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From the Trade Paperback edition.
"Parenting children during the 'tween years from ten to fifteen is like building a bridge that enables young persons to cross from childhood into adulthood. The practical and informative tools in this book will help you bring out the best in your teenager--and yourself."
--William Sears, M.D.
"Buckle-up and read The Roller-Coaster Years for its empathy, invaluable information, and practical tips. It is a well-researched and user-friendly guide that can help you help your child build skills, gain confidence, and prepare for the breathless ride toward high school."
--Carol Weston, author of Girltalk
Strategies: Is Your Parenting Style Too Nice or Too Negative to Be Effective?
As we strive to become positive parents, it can be helpful to examine our style. Read each of the situations below, choose one answer, and mark it in the space provided. Then proceed to the scoring section, and on to evaluating your responses.
1. Your daughter has come home from school clearly upset. She confesses to being excluded and ridiculed by girls she thought were her friends. Would you (a) empathize by sharing a similar memory and advise her to take a wait-and-see approach; (b) telephone the mothers of the girls causing your daughter's distress and ask them to intervene; (c) dismiss the episode by telling your daughter that she has you as her best friend; (d) label those so-called girlfriends "catty," "bitchy," and not worth her time.
2. Today is report card day. Your child's grades are satisfactory overall, maybe even wonderful, except for one or two. Your strategy would be to (a) call the teacher immediately for a conference to discuss the low grades and what can be done to improve them; (b) commend overall performance, but ask your child to explain the poorer grades; (c) focus on the positive aspects of the report card only, because to do otherwise would only cause trouble; (d) figure one or two low grades are nothing compared to how badly most children this age do in school.
3. Your son seems down these past two weeks. When you probed "What's got you down?" he dismissed your efforts with monosyllabic responses. Your next step would be to (a)
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Posted July 26, 2009
It is a rare book that covers the tween to teen years with little more than a chapter covering ages 8-12, and another chapter covering ages 12 and up. We begin to examine our parenting style and become aware of new issues at or around the time our child is 11. We have finally become the experts on our children, and they reciprocate by growing up and presenting us with a whole new universe of problems. This book, The Roller Coaster Years, by Carlene C. Gianetti and Margaret Sagarese, is the missing piece in child rearing material. What a spectacular find! You absolutely must get this book, and refer to it often, if you live or work with children between the ages of 8 and 15. We know what is within "normal" limits for our babies, toddlers and primary grade school children. This book educates us further as to what is "normal" for our budding young adults. Learning what to expect, and rational ways of handling situations that arise, will give us the confidence we need to continue to guide our children into adulthood.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted April 4, 2000
Chapter-by-chapter real-world tips and explanations for why adolescents 'do what they do' -- and oftentimes why they DON'T do what parents expect. This was a wonderful source book for a Girl Scout training course offered in our Council, and gives a clear, charted course through the minefield of adolescence. Easy reading, too -- sound advice presented without the pretentious psychobabble of numerous other books on the subject.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.