Raising a Self-Reliant Child: A Back-to-Basics Parenting Plan from Birth to Age 6 [NOOK Book]

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With this practical guide, parents can end daily power struggles with their preschoolers, toddlers, and infants and create more time for the family to spend on things that matter by encouraging early childhood independence skills.
 
We’ve all heard the news about helicopter parents and boomerang children—but how can parents safeguard against these trends when our children’s lives are increasingly scheduled and competitive? Pediatrician Dr....
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Raising a Self-Reliant Child: A Back-to-Basics Parenting Plan from Birth to Age 6

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Overview

With this practical guide, parents can end daily power struggles with their preschoolers, toddlers, and infants and create more time for the family to spend on things that matter by encouraging early childhood independence skills.
 
We’ve all heard the news about helicopter parents and boomerang children—but how can parents safeguard against these trends when our children’s lives are increasingly scheduled and competitive? Pediatrician Dr. Alanna Levine offers a commonsense parenting approach that avoids divisive strategies and helps parents find a balanced ground between overindulgence and strict control.
 
Raising a Self-Reliant Child focuses on teachable moments where parents can instill independence, such as sleep time, toilet training, mealtime, and playtime. With Dr. Levine’s practical strategies and techniques, young children learn to take responsibility for their daily routines: babies learn to sleep through the night, toddlers learn to nap without their parents stretched out alongside, and school-age children learn to dress themselves and make breakfast with little parental intervention.
 
Overprotection and micromanagement keep young children from the self-development that comes naturally from learning and doing on one’s own. And children who don’t learn independence skills at an appropriate age grow into adults who expect others to fix challenges and conflicts for them. Dr. Levine helps you break the cycle of daily power struggles so that you and your family will have more time to focus on the things that really matter.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Levine, an AAP spokesperson and pediatrician affiliated with Englewood Hospital and Medical Center in New Jersey and Mount Sinai Hospital in New York, focuses on how to set the groundwork for self-reliance and independence in the first six years of life. Pointing out the trend in helicopter parenting, Levine argues in favor of a more balanced approach, rejecting more extreme “fads” such as “free-range,” “Tiger Mother,” and “attachment” parenting. Addressing an array of topics, including sleeping, eating, pacifiers, potty training, and chores, Levine helps parents empower children to problem-solve, make good decisions, and learn from their mistakes. Parents, she maintains, are often too swift to come to the rescue, whether the child is crying in his crib, stuck at the top of a slide, or having trouble articulating a thought. Levine weaves in useful anecdotes from her own experiences as the mother of two (for example, her daughter learns to “make breakfast” from cereal and milk at age three). Her advice for teaching babies to sleep may be more difficult for some readers to embrace: crying “to extinction,” for instance, is the rather unfortunate description used for Marc Weissbluth’s sleep-training method, which begins at about six weeks. (Levine also gives a thumbs-up to the popular and less extreme Ferber method.) Her practical text will help parents overcome their hovering tendencies and help kids learn to confidently stand on their own two feet. (May)
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“Dr. Alanna Levine’s book is not only timely but also crucial for our 
children’s emotional health and well-being. Our ultimate parenting goal is to raise independent, well-adjusted kids who can someday live without us. Dr. Levine’s book will give parents the knowledge and tools to do so.”
—Michele Borba, educational psychologist, author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781607743514
  • Publisher: Ten Speed Press
  • Publication date: 5/7/2013
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 1,394,894
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

DR. ALANNA LEVINE is a national spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics, the world’s foremost pediatric organization. Dr. Levine has been featured on the TODAY show and Good Morning America, and lives in New York with her husband and two children.

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The Independence Principle

The Independence Principle is the antidote to such parenting fads. I apply it in my own home, and I’ve seen my patients’ parents reap immediate benefits when they try it. They’re amazed that, in just a couple of weeks, their babies sleep through the night; their toddlers nap without them stretched alongside; their school-age children dress themselves, make breakfast, do their homework, and even resolve disputes with little parental intervention. What’s more, their kids take pride in these achievements, delighting in saying, “Look, I did it all by myself.” What greater gift could you give your child than the joy of competence?
 
This book will explain the whys and, more importantly, the hows of instilling independence and self-reliance. The time to lay the groundwork for future accomplishment is right from the start, in the years from birth to age six, when children’s brains are getting organized. Brain-based research supports this fact and also affirms the value of instilling independence and, ultimately, self-reliance in your child.
 
In the 2011 book Welcome to Your Child’s Brain, neuroscientists Sandra Aamodt and Sam Wang review the latest research to create a fascinating portrait of the developing mind. In essence, many of our essential early learned tasks—facial and speech recognition, language acquisition, the ability to walk, and so on—are hard wired. They happen automatically as babies simply exist in their environment. Parental attention can help the process along, and I encourage parents to smile at their babies and talk to them in sweet voices, but it’s amazing how much occurs without intervention.
 
For example, newborns quickly show a preference for their native language and can distinguish it from other sounds, like the barking of the family dog. This discrimination occurs because genes map out basic brain connections, and the roads are filled in when the child interacts with his environment.
 
While the brain, more than parents, governs the language-learning process, the more parents talk and respond to a baby, the richer his brain maps become. Parents don’t impose language on a child but stimulate his development through verbal connection, which engages the brain’s natural language mechanisms.
 
The same applies to sleep. We all have internal clocks, referred to as circadian rhythms. When cued by light and darkness, these internal clocks time the release of hormones (the body’s messengers) that determine our cycles of hunger, fatigue, and alertness. In the womb, a baby’s circadian rhythms are regulated by his mother’s. But from birth, as any new parent can attest, that clock goes seemingly haywire and days and nights get confused. Newborns sleep up to sixteen hours per day, but, initially, seem to be awake more at night than during the day.
 
By around three months old, the child’s brain is primed for regulation, though not quite ready to embrace the night-and-day cycle. That’s when parents can make a difference. As with language, they can’t impose sleep, but if they’re alert to the onset of drowsiness, they can capitalize on the brain’s natural sleep mechanism by quickly putting the child to bed. Regular feeding times can make drowsy periods somewhat more predictable and help the infant brain sort out time patterns. Similarly, establishing a bedtime ritual can cue infants that each day is divided into intervals, filling in another brain map.7
 
The key is neither the Tiger Parent’s coercion nor the strict controls and schedules that Druckerman credits with civilizing French babies. As Aamodt and Wang wrote in the New York Times, “Fortunately for American parents, psychologists find that children can learn self-control without externally imposed pressure. . . . The key is to harness the child’s own drives for play, social interaction, and other rewards. Enjoyable activities elicit dopamine release to enhance learning, while reducing the secretion of stress hormones, which can impede learning and increase anxiety, sometimes for years.”8
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments  

Introduction    
  
The Self-Reliant Child: Instilling Independence from the Start  

Chapter 1: The Night Circus: Healthy Sleep Habits  

Chapter 2: The Comfort Zone: Self-Soothing Without Props  

Chapter 3: The Food Fight: Mealtime  

Chapter 4: The Potty Police: Toilet Training  

Chapter 5: Child’s Play: The Imagination Lab  

Chapter 6 : The Corrections: Self-Discipline and Parental Discipline  

Chapter 7: The Daily Drill: Tasks and Responsibilities  

Chapter 8: Bones of Contention: Conflicts with Siblings and Friends  

Chapter 9: Give and Take: Problem Solving and Decision Making  

Chapter 10: The Good Word: The Power of Appropriate 

Praise  

Notes  

About the Author  

Index
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