) while helping parents and educators understand and answer the introverted child’s needs. In four parts, she addresses the introverted child’s hardwiring, life at home, at school, and at play. The chapters include “class notes” that specifically speak to teachers, with suggestions on how to make a classroom balanced for the quiet child, as well as the extrovert. Fonseca also addresses ways parents can help the introverted child at home, including relaxation techniques and methods of building resiliency and social skills. Extremely useful for educators and parents, this thoughtful text emphasizes the many gifts of quiet kids. (Oct.)
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"The author has researched her subject well, and draws on some of the voices of her interviewees in the book. The question and answer format that runs throughout the book makes it a very accessible read, while the Tips sections, particularly those for teachers, are invaluable. Above all, the advice is eminently sensible — while the author asks for understanding and the provision of space and calm for introverted children, she also recognises that "learning a few survival social skills can help introverts overcome the misperceptions."
The book provides fascinating insights and is an empowering read for those of us who have learned extroversion the hard way. If you have an introverted child, then read this book." - Dr. Helen Wright

"Extremely useful for educators and parents, this thoughtful text emphasizes the many gifts of quiet kids." - Publishers Weekly

"Having an introvert child myself I now understand better why he acts up at time and behaves in certain ways. I will be putting the tips learned in this book to teach him how to cope with the obstacles that he is facing better." - From Dominique's Desk

"This book handles the balance of celebrating what makes introverts who they are, while encouraging strategies for success with those who don't understand introverts. " - Motherhood Moment

"Presented in an easy-to-read, conversational style, [Quiet Kids] uses real-world examples and stories from introverts to show how to help children develop resiliency and enhance the positive qualities of being an introvert. " - Counseling Today

"Fonseca offers tactics to instruct children on how to flourish in an environment that may not comprehend them, and shows parents and teachers how to help kids acquire resiliency" - The Fresno Bee

"altimore's Child asked me to review Christine Fonseca's new book, "Quiet Kids," and after reading just a few pages, I already considered it a privilege to do so. I hope this remarkably informative book will encourage parents, teachers, and leaders in business to end their lopsided preference for extroverts and give the introverts among us the acceptance and respect that every person has a right to expect." - Baltimore's Child

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781618211552
Publisher:
Sourcebooks, Incorporated
Publication date:
10/01/2013
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
225
Sales rank:
353,721
File size:
2 MB

Meet the Author

Christine Fonseca is a school psychologist and award-winning author of nonfiction and teen novels dedicated to helping children and adults find their unique voice in the world, including the books "Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students," "The Girl Guide," and "Quiet Kids." When she isn't crafting new stories or working with student groups, she can be found sipping too many skinny vanilla lattes at her local coffee house.

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Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Finally, a book on introversion which specifically relates to children! Quiet Kids, Help your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World by Christine Fonseca, published by Prufrock Press Inc. in 2014, is 191 pages of useful information for anybody who wants to understand and guide an introverted child. The author, Christine Fonseca, is a school psychologist who has personal experience working with children who are gifted, introverted, emotionally intense, learning disabled or simply a typical teenager. She regularly holds workshops for both parents and children to address their many diverse needs. Christine’s research is thorough and a useful list of recommended resources is given in the book. However, it is her vast amount of real life experience working with children which she brings into the creation of this book is what makes it a must-read. Quiet Kids is a book that is long overdue. There have been many books written on the subject of introversion, such as The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., which help the reader to understand what introversion is, and what it is not. Quiet Kids goes further in specifically addressing the needs of introverted children. It provides practical guidance in helping introverted children become successful in school, at home, in social settings and in life. Parents of introverted children will benefit from reading this book. There are questionnaires, worksheets and tip sheets which will help to individualize a strategy in helping their child to succeed in an extroverted world. There are also very useful “class notes” which will help teachers to identify students in their classroom who are introverted and utilize creative teaching methods to aid in fostering success in school for this group of children. The strategies outlined in this book will help the introverted child to capitalize on his strengths. It will help parents to learn how to successfully interact with their introverted child to get him to open up in ways he might otherwise not, and to nurture their resiliency. Teachers will learn strategies to help these children maximize their educational growth and overcome obstacles they might have such as how to overcome perfectionism. Strategies for teachers to create the ideal learning environment are given. Parents can take these valuable ideas to their child’s teacher while acting as an advocate for their child. The worlds of our children have become highly charged competitive environments not only in organized sports but in academics as well. This book discusses how we can all keep a good perspective, self-reflect and manage the resulting stress. As a parent of an introverted child who is now a grown adult, I appreciate that Christine has pointed out the many strengths of the introverted temperament. I believe it is important that educators and society in general realize these strengths, especially in a world where, as Christine points out, educational systems are set up to function in groups and celebrate outgoing, charismatic individuals while ignoring the individual divergent thinkers who are often the creative innovators in our modern world and who form the strongest personal connection with others. The practical advice outlined in this book really hit home with me. The strategies suggested in the book which I had tried when my own child was growing up were the same strategies which I had found success with. Many of the suggested strategies that I had not used were ones that, in hindsight, I wish I had known about while raising my own child as I am certain they would have resulted in success. With the new Common Core State Standards being adopted in schools across the nation, parents and students are going to see an increase in collaboration and group work, as well as an increased focus on written and oral expression – all traits that extroverts thrive on. While I wish that I had this book to read a decade ago, its publication is very timely.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Quiet Kids is a must read for parents of an introverted child. My son is an introvert and I have often struggled to understand his perspective and figure out how to best support him. Quiet Kids not only provided me with information about introversion and  how it may manifest itself in my son, it also gave me a whole new perspective on my son's quiet characteristics. My whole view has changed, I see his introversion as a strength. I loved the tips on how to help others, particularly school staff understand and work more effectively with introverted children. I would highly recommend this book.
MichelleMcLean More than 1 year ago
I have a son who is an introvert and this book has answered just about every question I've ever had about him, what makes him tick, and how I can help him and interact with him. Being an introvert myself, this book also surprisingly helped me out personally as well. I found myself constantly thinking, "that's me! That's my son!" as I was reading. My main concerns with my son involve his performance at school and this book is full of wonderful suggestions on how I, as his parent, and his teachers can help him achieve success in school. If you have an introverted child, know one, or are an introvert yourself, you definitely need to read this book!