Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

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by Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti
     
 

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“How does he know exactly what I’m feeling?” That’s the most-heard reader comment about this one million copy bestseller by internationally-renowned divorce therapist Bruce Fisher. Rebuilding features Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks,” a proven nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back

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“How does he know exactly what I’m feeling?” That’s the most-heard reader comment about this one million copy bestseller by internationally-renowned divorce therapist Bruce Fisher. Rebuilding features Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks,” a proven nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back together after divorce. Clearly the most widely-used approach to divorce recovery, the “rebuilding” model makes the process healthier and less traumatic for those who are divorcing or divorced—and their children. Over two decades of research and practice are combined with feedback from hundreds of thousands of men and women who have used the book on their own or in one of thousands of Fisher divorce recovery seminars worldwide. Also includes Bruce’s detailed Healing Separation model—first of its kind to offer couples a healing alternative to the usual slide from separation to divorce. The 3rd edition, revised with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Robert Alberti, continues Bruce’s tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of his clients and readers. Just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants self-help!

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

“One of the best books written for the divorcing person... warm, engaging.”
the Behavior Therapist

”...deals with the everyday feelings and problems of the divorcing and divorced... hits just the right balance between seriousness and optimism.”
Florence Kaslow, PhD, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

“...a handbook for the divorcing and divorced that is authentic and which they can employ in the rebuilding of their own lives.”
Esther Oshiver Fisher, JD, Journal of Divorce

“...warm, simple, and direct... this is a book you will not want to put down.”
A.R.E. Press

“I found the book comforting, helpful and realistic—it is going to hurt, and it will not be easy, but you can do it.”
Marilyn Anita Dalrymple, Affaire de Coeur

“If you're putting your life back together after a divorce, you need this book! It could be just what you're looking for to help you get your life back on track. I found it to be very interesting and informative.”
Jeanette Wright, Borger News-Herald, Borger, Texas

“Shows you how to move from denial to freedom and even another love.”
Jann Mitchell, The Sunday Oregonian

“...exactly what you need to help put your life back together during and after a divorce.”
Divorce Magazine

“I have read it four times and highlighted it in four different colors. I get something very different out of it each time...I have given it to many others...It is so right on about the recovery process that it is amazing.”
Joy (online review)

“It made me realize I was not the only person who felt and acted in a certain way when my marriage ended. We all have the same reactions and emotions. The steps to rebuilding your life make sense and should be followed.”
Linda (online review)

Florence R. Kaslow
...deals with the everyday feelings and problems of the divorcing and divorced... hits just the right balance between seriousness and optimism.
Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
Jeanette Wright
If you're putting your life back together after a divorce, you need this book! It could be just what you're looking for to help you get your life back on track. I found it to be very interesting and informative.
Borger News-Herald, Borger, Texas
Behavior Therapist
One of the best books written for the divorcing person... warm, engaging.
Esther Oshiver Fisher
...a handbook for the divorcing and divorced that is authentic and which they can employ in the rebuilding of their own lives.
Journal of Divorce
A.R.E. Press
...warm, simple, and direct... this is a book you will not want to put down.
Marilyn Anita Dalrymple
I found the book comforting, helpful and realistic -- it is going to hurt, and it will not be easy, but you can do it.
Affaire de Coeur

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781886230699
Publisher:
New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:
11/01/1999
Series:
Rebuilding Books; for Divorce and Beyond Series
Edition description:
Third Edition
Pages:
304
Sales rank:
89,763
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.80(d)

Meet the Author

Bruce Fisher, EdD (1931-1998) developed the “rebuilding” model of divorce recovery nearly 35 years ago. Founder and director of the Family Relations Learning Center (Boulder, Colorado), he personally trained thousands of individuals and therapists in this approach, enriching the lives of hundreds of thousands worldwide. Popular divorce therapist, author, teacher, clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Robert E. Alberti, PhD, is a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, Fellow (Psychotherapy) of the American Psychological Association, clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, publisher, and author/co-author of several books. His work has received international recognition as the "gold standard" for psychological self-help.

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Rebuilding 3.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 11 reviews.
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I used this book to heal through a divorce 20 years ago and am still giving it as a gift. Recipients are always very grateful. This book is an excellent guide through any kind of broken relationship.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
great book...highly recommended
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book after a painful divorce with someone I loved very much. I loved the person, but could not live with his actions any longer. This book helped me become a stronger person and realize that it was important for me to be out of that situation. Several years later I was remarried and we lost our baby to SIDS. I remember going back to this book. It helped me want to continue living and take stepping stones to move back up the mountain. Now I have a new friend who is having trouble letting go of a bad relationship and I am buying this book for her.
Guest More than 1 year ago
¿Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends¿is the first book I suggest to my coaching clients going thru divorce. And it was one of the things that really helped me get thru my own divorce process and create a whole new wonderful life. It truly showed me that my feelings and reactions were normal and that they could be worked thru. After all Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti worked with people who were rebuilding their lives after divorce for over 25 years and they ought to know. The book has a style that is very very readable. You can begin at the beginning and read it straight thru or open it to just the chapter that is appropriate for you at that moment, like ¿Loneliness¿, ¿Anger¿. ¿Self-Worth¿, or ¿Sex¿. The book is built around the metaphor of climbing a mountain, and you are shown just how achievable it is to successfully rebuild your life one doable step at a time. Once you reach the top of the mountain you experience a wonderful sight of a new you and a new life. As Alberti says, ¿So prepare yourself for a journey. Pack up your optimism, your hopes for the future. Discard your excess baggage. ---- And the Rebuilding mountain lies ahead for you.¿ If you are only going to buy one book to get yourself thru the divorce process this is the one. I can¿t recommend this book more highly.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Although I haven't read the whole book, It helped me very much to see both sides and understand everything. When I read it, I showed the Dumpee and Dumper section to my ex, it amazed both of us, it was written as if the author was in the room with us when we broke up. It touched both of our hearts, everyone I showed it to wanted to get a copy.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is the first relationship reading that seemed to touch me. Allowing strong negative feelings to be expressed and yet providing optimisim and hope. I keep rereading it. The healing separation section is especially hopeful.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I recommend this incredibly useful book to my clients to use as a support towards helping them work through the emotional and psychological issues that are inherent in the anguish of a divorce. ¿Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends¿ presents the ¿rebuilding¿ model of divorce through providing the reader with the ability to focus on one issue at a time in individual chapters that separate the issues, such as ¿Loneliness¿, ¿Anger¿. ¿Self-Worth¿, and ¿Sex¿, inter alia. This book is essential. Sherri Donovan, Esq., author of Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take No Prisoners Guide to Divorce.