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The Relationship Rescue Workbook: Exercises and Self-Tests to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner

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The ideal companion book to the #1 New York Times bestseller.Ever since Relationship Rescue became an instant number one New York Times hardcover bestseller, Phil McGraws audiences have been asking for a workbook to help them apply his strategies for change to their relationships. Now, in The Relationship Rescue Workbook, Dr. Phil, Oprahs resident expert on human functioning, provides questions, exercises and self-tests that will enable couples in even the most troubled relationships to get their love lives back ...
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Overview

The ideal companion book to the #1 New York Times bestseller.Ever since Relationship Rescue became an instant number one New York Times hardcover bestseller, Phil McGraws audiences have been asking for a workbook to help them apply his strategies for change to their relationships. Now, in The Relationship Rescue Workbook, Dr. Phil, Oprahs resident expert on human functioning, provides questions, exercises and self-tests that will enable couples in even the most troubled relationships to get their love lives back on track. And for those in solid relationships who would like to regain their spark, he reveals how to make that happen. He shows readers exactly how to pinpoint problems in their relationships, and how to make sure that the changes they enact will truly last. His straightforward, tell-it-like-it-is advice is made crystal clear in this easy-to-use workbook that is sure to prove immensely popular with his devoted national following.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780641503993
  • Publisher: Hyperion
  • Publication date: 10/18/2000
  • Pages: 287
  • Product dimensions: 7.20 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Phil McGraw is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters; Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner; Self Matters: Creating Your Life From the Inside Out; The Ultimate Weight Solution: The Seven Keys to Weight Loss Freedom, and his most recent book, Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family. He is also the author of the New York Times bestseller The Ultimate Weight Solution Coookbook: Recipes For Weight Loss Freedom as well as The Ultimate Weight Solution Food Guide. His books have been published in 37 languages with over 22 million copies in print. Dr. Phil has a B.S, M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from North Texas State University with a dual area of emphasis in clinical and behavioral medicine. He has been a board-certified and licensed clinical psychologist since 1978, and appears on his nationally syndicated daily one-hour series, Dr. Phil. He lives in Los Angeles with Robin, his wife of 28 years, and their two sons, Jay and Jordan.

Biography

Many self-help authors have launched their careers via the beneficence of Oprah Winfrey, but only Phillip C. McGraw was able to parlay the talk show queen's admiration into a weekly friendly takeover of her show, near-guaranteed bestsellerdom, and, finally, his own talk show. He's gotten so much attention as "Dr. Phil" (a.k.a. "Tell It like It Is Phil") that he's moved from Texas to Hollywood and even guested with his fictional peer on NBC's Frasier.

McGraw delivers unapologetic, no-nonsense advice in a tough but colorful down-home twang -- hence his "Tell It like It Is" moniker. That old psychological bugaboo, denial, is chief among his enemies; and bluntness is his forte, whether he is exhorting someone to "get real" or demanding to know, "What were you thinkin'?" In short, "He's like your mama, without hair," as fellow psychologist Robert Butterworth told the Atlanta Journal-Constitution.

McGraw isn't unsympathetic, but he is realistic. As he told Barnes & Noble.com, "I am here to tell people how the world works, not how I think it should be or how you wish it would be, but how it is." McGraw met Oprah when he was hired to coach her in a suit by cattle ranchers for her alleged defamation of the beef industry. Oprah won the case, and it wasn't long before Dr. Phil was a regular feature on her show, challenging her guests in the same way he challenges his readers.

Though McGraw's style is quick and to the point, he does what many good personal therapists do: He asks difficult questions and encourages people to answer them with painful honesty. He also does what many therapists do not: He avoids emphasis on introspection about the circumstances and history that can contribute to a person's problems. "Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now," he writes as part of "Life Law #2: You create your own experience" in his first, still-popular book, Life Strategies.

McGraw's sports-coach approach has also appealed to couples seeking help in revitalizing tired marriages or fixing troubled relationships. The year after publishing 1999's Life Strategies, McGraw released Relationship Rescue, offering a seven-step plan for imperiled unions (one key word: "renegotiate").

Most recently, McGraw devoted special attention to those who are simply "going through the motions," whether at work or at home. His Self Matters encourages readers to literally take an inventory of their lives, discover their "authentic selves," and redirect their courses accordingly. He harangues, he prods, and sometimes he makes people uncomfortable -- but darned if he doesn't get them to see things in a different way than they did before.

Good To Know

He has been married to his wife, Robin, for 26 years. They have two sons, 23-year-old Jay and 16-year-old Jordan. McGraw has told Good Housekeeping that he doesn't feel pressure to have a perfect marriage because of his public image. But, he adds, "My wife is an amazing woman. We have a great marriage because she won't have it any other way."

After getting his doctorate, McGraw went into private practice; but "when it came to the point that I really had to admit I didn't like what I was doing, that was a gut check because I was making an awful lot of money doing it," he told CNN in 2001. So he quit the practice in 1989 and co-founded Courtroom Sciences, Inc., a legal consultancy that conducts mock trials, behavioral analysis, jury selection, and mediation.

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    1. Hometown:
      Los Angeles, California
    1. Date of Birth:
      1950
    2. Place of Birth:
      Oklahoma
    1. Education:
      Attended University of Tulsa; B.A., Midwestern State; Ph.D. in psychology, University of North Texas, 1979
    2. Website:

Table of Contents

prologue: get real---reconnecting with your core
The Best People
Ina Perfect World, Who Are You?
In Reality, What Are You Doing?
Negative Voices
What Do You Think All Day?
The Happiest Time of My Life
A Personal Vision
Act on It!

it's your time; it's your turn
Dr. Phil's Relationship Stress Test
What's Your Part?
What's the Payoff?
A Self-Analysis
Your Bag of Tricks
Test Your Readiness
Project Status

defining the problem
Personal Concepts Profile
Relationship Health Profile
General Relationship Problem Profile
Specific Relationship Problem Profile
The Relationship Behavior Profile: Your Partner
The Relationship Behavior Profile: You
Your Relationship Lifestyle Profile
Relationship Communication Test
Chemistry Test
The Five Tough Questions

blowing up the myths
Myth #1: A Meeting of the Minds
The "Natural"Fit
The "Adjusted"Fit
"Thanks for the Differences..."
Myth #2: A Great Romance
Falling in Love
Being in Love
Myth #3: Great Problem Solving
What Are We Fighting About?
I Think...I Feel
Myth #4: Common Interests that Bond You Together Forever
A Wish List
Reality Check
Myth #5: A Peaceful Relationship
The Rules of the Ring
Simmer, Spew, or Blow the Lid Off
Myth #6: The Complete Venting of Feelings
What's Your Style?
What's Your Partner's Style?
Ping-Pong
Myth #7: Nothing to Do with Sex
Just the Facts
Once Upon a Time
Chemical Reactions
Myth #8: You Cannot Survive a Flawed Partner
If I Were You...
Myth #9: A Right Way and a Wrong Way
The "Perfect Couple"
Myth #10: When You Get Your Partner Straightened Out
Mirror, Mirror

eliminating your bad spirit
Characteristic #1: You're a Scorekeeper
Characteristic #2: You're a Fault Finder
Characteristic #3: You Think It's Your Way or the Highway
Characteristic #4: You Turn into an Attack Dog
Characteristic #5: You Are a Passive Warmonger
Characteristic #6: You Resort to Smoke and Mirrors
Characteristic #7: You Will Not Forgive
Characteristic #8: You Are the Bottomless Pit
Characteristic #9: You're Too Comfortable
Characteristic #10: You've Given Up
Adding It Up

reclaiming your core---the personal relationship values
Personal Relationship Value #1: Own Your Relationship
"Whine Warning"
Quiz
Personal Statement
Personal Relationship Value #2: Accept the Risk of Vulnerability
"I'm Afraid that..."
"What If...?"
"And Then I Would..."
Personal Relationship Value #3: Accept Your Partner
Inventory 1: My Top Ten Partner Gripes
Inventory 2: My Partner's Top Twenty Positives
The Whine Ratio
Personal Relationship Value #4: Focus on the Friendship
What I Want in a Friend
What I Am as a Friend
My Partner as a Friend
Personal Relationship Value #5: Promote Your Partner's Self-Esteem
The Honor Roll
Personal Relationship Value #6: Aim Your Frustrations in the Right Direction
Frustration Log
Personal Relationship Value #7: Be Up-Front and Forthright
"I Put up My Dukes when..."
"I'd Rather Cover Up Because..."
Personal Relationship Value #8: Make Yourself Happy Rather than Right
Your Righteousness Quotient
"Just Suppose..."
Personal Relationship Value #9: Allow Your Relationship to Transcend Turmoil
"Or Else!"
Personal Relationship Value #10: Put Motion into Your Emotion
Love Action
Action Assignment
Report Card
Personal Relationship Value Reminder

the formula for success
Are You Ready?
Write Your Own Definitions
Job #1: Make Your Needs Know

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  • Posted May 9, 2010

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    I also recommend Sugar's "The Silent Crisis Destroying America's Brightest Minds"

    One day these two crusaders will meet and sparks will fly.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 24, 2006

    It's a self-discovery process--not a miracle worker

    When I first purchased the book, I thought it was so well written. I had recently had yet another huge fight with my boyfriend of three years. I loved that it focused on self improvement and analysis because it gave me some sense of control over a situation that I was feeling helpless in. I can't change my boyfriend, but I can change me. This book helped me zero in on the areas of myself that I need to improve. Although I thought that my progress in improving myself was going to change my relationship for the better, I am sad to say that I just broke up with my boyfriend. This may not be such a bad thing for myself. I am a believer that all things happen for the best. But, I honestly thought that this book was going to equip me with all I needed to improve my relationship. The book doesn't fix a relationship, it helps to fix yourself. It's a self-discovery process--not a miracle worker.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 16, 2003

    FIRE W/OUT THE FLAME

    AFTER READING RELATIONSHIP RESCUE REALLY ENJOYED THE BOOK. HAVE REALIZED WITHOUT COMMUNICATION YOU HAVE NOTHING. YOUR PARTNER DOES'NT KNOW HOW YOUR FEEL YOU MUST STATE WHAT U WANT/ALSO WHAT U EXPECT. EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT EXPECTION.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 31, 2001

    A Journal for Personal and Relationship Improvement

    Relationship Rescue is the best book that I read in 2000. This workbook is a very helpful extension of that outstanding book, and one that I hope you will acquire, use, and share with others. Containing many of the same quizzes, assignments, and exercises as Relationship Rescue, the workbook will encourage you to write down your thoughts in more detail. There is also significant new material that will encourage you by deepening your commitment to change, and making it easier for you to change yourself . . . and through that, your relationship. I recently finished reading Frankenstein, which wonderfully explores the pain that lacking loving human companionship brings. The pain of losing what was once loving may be even worse. In Dr. Phil's own words, 'The two books are designed to be companions.' 'The hardcover book offers you the information and the tools you need . . . .' 'The workbook gives you a totally private place to complete a wide variety of exercises that are crucial to the process. Some of these exercises appear in the hardcover book, but many do not.' His promise to you is a significant one. 'Read the book and do the work, and you will reclaim the power to shape the life you live . . . . you will reconnect with your old best self.' While many workbooks claim to be coordinated with book they support, this one does an excellent job of connection. Each section begins with directions of how to use the hardcover book as an introduction to that part of the workbook. So you will need both. Like Relationship Rescue, this workbook deserves many more than five stars. Combined, the two are as close as you can get to having a hands-on guide for improving your relationships without having a trained counselor present. The combination is significantly better than just using either one alone. The workbook lacks the context, and the hardcover lacks all of the richness of these exercises. It's too bad that most people will take on this workbook because they have a bad or failing relationship. It would be much better to start with the approach in the book and workbook in the beginning. As I mentioned with regard to Relationship Rescue, I hope marriage advisors, parents, living together couples, and engaged people will become familiar with this workbook and recommend using both books together to others. Dr. Phil's approach is extremely direct. As in Relationship Rescue, he makes it clear that you have to first change yourself before you can change you relationship. Relationship Rescue by itself is extremely well structured for easy use both as a book and as a workbook. This workbook is even better structured for use, because of the many directions inside for how to integrate the two books. Like Relationship Rescue, it is divided into seven steps (define and diagnose where the relationship is now; get rid of your wrong thinking about relationships; find out what you are doing to hurt the relationships; internalize the values needed to build and maintain strong relationships; the necessary format for a strong relationship; and how to reconnect and manage the relationship). Each section is filled with diagnostic questions for you and your partner to use, as well as directions for implementing what you learn. I found that retaking some of the quizzes was very helpful to me in refocusing me on needed improvements, and encouraging me by letting me see how much change I had made since reading Relationship Rescue. The process involved is a good one. It begins with identifying stalled thinking, works on stallbusting that thinking, and then builds new habits that will work better. The steps are even more extensive than in Relationship Rescue, but you can take them in bite-sized amounts over a longer period of time. Before you are done, you will be sharing much of what you have done with your partner. I have to believe that anyone who was told that their partner had been working on these questions and exercis

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