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Real Rape, Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male Partners
     

Real Rape, Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male Partners

by P. Easteal, Patricia Weiser Easteal, L. McOrmond-Plummer, Louise McOrmond-Plummer
 
Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power and control, not about being out of control. There is no

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Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power and control, not about being out of control. There is no excuse for marital violence ever."
The aims of the book are changing the rape culture and helping survivors. Chapters cover identifying rape in marriage, women at risk, staying with a partner who has raped you, sexuality after partner rape, a safety plan, and numerous other issues related to partner rape.
As American author Monika Ostroff says, "Real Rape, Real Pain is the compassionate, loving friend that reaches into the darkness to the sufferer of partner rape, offering hope and help for a healthy life, free from violence. A wise teacher, this book will inform everyone from professionals working in the field to family members of women being victimized to politicians who are empowered to make the necessary changes to ensure safety on all our behalves. This book is a beacon of light that illuminates a dark, misunderstood yet incredibly common phenomenon of violence. It is a must-read for every survivor, family member,
clinician, and politician!"

Editorial Reviews

Women Against Rape (UK)
This book, by and for survivors, will help readers understand the trauma of an attack by an intimate, a partner, and the obstacles women face in winning justice which is so crucial for the healing process. It reassures survivors that they are not alone in what they have suffered, nor in their determination to rebuild their lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781876462437
Publisher:
Hybrid Publishers
Publication date:
09/01/2006
Pages:
364
Sales rank:
499,889
Product dimensions:
6.14(w) x 9.21(h) x 0.75(d)

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Dr. Emma Williamson, Domestic Violence Information Manager, Women's Aid (UK), 2006
This was one of the most difficult books I have ever had to read - but that is the point. Marital rape is domestic violence, but even within the domestic violence sector we seldom talk about it or call it by its name. The authors of this excellent book, Patricia Easteal and Louise McOrmond-Plummer, admirably achieve what they set out to. Based on the real life testimonies of women raped and sexually assaulted by their male partners this book names rape as central to the domestic violence discourse and in the process breaks down the unhelpful differentiation between sexual and domestic violence. Just seeing the words marital rape within women's testimonies of violence and abuse really brings home the reality that for many women rape is part of their experience of domestic violence.

The authors acknowledge from page one that the content of this book might be distressing for women and seek throughout to offer practical guidance and support for women who identify with the experiences being discussed.

The book starts with the 3 aims of healing; identifying sexual assaults; and confronting society's denial. It includes chapters examining stereotypes; relationships in which marital rape happens; the wounds; not dealing with it; staying with a partner who has raped; secondary wounding; partner rape and trauma; leaving and safety; whether to pursue justice; various chapters on healing; and sexuality after marital rape. This book addresses itself primarily to women who have experienced marital rape and domestic violence, but also includes a chapter for their supporters.

The final chapter of this book is called breaking down the bedroom door, and that is exactly what this book aims and succeeds in doing. By the time I reached the end of the book rape ceased to be something extreme, strange, other or different. Rape became something real that is directly central to women's experiences of domestic violence. Something we so often forget or choose not to see because it is difficult to deal with. This is a book written by women for women. It is an excellent training tool for domestic violence workers to begin to understand the relationship between rape and domestic violence and invaluable to women dealing with rape as part of their experiences. The chapters which address trauma make this a good book for counsellors, therapists, and other professionals whose work involves dealing with any form of gendered violence.

This book is practical, powerful, and above all, has the power to change, for the better, many women's lives. I would highly recommend this book.

Amy Norman
A must-have resource written by women who understand the complexities associated with healing from relationship abuse. Containing valuable advice and personal accounts from those who have been therein an easy-to-read format, this book is well overdue.
—(Amy Norman, author of Dancing with the Devil: A Memoir)
Monika Ostroff
Real Rape, Real Pain is the compassionate friend that reaches into the darkness to the sufferer of partner rape, offering hope and help for a life free from violence. ... This book is a beacon of light that illuminates a misunderstood yet incredibly common phenomenon of violence.
—(Monika Ostroff, co-author of Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide to Recovery)
Dr. Emma Williamson
Dr. Emma Williamson, Domestic Violence Information Manager, Women's Aid (UK), 2006
This was one of the most difficult books I have ever had to read - but that is the point. Marital rape is domestic violence, but even within the domestic violence sector we seldom talk about it or call it by its name. The authors of this excellent book, Patricia Easteal and Louise McOrmond-Plummer, admirably achieve what they set out to. Based on the real life testimonies of women raped and sexually assaulted by their male partners this book names rape as central to the domestic violence discourse and in the process breaks down the unhelpful differentiation between sexual and domestic violence. Just seeing the words marital rape within women's testimonies of violence and abuse really brings home the reality that for many women rape is part of their experience of domestic violence.

The authors acknowledge from page one that the content of this book might be distressing for women and seek throughout to offer practical guidance and support for women who identify with the experiences being discussed.

The book starts with the 3 aims of healing; identifying sexual assaults; and confronting society's denial. It includes chapters examining stereotypes; relationships in which marital rape happens; the wounds; not dealing with it; staying with a partner who has raped; secondary wounding; partner rape and trauma; leaving and safety; whether to pursue justice; various chapters on healing; and sexuality after marital rape. This book addresses itself primarily to women who have experienced marital rape and domestic violence, but also includes a chapter for their supporters.

The final chapter of this book is called breaking down the bedroom door, and that is exactly what this book aims and succeeds in doing. By the time I reached the end of the book rape ceased to be something extreme, strange, other or different. Rape became something real that is directly central to women's experiences of domestic violence. Something we so often forget or choose not to see because it is difficult to deal with. This is a book written by women for women. It is an excellent training tool for domestic violence workers to begin to understand the relationship between rape and domestic violence and invaluable to women dealing with rape as part of their experiences. The chapters which address trauma make this a good book for counsellors, therapists, and other professionals whose work involves dealing with any form of gendered violence.

This book is practical, powerful, and above all, has the power to change, for the better, many women's lives. I would highly recommend this book.

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