Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along with Your Mother-In-Law or Daughter-In-Lawby Phd Deanna Brann
At last, RELUCTANTLY RELATED: SECRETS TO GETTING ALONG WITH YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW OR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW gives us the definitive work on the all too common family dilemma of stressful relationships between mothers-in-law (MILs) and daughters-in law (DILs). Leading in-law relationship authority Dr. Deanna Brann delivers an insightful, stimulating guide for determining
At last, RELUCTANTLY RELATED: SECRETS TO GETTING ALONG WITH YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW OR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW gives us the definitive work on the all too common family dilemma of stressful relationships between mothers-in-law (MILs) and daughters-in law (DILs). Leading in-law relationship authority Dr. Deanna Brann delivers an insightful, stimulating guide for determining the root causes of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law difficulties and more importantly, provides the situation-specific, practical tools to change things for the better. While dealing with this often difficult or even painful subject, RELUCTANTLY RELATED is engaging and wonderfully readable with its extensive use of real world conversation examples and lighthearted cartoons. Dr. Brann introduces you to her witty collection of mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and husband/son personality types - from Off-the Wall Wanda to Doubting Donna to Struggling Steven - and goes on to show you how to identify the types in your own family. She then explains in everyday language how combinations of these personality types present relationship challenges, but goes on to give practical, hands-on tools for mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law to improve their relationship. There has never been such an entertaining yet helpful resource on the specific problems between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. RELUCANTLY RELATED provides unique, straightforward help to any MIL/DIL challenged family, and should be required reading for newlyweds and their mothers!
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I found Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-law to be a helpful little book about the complex relationship between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. Author and licensed clinical psychotherapist Dr. Deanna Brann was inspired to write this book because of her own relationship with her daughter in law. Provided here are several different scenarios and character types revolving not only around MIL's and DIL's but also husbands and sons. What I found most helpful was that Dr. Deanna Brann breaks each MIL, DIL , husband and son into character types. There's sets of exercises included to help aid the reader gain perspective and maybe shift their expectations bit to make the situation more positive. I read this book from the perspective of a daughter in law since I have been married for 17 years. I found the advice here to be helpful. I really like that the husbands and sons are also included in the MIL/DIL relationship dynamic. Husbands and sons can have a huge effect on these in-law relationships. I can relate to this quote, and it instantly made me laugh out loud: ..."Even though Wanda is the most challenging type of MIL to deal with, she can be dealt with. But for the best results, you must remember to keep two vital points in mind. First, never take anything Wanda says or does personally. I know that's hard to do, but it will be easier if you remember that she treats everyone this same way and that her behavior is much more about her than it is about you. Second, remember that this is probably going to be a slow process." p.143, Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-law ... I also liked that there's a chapter dedicated to matching up the different character types and behavior patterns and showcasing the results and possible ways of dealing with different scenarios. I also enjoyed the chapter on perception and reactions. As a nice touch, the book is peppered with illustrations and has a touch of humor throughout to make this an entertaining read. I recommend Reluctantly Related to mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws who are looking to gain some insight into this complex relationship. Special thanks to Rebecca over @ The Cadence Group for my free review copy. Disclaimer: This review is my honest opinion. I did not receive any type of compensation for reading and reviewing this book. While I receive free books from publishers and authors, such as this one, I am under no obligation to write a positive review.
Reviewed by Martina Svyantek for Readers' Favorite Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along with Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law is a bit of a mouthful, but the advice contained in this book does truly classify Dr. Deanna Brann’s book as an “In-Law Survival Guide.” Plus, it has helpful little comics along the way, which keep the mood light and upbeat even when tackling difficult topics. For those who have any level of friction (small, medium, large, or apocalyptic), this is a very useful book. Dr. Brann includes some very helpful hints about how to not only get along and keep the peace, but to grow more understanding about where each side of the conflict is coming from, in terms of attitude and background. Though there are many jokes about the “Monster-in-Law,” this chronicles with both humor and heartache the struggles that many women go through when two families merge and branch off into a third. There are jokes, but there are also insightful coping methods, as if to say that the author is one of us. When my husband and I were newly-weds, my relationship with his mother was the last thing on my mind. And now, after reading through Reluctantly Related, I realize just how lucky I have been! My mother-in-law and I get along just fine; I think that there will always be some level of tension, just between “my way” and “the way things have been done,” but we are lucky enough to have a relationship where we can actually sit down and talk about things instead of letting them stew. I would recommend this as a good read for brides- and mother-in-laws-to-be, those who currently are, and the individuals who bring them together (i.e., the husband/son).
I found myself so engrossed in this book that I was reading excerpts aloud to my fiance. He was astounded at how pparallel the scenarios are aligned to our life. I have always found myself feeling anxiety around my future in-laws and even much animosity toward them. My mother-in-law is definitely and Off The Wall Wanda, and through the exercises I began to understand why she is like this and how to better deal with my MIL. I read the entire book in one weekend, just could not put it down as I kept saying, "Yes, this is exactly her!"