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Everyone deserves a happy ending, so go on, give ?em a hand.
Your hands can play a piano concerto, perform surgery, juggle?and give your partner mind-blowing pleasure.
If you?re not using your hands to their fullest potential during sex, you are depriving your partner of untold bliss. It?s time to learn how to use your mitts in ways that will have your partner moaning for more.
With over fifty ways to stroke, ...
Everyone deserves a happy ending, so go on, give ‘em a hand.
Your hands can play a piano concerto, perform surgery, juggle—and give your partner mind-blowing pleasure.
If you’re not using your hands to their fullest potential during sex, you are depriving your partner of untold bliss. It’s time to learn how to use your mitts in ways that will have your partner moaning for more.
With over fifty ways to stroke, squeeze, and please someone south of the border, and over 100 moves to stimulate other areas of the anatomy from the earlobes to the toes, Red Hot Touch will help you master the techniques that will take your sex life from average to red hot.
Inside you’ll find:
Techniques for giving your partner an unforgettable orgasm
How to use your hands for outstanding oral sex and incredible intercourse
Exercises to strengthen the hands and increase your sensitivity
Instructions for the world’s hottest massage
Recommended lubes and massage oils to relax, stimulate, and seduce
A map of the body’s erogenous zones and how to caress, rub, and touch each one for the maximum effect
Tools that will triple the fun
And much, much more
Beyond the genitalia-centered "1001 sexual positions" school of eroticism, the new gourmet approach to sex aims for more full-bodied involvement. The Hanauers, certified sexological body workers with a background in sex education, Tantra, and massage, here propose a sizable variety of hand-based practices to use before, during, and instead of intercourse. The first section covers hand exercises, preparation and safety, general massage guidelines, and the body's hot spots. The second section lays out more than 130 manual sex techniques for anal stimulation and to enhance intercourse and oral sex-for either gender. Repeated safety reminders coupled with an emphasis on pleasure set this manual on firm footing, and the well-executed line drawings nicely illustrate some of the less intuitive techniques. The only drawback is that the short resource section is limited mainly to materials about massage and Tantra. A fine addition to the sex and relationship sections of public libraries; consider also Lou Paget's How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure and How To Be a Great Lover, excellent him/her manuals stressing hand and oral techniques. [Julie Jeffries is a pseudonym for Judy Dutton, who writes on sex and relationships for various magazines.-Ed.]
I started out to be a sex fiend, but I couldn't pass the physical. —ROBERT MITCHUM
First things first: Let's get your hands ready for all the excitement. Put a little effort into honing and toning their talents before you hit the sheets and you will be like a sports star who has taken care to train before stepping into the ring. If you want to be able to keep the pleasure going long into the night, then the solution is simple: Your hands need a little exercise.
Consider this chapter a personal training program for your hands. These miniworkouts (which are used by sexological bodyworkers and massage therapists) will make your hands stronger, faster, more flexible, and even more fine-tuned to feeling subtle sensations than ever before. What's more, they take only a few minutes to do and don't require a gym membership-any old place from your living room to your car is fine. For optimal fitness, each exercise should be performed at least once a day for one to two weeks to bring your musculature and sensitivity up to speed; after that, you can do them once per week to maintain your hands' pleasure-inducing performance levels.
While having to worry about getting yet one more body part into shape may seem like a drag, think of it this way: It's all for the pursuit of pleasure. What endeavor could be more worthwhile? Once you see the results, you'll be very glad you did these drills.
Exercise #1: Play Ball Get a tennis ball, racquetball, or buy one of those squishy "stress balls" you often see strategically placed near the register at drugstores (no doubt to alleviate the mounting tension that comes from waiting for a prescription refill). Close your hand around your ball of choice and squeeze as hard as you can for three seconds, then relax. Repeat at least ten times. This will strengthen the muscles in your palm and fingers, helping you to knead your partner for a sustained session without wimping out.
Exercise #2: Towel Twister This exercise will strengthen your wrists. Holding an end of a hand towel in each hand, twist the towel as much as you can, as if you were wringing water out of it. Hold for five seconds, then reverse directions. Repeat ten times.
Exercise #3: The Upper Body Booster This exercise will increase overall upper body strength. Keeping your legs straight, bend over and place your palms on the floor so your body forms an upside-down V (if you have ever taken a yoga class, you may recognize this pose as the Downward Dog). Lean your weight onto your palms and press them into the floor, making sure to spread your fingers as wide as possible. Hold for ten seconds; repeat five times.
Exercise #4: The Finger Stretcher This exercise will stretch the muscles in each finger individually, as well as the corresponding tendons running down into the wrist. Holding one hand out in front of you, palm facing forward as if to say "stop" to oncoming traffic, grab its thumb with your other hand and pull it back for a second, then release. Then pull back your index finger, then your middle finger, and so on. Then switch hands.
Exercise #5: The Rubber Wrist Pull your thumb down toward the inside of your wrist and hold for a count of ten. Then grab your four fingers and pull them back toward the top of your wrist for the same amount of time. Respectively this will stretch the top and bottom of your wrist for more all-around flexibility. Perform each stretch twice.
Exercise #6: The Forearm Flexor Get down on all fours; the fingertips in both hands should naturally point forward. Rotate one of your wrists inward so your fingers are pointing back toward your feet. Then slowly lower your butt toward the floor; this will stretch the underside of the forearm you just rotated. Switch hands-and once you pull that off, try doing both hands together. Perform each stretch twice.
Exercise #7: Don't Follow the Leader Except for your thumb, whose raison d'être is to do its own thing (thus the term "opposable thumb"), the rest of your fingers prefer to stick together: If one moves, they all want to move with it. This follow-the-leader tendency can be a problem when you try to do certain techniques we teach that require a high level of dexterity, and that's where this exercise can help by forcing your fingers to break apart from the pack. Here's how to do it: Gently rest your hand palm down on a tabletop. Lift your index finger one inch off the surface, then let it fall back to the table. Repeat ten times, then do the same thing with your middle, fourth, and fifth digits. Your ring finger, you'll find, is the weakest of the bunch. But over time all your fingers should improve.
Exercise #8: The Coin Flip This exercise will also increase your dexterity, but be warned: It takes practice. That said, those who master this move will have a pretty cool party trick up their sleeve to impress random strangers. Extend your hand palm up, place a quarter on your index finger and then flip it onto your middle finger, then flip it onto your fourth finger, then your fifth, then send the coin back the way it came. Once you have mastered this move, try it on the knuckle side of your fingers instead.
Exercise #9: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow For this exercise you'll need a book, ideally one with really thin paper (a telephone book is ideal), and a long strand of hair. Open the book and place the hair on the center of any page; then carefully flip a page so it's covering the hair. While you probably have a decent idea of where the hair is hiding underneath that page, pretend you don't-and force your finger to find it. Gently run your index finger across the page, feeling for the hair. Once you find it, flip a second page on top and see if you can still feel where the hair is. Continue adding pages until you can't feel the hair anymore. Then repeat the exercise with your middle finger, fourth finger, and pinky. The next time you try this exercise, push yourself to find the hair by adding even more pages. This technique will improve your "palpation skills"-aka the ability to pick up on very subtle sensations.
Exercise #10: The Balloon Press This exercise will improve your ability to feel subtle differences in pressure, so that you can avoid pushing muscles in your partner's body past his or her comfort zone. Inflate a balloon, then slowly sink your fingertips into it. The surface should give pretty easily at first, less so as you press deeper. At some point you should feel the sensation shift from your bending the balloon's surface to stretching it. This change also occurs if you press your fingers into any muscle in the body (including those in the vagina and anus). At first the area will give easily, but if you keep going there will come a point at which you feel like you're stretching it-and since that can be painful, it's best if you don't cross that line. Practice on the balloon and you'll soon be able to pinpoint the difference.
Exercise #11: Armed and Ready Once you have mastered the hair-in-the-phone-book and balloon workouts we think you're ready to try out one final exercise on the human body-either yours or your partner's. To start out, get your hand hovering a couple of inches over your (or your partner's) forearm, close enough so that you can feel the warmth emanating from the arm. Then, moving at a snail's pace, slowly close in so you can feel the arm hairs. Then close in further so you can feel the skin, then deeper until you feel the layer between skin and muscle, then even deeper until you can feel the muscle, then the bone. Then, just as slowly, loosen your grip and reverse your way back to your starting position, feeling for each layer as you go. Do this exercise slowly and it will hone your sensitivity in a whole new way.
Well written and well organized, this book covers a subject that is rarely, if ever, dealt with in basic sex manuals. The contents are separated into chapters that first deal with how to get your hands into shape in order for you to be able to perform the techniques the book describes. The next chapter is the usual one about "setting the scene" that you read in all sex books, which I skimmed because I had read it all before-lubrication, oils, even room lighting and condoms. Then comes sensual massage, which is a whole book unto itself, but nicely covered in this one. According to these writers, who are self-described certified sexology bodyworkers, both men and women have erogenous zones that are never touched by the other party, so they give full body diagrams, showing all the hot areas, and specifying which ones are neglected. Then, the next chapters describe how to give a man a "hand," showing and describing in detail the male genitalia, and then they give specific techniques about how to manipulate it using the hands. They do the same for the female genitalia. This is when the book really becomes unique and fascinating. Tricks like "The Juicer," "Getting It from Both Ends," and "The Sidewinder," are beautifully described and illustrated, along with many others, to help women use their hands to drive their men crazy. The female section is even better, with tricks like the "Triple Threat," "The Atomic Clock," and "Jilling Off," described and illustrated, just like the male chapters, and including numerous other hand techniques to keep the action going. These sections were the best and most unique parts of the book, and the main reason I would recommend it. The writers teach the reader how to use their hands to explore and stimulate the anus, also include precautions, methods for avoiding pain, and cleanliness. They illustrate "Hugging the Prostate" for men and "Quadruple Delight," for women, which incorporate using the hands to stimulate two openings at the same time. Awesome! The chapter on "Putting It All Together" shows the reader how to use these hand techniques in conjunction with other sex techniques, both oral and manual. I thought this part was good, but another book does a better, more detailed job of incorporating these and other techniques during oral sex (for both sexes). "The Sensuous Couple's Guide to Seismic Oral Sex," recommended below, would make a great companion piece to this book. In conclusion, while some of the chapters, as described above, are pedestrian and typical, the middle sections which describe specific techniques are detailed, contain new information, and are well illustrated. I would rate this book a definite "buy."
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