From the Publisher
“Relationship Saboteurs is for anyone who wants long-lasting love and can’t figure out how to find and keep it. Randi Gunther’s honest, illuminating, and straightforward approach helps us to understand something so basic yet so complex: how to love and be loved.”
Lori Gottlieb, bestselling author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
“Once you know where the land mines are, it’s much easier to avoid them. Randi Gunther’s Relationship Saboteurs is the guidebook you need to defuse and disarm the behaviors that implode relationships.”
Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Emotional Fitness for Couples and Emotional Fitness for Intimacy
“Randi Gunther is a lifesaver. She has saved mine a few times over. With this book, she puts her decades of experience and her phenomenally deep and intuitive knowledge of couples dynamics into an easily digestable and applicable form. Whether one does the included exercises or not, a careful reading of this book will give you a roadmap to get on the path towards a healthy relationship or marriage.”
Larry Klein, Grammy-award winning record producer, musician, and composer
Sooner or later, insightful people will discover a common denominator in their unsuccessful relationships—themselves. Clinical psychologist and marriage counselor Gunther supplies insights into ridding negative behaviors that tend to undermine healthy connections with others. Some of the culprits are a need for control, fear of intimacy, martyrdom, and trust breaking. She provides an explanation for each saboteur, examples from case studies, and exercises for handling situations more positively. She offers seven steps for breaking a behavioral habit, including observing one's own behavior without judgment, identifying triggers, and seeking a new vision. While difficult to put into practice, Gunther's prescriptions are easy to understand, practical, and assure improvement.