The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

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by Ellen Fein, Sherrie Schneider
     
 

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Following the success of the New York Times bestseller How to Marry the Man of Your Choice, The Rules is a blunt, effective, controversial, funny, and definitive guide to marrying the man of your dreams. The Rules will be featured on an Oprah show, set to air close to Valentine's Day.

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Following the success of the New York Times bestseller How to Marry the Man of Your Choice, The Rules is a blunt, effective, controversial, funny, and definitive guide to marrying the man of your dreams. The Rules will be featured on an Oprah show, set to air close to Valentine's Day.

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ISBN-13:
9780446522915
Publisher:
Grand Central Publishing
Publication date:
02/28/1997
Pages:
172
Product dimensions:
5.19(w) x 7.80(h) x 0.75(d)

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Rules 3.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 112 reviews.
Rah_Ethereal More than 1 year ago
I did not "Highly Recommend" this book for reasons one might think. Living in the information age, it is important to be duly informed in the social & behavioral sciences. This book is designed for, and intended to turn women into materialistic, insecure, and manipulative beasts. The only men who will like women like the ones who use "The Rules" are the one's that Barbara De'Angeles describes in "The Real Rules," as being the kind of guys any emotionally healthy, self-actualized, powerful woman would NOT want to date in the first place. So, do read this book, but also read "The Real Rules" by Barbara De' Angelis. On a final note...would anyone walk up to a stranger and ask them to marry them? When you follow "The Rules" it is the equivalent of two strangers getting married, and this is one reason why the divorce rate is so high. As a man who is very enlightened, self-actualized, deeply spiritual, self-empowered, and emotionally healthy I do not desire women who are mysterious and manipulative. I desire women who are self-actualized, confident in their sexuality, monogamous, highly intelligent, and aggressive...without being abusive. When I get a hint that a woman is using this ridiculous junk on me, I bail quick after I look down the road, and see divorce coming before I even start learning about her. This book only works on men who are weak and stupid. When a man gains a decent degree of control over his sex drive, this book, and any one like it, becomes obsolete. A word of advice to all of my fellow men: the less you know about a woman, the faster you need to run from her...no matter how fine she looks. Just think, there are women out there who are just as fine, but are also emotionally healthy and emotionally honest. Take the time to learn about a woman's character, intelligence, and spiritual center. Do you want an unintelligent, gutless, and non-spiritual woman raising yours and hers children? How will you know any of this, unless you get to know her on a deep level? How can you get to know her if she's acting mysterious and manipulative? I am not afraid to show the world who I am, so I will not hide my pen name. Peace out.
HollywoodSR More than 1 year ago
I bought this book 10 years ago for several of my friends. ALL of them got married to the man they were dating. I for one didn't follow the rules. I did marry the man i was dating but am now divorced. Men have to feel like they are using their animal instint. Now, 4 years after divorce I am going to buy this book and FOLLOW IT. I remember the book saying "treat men like the ones you don't like". Well, I was dating a few guys and always available and waiting for one of them to call and ask me out. well, as soon as I met a guy i was VERY attracted to I quit sitting around waiting and those other guys are now calling and texting constantly. So YES it is very hard to not just be available when the man you like calls- SO STAY BUSY and keep dating until he is BEGGING you to stop. If he doesn't beg you - he's not the one! Also, girls- DON'T SLEEP WITH THEM RIGHT AWAY!!!! I see so many girls do this and all the guy does is try to get more off of you adn then tell his friends and then they try and hit on you! ESPECIALY, if you like the badf boy types- like me! DON't do it! Every bad boy wants a prim and proper lady, sexy with class and style and yes a tiger in the bedroom, but Wait TO DO THIS!!! Another good book is Men are from Mars and Women from Venus! Men really do not think like we think and we start spilling our guts and get emotional they RUN!!!!! FAST!!!!!! Play the rules and it is not a game persay- it is being confident in yourself and only doing what a man really is attracted to by his animal instinct! Good Luck- we all deserve to be happy!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Are you the really nice, doormat girl, who is always getting hurt? I sympathize. I was one of those people who didn't want the rules to be true. I thought, oh, how ridiculous, this is all about manipulation and playing games. Well, that was before I realized that that is EXACTLY what men want, no matter how much they may try to deny it. It's funny how all men say that they want a 'nice girl who is honest and doesn't play games'. Please!! It's always the not so nice girls who play games who end up with the guys who treat them like gold and the 'nice girls', who do nice things for him and don't play games always ends up hurt and rejected. I always thought that playing games was stupid but now I know better and believe otherwise. I can look at every failed relationship of mine and my friends and see where we broke the rules and how that affected it. The only reason some men hate this book is b/c it puts the truth out there. It gives away their secrets and how they really are. And the only reason women hate this book is b/c like myself in the beginning, they do not want to believe it is true. It amuses me that the authors get so much **** for encouraging women to play games. Oh yeah, as if men neeeeever do that to us! Please! How many woman have been strung along and lied to? How many guys have lied to women and led them to believe something just so they could get what they really wanted? i.e. easy sex or convenience. THE RULES prevents women from making those mistakes, and from hanging around where they are not wanted. It also keeps them from dumping all of their problems on one guy, so...like it or not...we do have to play games ladies. When we don't , we end up hurt. Men seceretly want us to play games. Think about it. How many times have you seen a nice guy with a girl that wasn't exactly real appreciative or nice to him? She didn't go out of her way and yet she is treated like a queen whereas the nice, understanding girls are treated like dirt and taken advantage of. In fact, I have several guy friends who have even admitted to me that when they treat their girlfriends badly, it is ON PURPOSE! They are trying to make HER break up with them so that they won't be the 'bad guy'. They are doing that on purpose! Instead of just being mature and ending things, they play games like that b/c that is how men are. That's the truth! I have treated my bf's sooooo great and guess what? None of them appreciated it, in fact, it seemed the nicer I treated them , the worse they would treat me. Same thing with my girlfirends and their boyfriends. So ladies, if a man is not treating you right, don't stick around. And that is the true message of the rules. These women(Ellen & Sherrie) have done alot to help other women not waste their time. The Rules saves women from being unnecessarily hurt, rejected, or ignored. Alot of women will try to come up with excuses as to why the rules don't work, but they do! The Rules work whether some people want to admit it or not. For a long time I didn't want to admit the rules worked but they do! The guys that I have been real nice to and showed interest too ran off quickly, the guys I was not interested in or pretended to not be interested in were the ones I couldn't get rid of so, I no longer feel bad or deceotive about doing the rules. It is necessary!! good luck ladies, and believe in the rules!
Guest More than 1 year ago
A Rules Girl is a woman who has her own life, doesn't nag or whine for three hours on the phone. Nor does she dump all of her problems on her poor date, five minutes after meeting him. She dresses like a lady and is emotionally healthy, happy and fun. She doesn't sleep around, isn't a clingy leech and if you don't want to marry her, she moves on instead of standing outside of your house in the rain begging you to take her back. And the problem with this is...? Heaven forbid a book that teaches women and young girls NOT to sleep with men on a first date! Ladies, please read this book and try to see the real message behind the Rules. Good luck! :)
Guest More than 1 year ago
I GOT MARRIED IN A YEAR, AFTER APPLYING THE RULES TO A GUY 48 YEARS OLD WHO HAD NEVER BEEN MARRIED AND DID NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED! EVER! HE IS HAPPY NOW AND RECOMMENDS THIS BOOK, TO HIS SISTER, WHO IS HAVING A ROUGH TIME WITH MEN IN GENERAL, AND DOES NOT WANT TO CHANGE HER OLD WAYS.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have just bought and read 'The Rules'. Whoever says that they're manipulative, either don't understand how much women can obsess over men, or the fact that for some odd reason, distance does make mens' hearts grow fonder. I have had two extremely serious relationships that have started out by me using 'The Rules' and not even knowing it! When you start to become obsessive about them, they cease to think about you. It's a fact. 'The Rules' are NOT about becoming something you're not, it's about putting your best foot forward and not settling! What woman does not want to do that?
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jenatay More than 1 year ago
These rules are too rigid. I believe in being honest, open, and authentic. I'm not a game player. I understand the man's need for the hunt, chase or whatever you want to call it. Once in a relationship though, I believe the rules go out the window otherwise your foundation is not solid.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I havent read this book yet but by the rating o this thing and the posts this looks like a good book
celineM More than 1 year ago
This book is truly dedicated to all the girls who wants happy ending on their love problems.I admit,all the rules inside this book is truly hard to follow at first but as you go used to it,you'll find the rules soooo easy to follow.
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Makstar More than 1 year ago
I was complaining about attracting the incorrect type of men, or the ones who would not stay and would disrespect me. I decided to get educated. Searched the internet and found the rules. I began implementing right away. One reviewer did say that you MUST implement with care and skill and class or else it still wont work. Also, need to STICK to it like the book says. I have a wonderful relationship with a great man now. The type of situation I've been looking for. The authors GUARANTEE it if followed to a T. I love the real life examples.
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