Rewriting Life Scripts

Rewriting Life Scripts

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by Liliane Desjardins, Irene Watson, Nancy Oelklaus
     
 

Finally a treatment approach that embraces the whole family!

In one sense, alcoholics and drug addicts are the fortunate ones. They have to learn a new

way to live or risk death, incarceration, and loss of everything they hold dear.

But what about the other members of their family? Because so many of them believe that the

addict is the problem, they do

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Overview

Finally a treatment approach that embraces the whole family!

In one sense, alcoholics and drug addicts are the fortunate ones. They have to learn a new

way to live or risk death, incarceration, and loss of everything they hold dear.

But what about the other members of their family? Because so many of them believe that the

addict is the problem, they do nothing about their own habits of mind and heart-and continue

to live in resentment, anger, and fear, feeding their own stress level and shortening their lives in a

way that's very different from the addict-yet, on another level, remarkably similar.

Rewriting Life Scripts: Transformational Recovery for Families of Addicts contains information,

explanation, and processes for change. Following the steps outlined in this book brings peace of

mind, forgiveness, reconciliation, and the ability-truly-to live happily ever after.

About the Authors

Nancy Oelklaus, Ed. D. has more than 30 years in education, specializing in curriculum development, professional

development, and leadership development. First and foremost, she is a teacher. She's also an author, coach,

speaker, and workshop leader.

Irene Watson, MA brings over 40 years of life changing experiences and study into her hands-on retreats and

workshops. Her background includes psychosynthesis therapy and entrepreneurship. Irene's vision is to inspire others to find their authentic self.

Liliane Desjardins, LCAS loves helping people to do better. With 32 years of clinical experience, she understands and appreciates the beauty, resilience, resourcefulness and deep intelligence of

human spirit.

Acclaim for Rewriting Life Scripts

"Rewriting Life Scripts is a must read for everybody in a family that lives with

addiction. A lot has been written about and for people who are addicted. But this book is

for the family. And it's good. Their advice is very straightforward and practical and their description of the family disease is a very real picture of the

kind of reactions family members develop when they live with someone who is addicted."

--Tony Mandarich, former NFL player, author of My Dirty Little Secrets: Steroids, Alcohol, and God

"Rewriting Life Scripts is an invaluable roadmap for anyone navigating the difficult journey through the family disease

of alcoholism, with stories of success from real people who have 'been there, done that' and are

willing to share their experience, strength and hope. Addiction doesn't discriminate and neither

should recovery -- recovery for the family too."

--William C. Moyers, author of Broken and

From Life Scripts Press

Learn more about this book at www.RewritingLifeScripts.com

SEL026000 Self-Help : Substance Abuse and Addictions - General

FAM501000 Family and Relationships : Dysfunctional Families

SEL003000 Self-Help : Adult Children of Alcoholics

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781932690972
Publisher:
Loving Healing Press
Publication date:
03/15/2010
Pages:
184
Product dimensions:
8.00(w) x 10.00(h) x 0.39(d)

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crazypsychobookloverLC More than 1 year ago
Rewriting Life Scripts Transformational Recovery for Families of Addicts Authors: Liliane Desjardins, Nancy Oelklaus, Irene Watson Publisher: Life Scripts Press ISBN: 978-1-932690-97-2 When a family member has an addiction (to alcohol, drugs, etc.) the other members of the family by necessity are forced to change their behaviors, their lifestyle and their expectations. In many cases, these changes have occurred slowly and over a period of years or even decades. When the addicted family member make the monumental move towards recovery, the family often finds itself thrown into a new kind of chaos without expecting or understanding it. This book is based mainly on using the 12 step addiction recovery process, but everything discussed can be utilized regardless of the method of recovery used. The book is divided into several parts, each dealing with a different stage of recovery. Families will find this helpful, enabling them to study and work through each recovery phrase as it's being experienced by the recovering family member. By completing all parts, the reader will reach a clear understanding of just what changes and adjustments they have had to make in the past and how the family dynamics will now be changing for the better. Topics are covered in a clear and easy to understand manner, explaining all the stages of change, defining the various roles played by family members in both the dysfunctional (addiction) phase and the truly transforming and freeing journey the family members all take as they work together to rewrite and change the family dynamics. The three authors bring a wide range of life experiences, education and career training to this work. This gives the book a deeper, broader application that will apply to an untold number of families. I highly recommend this book to anyone who works with addiction and recovery, and to anyone and everyone who is part of a family at any point on the addiction spectrum. Excellent resource and promising tool for a happier family.
FeatheredQuillBookReviews More than 1 year ago
There is no doubt that addictions, whether they be related to drugs, relationships or gambling, have a negative impact on everyone involved in the addict's life, not just the addict himself/herself. Yet, when treatment is being obtained by the person with the addiction, often times involving family in the recovery process is overlooked, or even nonexistent. Unfortunately because of this, family members in the recovering addict's life do not receive the special attention they need in order for them to properly heal from the ravages that addiction has wrecked in their lives. When the addict begins the healing process while working their recovery program and is able to move onto a healthier lifestyle, family members are often left with no where to process their feelings and may develop anger, resentment and fears involving the addict and their relationship with him/her. But what are family members to do, and where should they go to obtain the necessary information and assistance to allow them to process their emotions in a healthy environment and manner, especially when they are often times completely ignored in the recovery process? Thankfully, authors Desjardins, Oelklaus and Watson have created, Rewriting Life Scripts: Transformational Recovery for Families of Addicts, an informational text and workbook that addresses the lack of education and support sorely needed for family members of those individuals suffering from any type of addiction. Not only does this book contain solid information about addiction and the recovery process for both the addict and their family, it also includes real life stories, many of them pointing out the struggles and successes that allows readers to really identify with their own personal struggles as they move through recovery. As a former substance abuse counselor, working with many clients severely ravaged by their addictions, I know firsthand how critically important it is to engage the entire family in the recovery process, not just the addict themselves, for there to be complete and continued success for everyone involved. This book does just that by starting out with the most important part, understanding addiction and what goes on in the recovery process, terms and concepts that are often misunderstood, thus creating an atmosphere filled with untruths that cause blocks in the healing process. Rewriting Life Scripts also includes exercises and questions readers can utilize to not only further explore how addictions have impacted their lives, but how to move away from the negative behaviors and into the positive ones. Last, but not least, this book also includes suggestions for better ways to communicate, improving coping skills and descriptions of the stages of grief, all subjects that are equally critical parts in the recovery process for family in recovery. Quill says: This book should definitely be a recommended read for family members as they embark on their own journey of recovery, because without this critical information, emotional trauma will most likely continue to occur despite any positive progress being made in the addict's life.
busygirlAS More than 1 year ago
Authors Nancy Oelklaus, Irene Watson and Liliane Dejardins show the reality that alcoholism is a family disease and finally published a one-step alcoholic recovery book for the whole family. Rewriting Life Scripts has touched my heart after losing a husband at forty-five years of age and a daughter at thirty-nine to this horrible, worldwide disease. This book described my nightmarish years back in the seventies and eighties and made me painfully face how my past actions with enabling my husband caused one of my daughters to be dramatized all her growing years. The sad part was that I never knew she had suffered in silence and had become an alcoholic until her last two years of battling this demon. While reading this book, I felt like I was back in Al-Anon meetings. This is a must read for abusers so they will come to learn how each family member suffers from this demon. The alcoholic needs to know that it's not them we hate, it's the disease. We need to unite as a family and help everyone recover. It's not that this disease may, might or could kill-it will. Alberta H. Sequeira (2006) A Healing Heart; A Spiritual Renewal (2009) Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis (2010) Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism
beckvalleybooks More than 1 year ago
When I first received this book to review I must admit the first thing that sprung to mind when I read the word addiction was drink and drugs, thanks to this book and Irene Watson's other book, The Sitting Swing, they have opened my eyes to what an addiction really is. I now realise that an addiction can be anything behavioural, such as co-dependency, workaholism, sexual, to my initial thoughts of drink and drugs, it is what we do to hide from the pain that we do not want to deal with. What everyone tends to forget about when the addicts starts receiving help, is that behind the addict and their problems there is a family who also needs help. The addict, once they admit they need help, can receive various treatments to try and overcome their problem, but what happens to the family at this time and more importantly how do the family react and deal with the addict. The family need help, not only on how to deal with this major issue in their lives but how to understand how the addiction could have started in the first place and how to help the addict on the recovery process, all of which cannot really be done until they have first cleared themselves of problems. This book is here for them, written from years of research and clinical practice, and should be given to every addicts family as part of the whole recovery process. If an addicts family are unable deal with the issues, due to lack of knowledge, this could be the difference of of recovery and loosing their will to help themselves. I have learnt so much from this book, I cannot put into words just how important I feel this is to read. In life we tend to hang on to our old survival techniques to get us through the difficult patches, hiding from the problem or pain, thinking that this will make everything alright or that the problem will go away. Unfortunately the way we do this hasn't helped with any problems in the past so why should it now. We need to find the courage to face a problem, instead of going into denial, and realise that there are things in life that we cannot change or control, what will be will be, we need to let go of the problem and surrender ourselves to these old patterns and to channel that energy into improving our life instead, making us stronger. The book is a fantastic resource of help to all family members. It gives the reader a greater understanding of addictions and recovery, with great insight into the inner lives of addicts, how addictions affect family dynamics that can be carried into adult life. It is full of stories to bring the reader closer to understanding the topic, success stories, questions and answers and even has some quote here and there. The book is all about our current beliefs and acceptances as we were taught as we grew up and how we can rewrite these. Our lesson in life should be to trust and enjoy every moment in life, believe in yourself and realise that nothing is perfect, we cannot control everything, To Love Life Again !! For me the chapter on 'Making changes in your life first' was the most important, especially the Fear part, in fact I read and re-read this as it was quite an eye opener for me and I wanted to fully understand. One line in the book stood out for me and made so much sense - 'Love is the energy that heals feelings and the power that restores us to sanity'. Extremely Highly Recommended.