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Start with Your Cause:
What Gives You Purpose in Life?
Most people I talk to don't even know what a cause is, let alone have one. Yet it's easy to ascertain. Why are you alive? Are there people, places, or things that you live for? Is your reason for getting out of bed each morning to do something meaningful or to contribute? Or is it something more practical, like paying down the car payment? Unfortunately, most people don't have a cause. They live for the moment, indulging in whatever (or in some cases whoever) feels good, regardless of the consequences to themselves or others.
Your cause could be your children, your spouse, your parents, a loved one, or a creative passion, a technology, or a world advancement. I believe the reason most people contemplate suicide is that they have lost sight of their cause. I should know; I lived the first half of my life that way! But my whole life changed when I realized there was more to living my life than living for myself. Finding a cause I could care abouthelping people live better lives physically, financially, emotionally, mentally, and spirituallyhelped galvanize my efforts. A cause gave my life purpose, and I'd (still) be lost without it. My wife, Tia, and I wanted to do more for nonprofits, schools, and the destitute around the globe, so we started a nonprofit organization, the sole cause of which is to increase awareness of health and beautification. We are driven to make the world a better place because we have a cause.
As such, your cause will drive you. People with a cause do more because they are living outside their own heads, doing for others as much asif not more thanthey do for themselves. They have a reason to get up in the morning, a reason to save money, a reason to succeed, a reason to not just live, but thrive. Causes don't have to be political or spiritual, or for that matter even charitable. Examples of causes might include:
• To get a better job
• To explore the creativity of your youth
• To be more attractive to the opposite sex
• To live longer for your children and your partner
• To retire sooner
• To write a book
• To have more money
• To build a company to help the world
When you develop a cause and live for more than yourself, your own pleasure, or the moment, you are moving out of 'survival mode' and into 'revival mode.' Revival mode is a level of living that is spent enjoying a purpose-driven life, and that purpose will propel you.
What About Your Purpose?
We were all created for a specific purpose, and I believe that our main purpose in life is to be problem solvers. At some point in your life, you are going to be called upon to solve something. So my question for you is: how are you wired? I was the troublemaker in school. I talked in a loud voice, and my friends called me Big Mouth! Turns out, I'm now in the self-help profession. This is how I was 'bent,' and now I'm an international speaker, speaking on stages in front of audiences from small groups to upwards of tens of thousands of people. Doing television and radio, you have to have a big mouth and, as it turns out, I was perfectly wired for my purpose in life. How are you wired? Who are you at the core of your being?
When you believe in something at the core of your very being, when you have a cause so strong that it becomes the foundation of all you think, speak, and do, it cannot be moved or shaken; thus, the power to fulfill that cause is inevitable. Figuring out how you are bent and what your cause is serve as the first action steps to achieve your cause. This is where we get our uniqueness. I want you to be deliberate in making you the best YOU you can possibly be. And that's why you and your cause are synonymous. Knowing who you are and what your cause is gives you the ability to say, 'This is who I am, and if you don't agree with it, that's all right because I've made my peace with it, and no one, not even you, will deter me from my life's mission and the very cause for which I was created.'
Why do we need a cause and a purpose? Can't we just go through life consuming and spending and contributing to the problem? No, that's the opposite of why we're here! Know this: every single person reading this book was created for only one thing, and that was to solve a problem. That's why you're here today on planet Earth: you're here as a solution! Believe me, you're not a problem; you're the solution. Your existence is the very sign that our world needs something you have. In order to finish this thing called life, you're going to need a cause and a crystal-clear mission and vision. We will discuss vision toward the end of the book.