Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

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If you're putting your life back together after a divorce, you need this book! an all new revised, updated and expanded edition of a best-seller!
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Editorial Reviews

A.R.E. Press
...warm, simple, and direct... this is a book you will not want to put down.
Behavior Therapist
One of the best books written for the divorcing person... warm, engaging.
Esther Oshiver Fisher
...a handbook for the divorcing and divorced that is authentic and which they can employ in the rebuilding of their own lives.
Journal of Divorce
Florence R. Kaslow with the everyday feelings and problems of the divorcing and divorced... hits just the right balance between seriousness and optimism.
Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
Jeanette Wright
If you're putting your life back together after a divorce, you need this book! It could be just what you're looking for to help you get your life back on track. I found it to be very interesting and informative.
Borger News-Herald, Borger, Texas
Marilyn Anita Dalrymple
I found the book comforting, helpful and realistic -- it is going to hurt, and it will not be easy, but you can do it.
Affaire de Coeur
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781886230699
  • Publisher: Impact Publishers, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 1/28/2006
  • Series: Rebuilding Books; for Divorce and Beyond Series
  • Edition number: 3
  • Pages: 290
  • Sales rank: 67,779
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Table of Contents

Foreword ix
Introduction to the Third Edition 1
1. The Rebuilding Blocks 4
2. Denial "I Can't Believe This is Happening to Me" 30
3. Fear "I Have Lots of It" 42
4. Adaptation "But It Worked When I Was A Kid!" 52
5. Loneliness "I've Never Felt So Alone" 66
6. Friendship "Where Has Everybody Gone?" 72
7. Guilt/Rejection Dumpers 1, Dumpees 0 82
8. Grief "There's This Terrible Feeling of Loss" 96
9. Anger "Damn the S.O.B.!" 110
10. Letting Go Disentangling is Hard to Do 128
11. Self-Worth "Maybe I'm Not So Bad After All!" 136
12. Transition "I'm Waking Up and Putting Away my Leftovers" 148
13. Openness "I've Been I liding Behind a Mask" 166
14. Love "Could Somebody Really Care for Me?" 176
15. Trust "My Love-Wound is Beginning to Heal" 188
16. Relatedness "Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild" 200
17. Sexuality "I'm Interested, but I'm Scared" 216
18. Singleness "You Mean It's Okay?" 234
19. Purpose "I Have Goals for the Future Now" 242
20. Freedom From Chrysalis to Butterfly 250
Appendix A Kids Are Tougher Than You Think The Rebuilding Blocks Process for Children 259
Appendix B The Healing Separation An Alternative to Divorce 265
Appendix C Healing Separation Agreement Form 275
Bibliography 281
Index 287
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Customer Reviews

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 23, 2010

    This book is timeless.

    I used this book to heal through a divorce 20 years ago and am still giving it as a gift. Recipients are always very grateful. This book is an excellent guide through any kind of broken relationship.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 11, 2007

    Rebuild Your Life After Divorce.

    I recommend this incredibly useful book to my clients to use as a support towards helping them work through the emotional and psychological issues that are inherent in the anguish of a divorce. ¿Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends¿ presents the ¿rebuilding¿ model of divorce through providing the reader with the ability to focus on one issue at a time in individual chapters that separate the issues, such as ¿Loneliness¿, ¿Anger¿. ¿Self-Worth¿, and ¿Sex¿, inter alia. This book is essential. Sherri Donovan, Esq., author of Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take No Prisoners Guide to Divorce.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 11, 2007

    great book

    great book...highly recommended

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 11, 2004

    Life keeps going

    I read this book after a painful divorce with someone I loved very much. I loved the person, but could not live with his actions any longer. This book helped me become a stronger person and realize that it was important for me to be out of that situation. Several years later I was remarried and we lost our baby to SIDS. I remember going back to this book. It helped me want to continue living and take stepping stones to move back up the mountain. Now I have a new friend who is having trouble letting go of a bad relationship and I am buying this book for her.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 8, 2001

    This is THE book for divorce

    ¿Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends¿is the first book I suggest to my coaching clients going thru divorce. And it was one of the things that really helped me get thru my own divorce process and create a whole new wonderful life. It truly showed me that my feelings and reactions were normal and that they could be worked thru. After all Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti worked with people who were rebuilding their lives after divorce for over 25 years and they ought to know. The book has a style that is very very readable. You can begin at the beginning and read it straight thru or open it to just the chapter that is appropriate for you at that moment, like ¿Loneliness¿, ¿Anger¿. ¿Self-Worth¿, or ¿Sex¿. The book is built around the metaphor of climbing a mountain, and you are shown just how achievable it is to successfully rebuild your life one doable step at a time. Once you reach the top of the mountain you experience a wonderful sight of a new you and a new life. As Alberti says, ¿So prepare yourself for a journey. Pack up your optimism, your hopes for the future. Discard your excess baggage. ---- And the Rebuilding mountain lies ahead for you.¿ If you are only going to buy one book to get yourself thru the divorce process this is the one. I can¿t recommend this book more highly.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 27, 2001


    Although I haven't read the whole book, It helped me very much to see both sides and understand everything. When I read it, I showed the Dumpee and Dumper section to my ex, it amazed both of us, it was written as if the author was in the room with us when we broke up. It touched both of our hearts, everyone I showed it to wanted to get a copy.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 7, 2000

    Someone understands

    This book is the first relationship reading that seemed to touch me. Allowing strong negative feelings to be expressed and yet providing optimisim and hope. I keep rereading it. The healing separation section is especially hopeful.

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