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Reconcilable Differences: Hope and Healing for Troubled Marriages

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What does it take to really make right a severely damaged relationship?

When going back to how things were is not nearly good enough, is there hope for true transformation and healing?

Counselor and teacher Virginia Todd Holeman weaves together biblical insight and rich theological reflection while drawing from the best of current psychological studies on forgiveness, repentance and reconciling. Out of her own research you will hear the ...

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Overview

What does it take to really make right a severely damaged relationship?

When going back to how things were is not nearly good enough, is there hope for true transformation and healing?

Counselor and teacher Virginia Todd Holeman weaves together biblical insight and rich theological reflection while drawing from the best of current psychological studies on forgiveness, repentance and reconciling. Out of her own research you will hear the poignant stories of married couples who tell in their own words what it's like to seek reconciliation in seemingly hopeless situations. Complete with honest and practical help, this book will be an encouragement to married couples who dare to hope for the healing and transforming of broken relationships and for counselors and pastors who want to work more effectively with them.

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Editorial Reviews

John E. Shaffett for The Christian Librarian 50
"It will be helpful to couples who are experiencing difficulties in their marriages. It will be helpful to all couples in learning essential truths for gaining intimacy in marriage."
Steven J. Sandage
"Reconcilable Differences offers one of the freshest contributions to evangelical social science I have read in many years. Toddy Holeman's research and integrative theory-building offers a great resource for both practitioners and researchers. Almost every week couples sit in my therapy office wondering if it is actually possible to truly reconcile without sacrificing their own integrity. This book documents the real-life stories of couples who have done just that, and Holeman describes a differentiation-based approach to reconciliation that is both theologically grounded and relationally healthy."
L. Gregory Jones
"St. Paul writes that Christ's message of reconciliation has been entrusted to us. That makes for great sermons but challenging discipleship in daily life. This is especially challenging in marriages and other close relationships where betrayal can be so painful and potentially shattering. In this wise, practical and much-needed book, Toddy Holeman thoughtfully guides couples to envision and embody faithful ways of living as forgiving and forgiven people--even in the wake of brokenness. I hope this wonderful resource will be widely read and used!"
Jennifer S. Ripley
"Dr. Holeman has done an incredible job of using the best research on forgiveness and reconciliation in marriages and made it accessible for anyone to understand. This book is full of practical ideas on reconciling after minor or major hurts in a marriage. It is something desperately needed by any couple who has experienced hurts in their relationship. When couples face the desire to reconcile but are struggling to achieve it, this book will walk them through with examples and ideas they might never have thought of. The stories and exemplar couples bring the ideas to life. Dr. Holeman's background as a theologian, scholar and clinician makes her uniquely qualified to tackle the difficult issue of marital reconciliation from a Christian perspective. Readers will be inspired and equipped to face the areas of their marriage where they need reconciliation."
Terry D. Hargrave
"Virginia Todd Holeman has done a superb job of blending the theoretical and practical ideas on how couples can get over emotionally painful issues and move on to intimacy. Reconcilable Differences will become a standard volume in my library on helping couples heal."
Everett L. Worthington Jr.
"Dr. Toddy Holeman is the reigning authority on reconciliation. In
Reconcilable Differences she blends biblical and theological truth and psychological truth into a practical book that helps people reconcile. Commitment and transformation are the keys to reconciling differences. Commit to reading the book, and it could transform your relationship."
Joel B. Green
"Toddy Holeman weaves stories of betrayal and reconciliation out of and into the story of God's good news. The result is a message that is both down-to-earth in its grappling with the hurts of human relationships and profound in its appropriation of the gospel. Here is the plain and hopeful talk we desperately need."
The Christian Librarian 50 - John E. Shaffett
"It will be helpful to couples who are experiencing difficulties in their marriages. It will be helpful to all couples in learning essential truths for gaining intimacy in marriage."
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780830832194
  • Publisher: InterVarsity Press
  • Publication date: 10/1/2004
  • Pages: 252
  • Sales rank: 820,784
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.25 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Virginia Todd Holeman is professor of counseling at Asbury Theological Seminary in Wilmore, Kentucky. She previously taught at Ashland Theological Seminary and Kent State University, and worked at New Life Family Ministries in Akron, Ohio.

Holeman is a licensed psychologist in Ohio and a licensed marriage and family therapist in Kentucky. As a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, she leads workshops and seminars around the country. She contributes to professional journals and speaks at churches, conferences and universities on the topics of forgiveness and family.

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Table of Contents

1. Introduction: The Journey BeginsPart 1: Commitments That Nurture Reconciliation
2. Marital Crossroads
3. Active Commitment
4. Community: Bearing One Another's BurdensPart 2: Tasks That Encourage Reconciliation
5. Growing Up and Growing Together
6. Seeking Forgiveness
7. Extending Forgiveness
8. Rebuilding Truth, Trust and Trustworthiness
9. Conclusion: We've a Story to Tell
Appendix A: Resources for Reconciliation
Appendix B: Advice About Reconciliation
Glossary
References
Acknowledgments
Subject and Names Index
Scripture Index
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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 5, 2004

    Soft hearts are the greatest miracle of all

    If you are a couple in crisis and think your marriage is hopeless, read this book. If you believe in God's healing power, then you must participate in the painful, yet rewarding process of the path of reconciliation which God provides. Take the high road. It's not easy, but the reward is worthwhile. The marriage covenant is worth fighting for and I can testify to the incredible gift of 'going through the fire' and coming out stronger because I'm one of the author's research couples. I've done it...I'm a living testimony...reconciliation DOES happen....miracles are messy, but I am living on the other side of reconciliation! You will draw hope and find tools for reconciliation in Dr. Holeman's research...don't give up yet! These chapters will guide you from 'death of a dream' to 'resurrection power' within the heart and soul of your marriage!! God has made a way, but we must walk in it!! Buy the book, read it, then DO it!!

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