ROMANSWERS: Practical answers to common questions troubling relationships, romance, and marriage [NOOK Book]



Practical answers to common questions

troubling relationships, romance, and marriage.


Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

In a fast changing, increasingly complex world, committed caring relationships seem harder to maintain than ever before, yet the desire for these unions remains strong, whether in ...

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Practical answers to common questions

troubling relationships, romance, and marriage.


Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

In a fast changing, increasingly complex world, committed caring relationships seem harder to maintain than ever before, yet the desire for these unions remains strong, whether in dating, cohabitation, significant partnerships, or marriage. Although about half of marriages end in divorce, more than half divorced people elect to remarry.  

From answering questions about relationships over the internet for a year and a half (for Cox Interactive Media/Austin 360), certain abiding concerns kept recurring.  Not only did people want answers; they also wanted instruction about the nature of certain problems built into the nature of chosen caring relationships, problems that in many cases won't go away.  In response to this desire for help in managing these basic problems, ROMANSWERS was written.  

Each of the twenty-seven sections in the book is built around a topic of concern that is subjected to four questions, the answers to which provide understandings many people seek.  A list of all the sections and questions that are answered follow.


"When I give everything to a man, and do everything he wants, why do I end up getting pushed around, demeaned, and cheated on?"

"When my boyfriend loses his temper, cuts me down in anger, later says he's sorry and didn't mean what he said, should I accept his apologies when he keeps doing it again?"

"Why does a man from a loving, healthy, and giving family background keep getting into relationships with women who turn out to be exploitive, even turning abusive when they don't get their way?"

"After two abusive wives, is it just a matter of time before I get over my hurt and general anger at women?"


"To regain my trust, should my husband be completely honest and describe the sexual details of his affair so we can get through this unhappiness and start moving on?"

"Is it the wife's fault when her husband has an affair, and how does the couple recover the marriage?"

"How am I ever going to get beyond superficial relationships with women after my fiancée, whom I love more than ever, broke off our engagement by having an affair?"

"When your wife comes back from a high school reunion having had a fling (not sexual) with an old flame, what needs to happen to make the marriage okay?"


"Why would a stunning, dynamic, confident, and high salaried woman put off the kind of men she wants to meet, and attract the kind she doesn't?"

"Although I would never cheat on someone I was involved with and still care about, do you think it's okay to date her best friend now that I've broken up with my ex?"

"When the woman I'm ready to marry says she wants a man who can offer her everything from A to Z, and some un-definable Z is lacking in me, what is missing in my attractiveness to her?"

"What should I do about a man I first met on the internet who, without asking me, is now planning a future for us, a guy it turns out I don't really know, who doesn't really know me?"


"Since my girlfriend has broken up with me and I don't know why, is it worthwhile my finding out, or is it better to avoid further hurt and just let the relationship go?"

"How do you break up without causing the other person a lot pain, and then go from being romantic to just being good friends?"

"Why is breaking up so hard to do, and why would a man act so angry when he is really feeling hurt?"

"How do I recover my self-respect and remove a man from my life who convinced me I was crazy to doubt his word when he kept lying to me, and who won't let me go now that I've broken off with him?"


"Is it okay, once a couple becomes married, to change and take each other for granted, not acting romantic anymore?"

"Is my boyfriend going to continue his disgusting, messy habits after we get married, even though I've told him he lives like a slob?"

"Why does my husband act so hurt and angry when I'm only trying to change him into a better person?"

"Why is it every time I finally meet a man I like, sooner or later I discover something about him I can't stand, he refuses to change, and so the relationship ends?"


"Is my boyfriend being honest when he says cheating on me was just a one time temptation, not an affair; and even if he's right, how am I supposed to trust him again?"

"Since my girlfriend started keeping more to herself right after we moved in together, does that mean that she is probably cheating on me?"

"How can I get my boyfriend to stop looking over other women when I have told him how it hurts me, but he continues to have a wandering eye?"

"How am I supposed to trust a man who sleeps with me one night, then cheats and sleeps with someone else the next?"


"If I'm ready to get married but my boyfriend isn't, should I just tell him it's time to commit or call the relationship off?"

"Are there some signs to give a woman hope that after two years the man she loves might ever so slowly be moving toward a desire for marriage?"

"When the woman I love has been burned several times before and is shy of getting hurt again, how should I wait to see if she will ever commit?"

"Can parental divorce, and not wanting to go through divorce myself, make marriage more scary for a person like me?"


"Is it true that men and women learn to communicate so differently that they often misunderstand each other?"

"How can I find out if this girl likes me and let her know I like her, without having to speak up about it?"

"How do I break through my boyfriend's macho exterior so he will open up about his feelings instead of just acting moody and driving me crazy with his silence?"

"What does it mean when a guy, who doesn't look that attractive, can communicate well to a girl over the phone, but freezes up talking to her face to face?"


"Why do I and my wife get into all these stupid fights about small things that shouldn't make any difference?"

"Why do my husband and I fight more now than before we were married?"

"How can my fiancée and I keep from saying hurtful things we don't mean when we fight?"

"Just because I married a stubborn only child, does that mean my only choice is to fight all the time or else give in and let him have his way?"


"What should I do if nothing agreed to in our marriage counseling ever results in changes in our marriage?"

"Suppose I want us to get marriage counseling but my wife doesn't; is it worthwhile for just me to go?"

"When a couple goes to marriage counseling and it's not working, should they just give it up and get a divorce?"

"If attraction to my therapist is interfering with my relationship with my fiancé, what should I do?"


"How do single people in their middle years get discovered or discover those they want to date?"

"How does an attractive girl meet a nice guy to date when transferring into a new high school senior year?"

"Now that I'm finishing college and beginning a career, should I give up the club scene since I've never found a serious relationship there?"

"Is there something wrong with a girl who is almost eighteen and still has not had a boyfriend, only lots of boys for friends who think I'm nice and fun to talk to?"


"How does a couple keep their cultural differences from creating so much conflict that they break up the marriage?"

"What should we do when I love him enough to marry but he's not sure his strong feelings for me are exactly the same, so we keep fighting over how to feel, yet can't let each other go?"

"Should two single parents who love each other and get on great with each other's children just enjoy our relationship

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781465324658
  • Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
  • Publication date: 5/3/2001
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • File size: 230 KB

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