Real Moments

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Bestselling author and renowned relationships expert Barbara De Angelis offers you her profound insights and powerful techniques for creating more real moments of meaning with your mate, your children, your work, and yourself. Barbara takes you on an inner journey that will help you discover the peace and fulfillment you've been seeking. Real Moments is more than an uplifting...
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Overview

Bestselling author and renowned relationships expert Barbara De Angelis offers you her profound insights and powerful techniques for creating more real moments of meaning with your mate, your children, your work, and yourself. Barbara takes you on an inner journey that will help you discover the peace and fulfillment you've been seeking. Real Moments is more than an uplifting book--it is a powerful invitation to transform your life and a practical manual for nourishing your spirit.

Learn:

How to tap into your own source of spiritual power and wisdom.

How to find extraordinary miracles in each ordinary day.

How to find your life's work--and why it has nothing to do with your job.

How you and your partner can rekindle and deepen your commitment--moment by passionate moment.

How to find the gift that is inside each problem or crisis.

How to be happy right now...with what you have and who you are.

From the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Are You the One for Me? comes a new book which focuses on capturing the moments that make life happy and complete. Instead of spending our time and energy recovering from the past or protecting ourselves from the future, De Angelis shows why and how we should grab every moment and live it completely.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Is true happiness achived by having a compatible marriage, the perfect job or owning the right house? Not necessarily, according to DeAngelis (How to Make Love All the Time). Happiness is a skill. That's why we need ``real moments''-with our mates, our children and by ourselves-times in which we live fully in the present. A real moment could be enjoying sex or smelling grass after a rain. It could even occur during hard times, as when we receive comforting words from an unexpected source. DeAngelis also warns against defining ourselves by our jobs; even if we love our work, we can take a job too seriously and miss opportunities for real moments. While readers may want to skip the second chapter, ``The Crisis of Spirit in America,'' overall this is an inspiring book. (Oct.)
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The best-selling author of How To Make Love All the Time (LJ 6/1/87), among other titles, DeAngelis here examines the relationship we have with life and our search for inner peace. In this mix of philosophy and psychology, she argues that American society suffers from posttraumatic stress syndrome and that its members have anesthetized themselves to life. If Americans can learn to feel pain and pleasure and not rush through life, they will ultimately be happier with themselves and their surroundings. Although DeAngelis's message is not new, it is presented in the highly accessible vocabulary of the 1990s. As a result, more sophisticated readers may sometimes find the work cloying. Nevertheless, DeAngelis is sincere and heartfelt. Her work is at its worst harmless and at its best capable of leading readers to revelations about their lives. Because DeAngelis is a popular talk show guest, all public libraries should expect demand.-January Adams, ODSI Research Lib., Raritan, N.J.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780385310680
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 9/1/1994
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 272
  • Product dimensions: 5.86 (w) x 8.60 (h) x 1.17 (d)

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Chapter 1: YOUR QUEST FOR HAPPINESS

First I was dying to finish high school and start college.
And then I was dying to finish college and start working.
And then I was dying to marry and have children.
And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough for
school so I could return to work.
And then I was dying to retire.
And now, I am dying...and suddenly I realize I forgot to live."

--ANONYMOUS


This is a book about the real moments that make life matter, and how to have more of them. It is about experiencing fulfillment and meaning in your life now, not when you have more money, or find the right partner, or achieve your perfect weight, but in this and every moment. It is about how to rediscover real moments with your mate and your children, real moments with your work and your play, and, most of all, real moments with yourself.

All of my previous books have been about the relationships men and women have with one another. Real Moments is about the relationship we have with the process of living itself, and the peace many of us have been searching for, whether we're aware of it or not.

Look honestly at your own life. Are your days and nights spent doing things that are meaningful and make you smile? Or do you spend the majority of your time doing things that give you back the smallest percentage of joy? When your life is over, will you wish you had spent your time differently? If you had only one month to live, what would you change?

Look deeply into your own heart. Are you happy? Is there something you think needs to happen before you can be happy? Are you sure that if that something occurred,you would truly be happy then? Would it be enough?

Look closely at the values of your spirit. If you suddenly died tomorrow, and you looked back on your life, what moments would you cherish the most? What would you miss the most about your time on earth?

In writing this book, I offer you an opportunity to begin finding the answers to these questions for yourself as I have been doing for myself. I believe that asking ourselves these questions is very important. It forces us to stop living our lives mechanically and unconsciously, and demands that we pay attention.
There's a famous Zen story about the student who approaches his Master and asks him to share some words of wisdom about life. The Master looks intently at the anxious disciple for a moment, and then writes one word with his brush: "Attention." The disciple is confused, and nervously asks the Master to elaborate and the Master writes again: "Attention." By this time, the young student is beside himself with frustration--he can't figure out what his teacher is trying to tell him. And once more the Master patiently writes: ATTENTION ...ATTENTION ...ATTENTION

Paying, attention to the moments in your life as
they unfold is what having real moments means,
moments when you are fully present, fully
feeling, fully alive.

Sometimes they will be moments of great happiness. Sometimes they will be moments of profound sorrow. But always, when you pay attention to where you are and what is going on, right now, you will experience a moment that has meaning, a moment that matters, and that is what I call a real moment.



"I find the question 'WHY ARE WE HERE?' typically human. I'd suggest 'ARE WE HERE?' would be the more logical choice..."
--LEONARD NIMOY, Mr. Spock in Star Trek

Are you fully here, right now, reading this sentence? Or are you reading and thinking about the work you should be doing, or what you're going to have for dinner? Are you kind of reading, but also worrying about the argument you had with your lover last night, or whether the guy you just met will call and ask you out? Most of us are not very good at giving all of our attention to whatever activity we're involved in, at surrendering fully to the experience of the moment. Having real moments is difficult when we spend so much time NOT being in the present, for part of what makes a real moment so powerful, so fulfilling, is that you are experiencing it one hundred percent.

Another term for this is "mindfulness." Mindfulness is a concept that is an integral part of many Eastern spiritual traditions, particularly Buddhism. Simply put, it means to pay complete attention to whatever you're doing, to allow your "mind to befall" of the experience.

Mindfulness delivers you fully into the moment. It can turn an ordinary experience like taking a walk, putting your child to bed, holding your partner close, or even driving your car into a real moment. When you are being mindful, your intention is to fully experience where you are and what you are doing, rather than to have what you're doing now be another passing, forgettable moment which comes after what you just did, and before what you're about to do. Later in this book I'll share some tools for living more mindfully

The opposite of mindfulness is mindlessness, to do things without thinking, without feeling, automatically and unconsciously. I believe that it is our mindlessness that causes much of our suffering and the suffering of those around us:

* Mindlessness is what allows you to stay in a relationship that isn't nourishing you, and may even be harming you, and not notice how miserable you are.

* Mindlessness is what allows you to ignore messages your body is trying to give you when it has chronic indigestion or heartburn, and, instead, to pop an antacid into your mouth, until one day years later the doctor diagnoses you with a serious disease.

* Mindlessness is what allows you to smoke, or drink, or do drugs, and not notice, in spite of your chronic cough, your emotional inconsistency, or your mental ups and downs, that you are slowly killing yourself and hurting the people you love.

* Mindlessness is what allows you to know that there is injustice and cruelty occurring in the world around you, but not to speak out against it or do anything to stop it.

Mindlessness is an unhealthy mental habit many of us suffer from too much of the time. When we live our lives mindlessly, we miss all of the real moments. Psychology professor Ellen Langer, who writes about mindfulness, says people who live and act mindlessly run the risk of "being trapped in unlived lives." We move through our days, months, and years, focusing not on where we are, but on where we are going, and then wonder why we never feel we arrive anywhere that brings us lasting fulfillment.
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