Remind Me Again Why I Married You

Remind Me Again Why I Married You

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by Rita Ciresi

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No one blends humor and heartbreak like Rita Ciresi, whose award-winning novels are lauded as much for their generous wit as for their unflinching honesty. Ciresi’s crowd-pleasing novel Pink Slip captivated readers and critics alike, introducing two utterly unforgettable characters and a love story both bittersweet and comic. Now Ciresi returns to the


No one blends humor and heartbreak like Rita Ciresi, whose award-winning novels are lauded as much for their generous wit as for their unflinching honesty. Ciresi’s crowd-pleasing novel Pink Slip captivated readers and critics alike, introducing two utterly unforgettable characters and a love story both bittersweet and comic. Now Ciresi returns to the people and place of that irresistible bestseller in a riotous and rueful, sexy and poignant tale of married love…a novel that asks how two people who fell desperately, passionately, heartbreakingly in love can sustain a second act.

It’s Valentine’s Day, and Lisa Strauss, nee Diodetto, is spending it playing dutiful wife at a $100-a-head benefit instead of in bed with Eben, her hardworking husband of (is it only?) five years. Once upon a time, Lisa, too, was a member of the corporate workaday world--until she fell in love with her boss (Eben), gave birth to a cute but rambunctious son, and gradually morphed into a stay-at-home mom. Somewhere in the mix Lisa also is a writer with ambitions of fame and glory, but those dreams seem to be shrinking, along with her sex life. That is, until a hotshot literary agent shows interest in Lisa’s magnum opus.

Suddenly, she has a pen name, and an excerpt of her book appears in Playboy. In between revising chapters, Lisa is trying--and failing miserably--to get pregnant again. She’s going house-hunting with Cynthia Farquhar, the gorgeous blond Realtor/divorcee who has become her closest confidante (and the object of Eben’s secret fantasies). And she’s wondering if this is all marriage is and can ever be: bonded for life to a man who may never again be the red-hot lover of their pre-marriage union. In fact, he just may turn out to be the conflicted protagonist of her novel--a devoted family man whose moral fiber may not be strong enough to withstand the slings and arrows of lust and temptation. As their lives begin to bizarrely mirror aspects of Lisa’s book…as marital life as they know it teeters on the edge of utter chaos, Lisa and Eben search--apart and together--for the answer to the question that has plagued husbands and wives since time immemorial: Can love survive marriage?

In a wickedly funny, right-on-target look at love and relationships, Rita Ciresi peels back the layers of a marriage with equal doses of hilarity and humanity. Filled with all the zest, zingers, and unexpected surprises of life, Remind Me Again Why I Married You is this uncommonly gifted author at her lusty and liberating best.

Editorial Reviews

Library Journal
This is a sequel to Ciresi's Pink Slip, a funny romp of a book in which charmingly wacky Lisa Diodetto falls in love with and eventually marries her stuffy yet sexy boss. Now the couple is married and has a five-year-old son named Danny, and it seems they've lost their spark. Lisa is a stay-at-home mom trying to become a famous novelist on the side. Eben works long hours at a job that he finds unfulfilling, the couple is having problems conceiving another baby, and Danny has bad adenoids that cause him to wheeze and snort up a storm. All in all, not much is pleasant in the Strauss household. And it's not that pleasant to read about-we get lots of details about Eben's chronic constipation, for example, and there doesn't seem to be a speck of joy in Eben and Lisa's relationship or parenting. So instead of being funny and charming, the sequel, which is billed on the book jacket as a true look into a marriage, is simply depressing. Fans of Ciresi's previous work may enjoy the reprise, but they will end up disappointed if they're expecting another cute, cheeky tale.-Beth Gibbs, Davidson, NC Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
Kirkus Reviews
Bickering couple fight about everything. Lisa Diodetto, the gutsy heroine of Pink Slip (1999), is five years older and not a lot happier. For one thing, she and hubby Eben Strauss can't conceive a second child-not that she's absolutely sure she wants another, since the first has adenoids. Little Danny's loud snoring isn't the only thing that keeps her tossing and turning at night-practical Ebb just doesn't think much of the novel she's writing. Okay, it is about a contemporary marriage on the rocks, but that doesn't mean it's their marriage. Especially since Ebb is the newly promoted Vice President of Internal Relations at his company. He used to be halfway across the country every time she ovulated; but since he's been home so much more, routine make-a-baby sex reminds her only of the crushing disappointment of secondary infertility. Just because stay-at-home mom Lisa secretly dreams of becoming a published author doesn't mean she wants out. Maybe she needs a project. Maybe buying a house would be a good idea. The real-estate agent is a purring blond named Cynthia Farquhar. Cynthia couldn't possibly be interested in a middle-aged stick-in-the-mud like Ebb, could she? Not when Ebb's tendency to constipation is explored in telling detail. Lisa broods over things like misplaced toenail clippings and the way colorblind Ebb always picks out the worst tie. Maybe that phone call from a New York literary agent will cheer her up. They meet in Manhattan for sushi, and she's utterly put off by the way he harasses the waiter for half a portion of eel, instead of being man enough to order the whole squiggly thing. Not to mention he's a total phony and asks her to rewrite the predictable ending of hernovel. She might as well go home and keep obsessing about belches, burps, poops, farts, and turds (lots of puerile scatological humor, folks). Maybe Ebb will even get off the pot and tell her he still loves her. Wearying. Agent: Geri Thoma

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chapter one
My married name is Lisa Strauss. From the outside, I resemble a respectable woman. A photographer seeking to capture the essence of the American female might stroll into my local supermarket and take a snapshot of me unloading a cart full of milk, maxipads, Cheerios, Boston butt, Idaho Spuds, onion bagels, and a king-size box of Junior Mints. Later the photographer would develop the picture and say: Voilà. Yet another ten-pound-overweight wife and mother who wears a stained jogging suit, drives a Toyota Camry, and pigs out on Smarties or Dum-Dums when she gets pissed at herself. Or her husband. Or her kid.
Okay. So maybe that’s an accurate portrait of me from the outside. But on the inside, I’m anything but an ordinary wife who purchases California prunes for her sometimes-constipated husband at the Price Chopper market (her eyes firmly turned away from those Cosmo and Redbook headlines that read ten ways to fire him up 2-nite! and turn your marital angst into marital bliss). And my true self is miles away from the regular mom who mock-threatens her son squirming in the front seat of the shopping cart, “Put a stop to that whining right now–or I’ll put you on the grocery belt and refuse to pay for you when the cashier says, ‘And your grand total is . . .’ ”
I loathe admitting this to anyone, but I’m an (aspiring) writer. Which means I’m a professional liar. Or maybe it just means I lead one lusty-slut of a fantasy life and that I neglect myself and my family–never mind my broom and my mop and my toilet brush–to nurture the odd assortment of characters who keep moving theircumbersome furniture around in my head.
My husband, Eben, on the other hand, is so grounded in reality–so normal, so disgustingly logical–that people often remark on what an “unusual couple” we make (translation: Whoa! Are you two ever mismatched!). If I were seeking a shorthand method of characterizing Ebb, it might run like this: For the past ten years, he has worked for the same pharmaceutical corporation, whose hottest-selling drug is an over-the-counter medicine meant to promote regularity. Plus he wears a lot of gray. Plus–I mean–the guy has never ridden a bike in his life!
But I love him anyway. And even though Ebb always tells me ’love you instead of I love you (as if to disavow any responsibility for harboring such a foolish and uncontrollable emotion), I know he loves me just as much back. He, after all, was the one who proposed we honor Valentine’s Day by cocooning at home. I didn’t put up an argument. Although I know that a truly sexy woman (i.e., a single woman) would expect to be wined and dined at some romantic candlelit restaurant, the moment I got married I morphed into the world’s cheapest date. Nothing makes me–or Ebb–happier than sitting cross-legged in front of the coffee table eating take-out Chinese, watching our son, Danny, crack open the fortune cookies and phonetically sound out our fates. (“Daddy, your cookie says: Hap-pee is he who is CON-tent with his lot. Mommy, your cookie says: Life is a tray-juh-dee for those who feel, and a co-muh-dee for those who think.”)
But this year fate wouldn’t let Ebb and me stay at home–and thus stay out of trouble–on Valentine’s Day. At the eleventh hour, Ebb’s CEO and his wife found out we had “no plans to speak of” for the evening, so they asked us to substitute for them at a benefit cocktail hour and dinner for the American Heart Association. Ebb–ever the good company man–said yes, which meant I had to do everything short of calling a dog kennel to find a last-minute place to park Danny (who kept repeating, “But I don’t want a baby-sitter. I want chop suey”).
Ebb was the designated driver that evening–not because I planned on boozing it up, but because his car (a silver Audi with a meticulously vacuumed gray leather interior) was much more presentable than my car (a baby-blue Toyota with Froot Loops pulverized into the floor mats and sticky grape Juicy Juice splattered on the red plastic booster seat).
Ebb had picked me up straight from the office, so he had to heave his heavy briefcase into the back before I could climb into the passenger side. I was too aware of the date–a holiday meant to celebrate amour–and so the kiss I first gave Ebb felt obligatory. My lips hit his cheek, and my nose bumped his glasses. But then Ebb drew me closer–or at least as close as we could get with the stick shift between us–and said, “Again?”
“Yes,” I said. “Definitely. Again.”
The second time we kissed was a lot more wowsa. Ebb sneaked his hand underneath my unbuttoned winter coat and I slipped my hand beneath his gray wool jacket. My mistake–because when I pulled away, Ebb’s jacket fell open, revealing that he carried one of the worst masculine genetic deficiencies nature ever invented. The specifics pain me, but they must be admitted: My husband is severely color-blind. And he wore a turd-brown necktie that made me want to shudder!
I might have strongly suggested that Ebb change his tie (with these loving words: Lose the tie!) if he hadn’t told me, “You look nice tonight.”
I glanced down at my white silk blouse and black velvet skirt. “I look like I should be standing on a riser, belting out the ‘Hallelujah Chorus with five hundred other amateur singers.”
Ebb peeled back my coat placket and gave my blouse a closer look. “I think I can see your bra–”
“That’s because you are looking to see my bra.”
“Do you want to change?”
“If I change,” I said, “will you change?” I pointed to his tie.
Ebb immediately put the car in reverse. “We’re running late,” he said. “Do me a favor and look out your side window.”
“What for?”
“This morning–when I backed down the driveway–I almost crushed a cat.”
Once we made it out on the main road (without flattening a single feline), I looked down at my wrinkled skirt and sighed. I couldn’t believe I had married a man who thought that brown went together with gray. And I just knew I should have put on a better outfit. But I’d been in a rush to feed Danny a consolation meal of La Choy chow mein before I dropped him off at the home of one of his Montessori schoolteachers. I hadn’t had time to fix myself up. And I guess by not paying much attention to what I wore, I was making a silent statement (which, of course, Ebb completely failed to get). I was telling Ebb that even though he was a loving, faithful husband who just that afternoon had sent me the standard overpriced dozen red roses, I still didn’t like the way he forced me to call around for baby-sitters at the last moment. I didn’t like the way he always put the office before home. And I especially didn’t like attending these work-related parties where, whenever I got separated from him, I was forced to introduce myself as “Eben Strauss’s wife.”
Just for the record, “I Gotta Be Me” was not playing on oldies radio as we sat in traffic on Route 9. But the lyrics to that obnoxious song were running through my head as Ebb idly drummed his fingers on the steering wheel, then glanced over at me when I reached beneath my skirt to fix my twisted slip.
“I know you don’t like to go to these . . . doo-rahs, as you call them,” he said.
“Whatever gave you that impression?” I asked.
“You keep fidgeting.”
“I’m wearing control-top panty hose,” I said.
“Decode, please.”
“They’re squishing my ovaries.” I stuck my thumb under the too-tight waistband of my stockings and gave the elastic a dissatisfied snap. “And speaking of fashion–”
“Let’s not. Since I know exactly what’s coming.”
“But, Ebb. Really. I just have to say. That tie of yours–”
“This is a perfectly respectable tie.”
“–is the color of diarrhea.”
Ebb cleared his throat. “I prefer to think of it as burgundy.”
He pushed up his glasses. I bit my tongue. Someone really needed to inform Ebb that gold-rimmed glasses never should be worn by men whose jet-black hair is getting shot through with glistening silver. But it wasn’t going to be me. I had compassion (never mind a few gray hairs coming in myself).
I pulled down the mirrored visor, fished my lipstick out of my clutch purse, and applied a sloppy coat of Winter Frost to my chapped lips.
“You know,” I told Ebb, “we hardly ever spend any time together anymore.”
“But we’re together right now.”
“Together alone.” I tossed my lipstick back into my purse and closed the gold jaws with a decisive click. “Why do I have to accompany you to every social shebang?”
Ebb kept his eyes on the road. “Because.”
“ ’Cuz why?”
“ ’Cuz if you don’t, then people will think–”
“What?” I asked.
“–that we have marital problems.”
“Imagine!” I said.
“I don’t have to imagine.”
I laughed. Ebb didn’t. At first. But after I puckered up my Winter Frost lips and blew him a kiss, he finally smiled. “This tie is burgundy.”
“No, it’s turds.”
He shook his head. “You’re impossible to live with.”
I nudged him on the arm. “And yet you do it.”
“I take my vows seriously,” he said.
“So do I,” I said. “I love. And I cherish. But I never promised to choke down smoked oysters and bacon-wrapped scallops at cocktail parties. Nor did I pledge to act like I’m fascinated while your colleagues drone on about the virtues of this or that junk bond or hedge fund. Although I have to say, even after all these years–”
“All these years,” Ebb said. “Five years we’ve been married.”
“–that I still get a kick out of watching people’s faces when you introduce me and fail to pronounce my name right.”
Ebb flicked me a warning look before he glanced over his shoulder and changed lanes. I didn’t heed the warning. I put my hand up to the base of my neck as if I were adjusting my own imaginary turdlike necktie, made several manly-man throat-clearing sounds, and said (with just the right touch of Ebb’s Brooklynese), “ ‘This is my wife, Lisar.’ ”
It took a second. But the corner of Ebb’s eyes finally crinkled up with pleasure, the way they always did whenever I displayed my talent for mimicry.
“I give you an A for accuracy, Lisar,” he said.
“Not an A plus?” I asked.
“Now, that I might give to your imitation of Nixon.”
“I’m most fond of my Liberace,” I said. “But unusual voices like that are easy to get down.”
“Mine wasn’t?”
I shook my head. Ebb’s voice–at least initially–had eluded me. Maybe I had trouble capturing it because my own voice is loud and raucous (like a donkey braying or a shore bird cawing), whereas Ebb’s voice is low and level, like the sad, smooth notes that come out of the dark, black bell of a clarinet.
“I really have to listen to you,” I said. “And watch you. At these thrilling social pageants we have to attend.”
“And what have you observed?” Ebb asked.
“That you like to keep me by your side.”
“Most women wouldn’t complain about that, Lisar.”
“I’m not most women. And so I’ve been wondering why–lately–you get this totally hemorrhoidal expression on your face every time I head for the ladies’.”
Ebb tucked his tongue into his cheek. “I just know you’re getting yourself into trouble in there.”
“How so?”
“Everybody knows,” Ebb said, “that the ladies’ room is where women go to complain about their husbands.”
“I never complain about you,” I said, “to anyone but you. Besides, you know I can’t take the women at these parties.” I shuddered. “Those wives . . . are such wives!”
From the Hardcover edition.

Copyright© 2003 by Rita Ciresi

Meet the Author

Rita Ciresi is the author of the novels Pink Slip and Blue Italian and two collections of short fiction, Sometimes I Dream in Italian and Mother Rocket, the latter of which won the Flannery O’Connor Award for Short Fiction. She lives with her husband and daughter in Florida.

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Remind Me Again Why I Married You 3.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Five years ago Lisa Diodetto married her boss Eben Strauss (see PINK SLIP). They have had one child, adenoid decibel maker Danny and have unsuccessfully tried for a second kid though Lisa has doubts about another wunderkind keeping her up at night snoring peacefully. Lisa works on a novel whose story line is a marriage falling apart. Ebb hates her work as he internally personalizes the theme. In other words marriage has not led to happily ever after for Lisa. A depressed Lisa seeks some contentment so she looks into buying a house. However, she wonders if the realtor has the hots for her spouse though she knows Ebb¿s constipation problems cramps any trysts. Still looking for a shade of sunshine Lisa meets a New York literary agent at a Manhattan sushi bar. She finds him even slimier than the food. Lisa concludes that life stinks, but it might as well be from the loving bodily emissions of her husband and son.

Marriage and raising children take a pounding in this depressing tongue in cheek tale that literally and figuratively concludes that life stinks. The story line goes for bodily humor and funny asides, but Ebb is no Archie and REMIND ME AGAIN WHY I MARRIED YOU is no wild Animal House. Fans of Rita Cersi will enjoy Lisa¿s absurd lament, as she satirically dismisses marriage and children as necessary as releasing gas.

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Guest More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed this book. Being a new mother and being married, I could relate to so much of what the author writes about. It is a light read.