Real Rape, Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male Partners

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Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power and control, not about being out of control. There is no excuse for marital violence ever."
The aims of the book are changing the rape culture and helping survivors. ...
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Overview

Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power and control, not about being out of control. There is no excuse for marital violence ever."
The aims of the book are changing the rape culture and helping survivors. Chapters cover identifying rape in marriage, women at risk, staying with a partner who has raped you, sexuality after partner rape, a safety plan, and numerous other issues related to partner rape.
As American author Monika Ostroff says, "Real Rape, Real Pain is the compassionate, loving friend that reaches into the darkness to the sufferer of partner rape, offering hope and help for a healthy life, free from violence. A wise teacher, this book will inform everyone from professionals working in the field to family members of women being victimized to politicians who are empowered to make the necessary changes to ensure safety on all our behalves. This book is a beacon of light that illuminates a dark, misunderstood yet incredibly common phenomenon of violence. It is a must-read for every survivor, family member,
clinician, and politician!"
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Editorial Reviews

Women Against Rape (UK)
This book, by and for survivors, will help readers understand the trauma of an attack by an intimate, a partner, and the obstacles women face in winning justice which is so crucial for the healing process. It reassures survivors that they are not alone in what they have suffered, nor in their determination to rebuild their lives.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781876462437
  • Publisher: Hybrid Publishers
  • Publication date: 9/1/2006
  • Pages: 364
  • Product dimensions: 6.14 (w) x 9.21 (h) x 0.75 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Preface About Us: A Common Journey
Dedication
Chapter 1 Our Primary Aim: Healing
Chapter 2 Another Aim: Identifying Sexual Assaults
Chapter 3 Another Aim: Confronting Society's Denial
Chapter 4 Stereotypes of Women Raped by a Partner
Chapter 5 Women at Risk
Chapter 6 Men Who Rape their Partners
Chapter 7 Relationships in Which Sexual Assault Happens
Chapter 8 Not Dealing With the Sexual Violence
Chapter 9 The Wounds
Chapter 10 Partner Rape and Trauma
Chapter 11 Staying with a Partner who has Raped You
Chapter 12 Leaving and Safety
Chapter 13 Secondary Wounding: Surviving and Healing From It
Chapter 14 To Pursue Justice?
Chapter 15 Healing: Naming the Wound
Chapter 16 Healing and Your Feelings
Chapter 17 More Healing Steps: Making Choices
Chapter 18 Relationships After Partner Rape
Chapter 19 Sexuality After Partner Rape
Chapter 20 For Supporters
Chapter 21 Breaking Down the Bedroom Doors
Appendix 1 About the Women
Appendix 2 If You are Sexually Assaulted
Appendix 3 Suggested Reading and Online Resources
Appendix 4 A Safety Plan
Appendix 5 About Restraining Orders
Appendix 6 End Notes
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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 19, 2008

    Rarely is partner rape so compassionately discussed.

    As a survivor of partner rape, I have never found a book that addresses this horrible crime so well. Most books are about acquaintance rape or stranger rape. This one addresses partner rape and other forms of domestic violence that often goes along with it. It has helped me more than I could ever describe.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 13, 2006

    An understanding and Informative book

    This book gives us account of real lfe stories of survivors of terrible trauma. They have displayed great courage in being frank and open about their horrific expereinces - this will assist other women to realise they are not alone. Domestic Violence, Rape and Intimate Partner Abuse issues need to be addressed. This book is another tool in a toolkit for survivors. Resouces and information up-to-date and well researched

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 20, 2006

    At last! A book that tells it like it is.

    Real Rape, Real Pain is a must have for any individual working in the allied health professions or ministry. Easteal and McOrmond-Plummer have blended the voices of real women on the journey of healing after being raped by their male partners. Between the stories which enable the reader to see how the stages of recovery occur differently with each survivor. The last three chapters are a pure joy to read. The authors discuss reclaiming healthy sexuality, self-esteem and physical intimacy. Easteal and McOrmond-Plummer provide tips for secondary survivors, how to educate children and call churches to speak out against rape for what rape is: a sexual crime against an individual. This book is a must have for both a woman who is struggling with the aftermath of rape by her partner and those individuals who are courageous enough to sit with the woman on her journey.

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