Safe and Sound: Protecting Your Child in an Unpredictable World

Safe and Sound: Protecting Your Child in an Unpredictable World

by Vanessa L. Ochs
     
 

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Every day parents turn on the news or read a newspaper filled with kidnapping, rape, and murder. In a world that is becoming increasingly violent, the need to protect, even overprotect our children is overwhelming. This is the dilemma-where does sane caution end and irrational overprotection begin? A journalist who has done extensive research in

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Every day parents turn on the news or read a newspaper filled with kidnapping, rape, and murder. In a world that is becoming increasingly violent, the need to protect, even overprotect our children is overwhelming. This is the dilemma-where does sane caution end and irrational overprotection begin? A journalist who has done extensive research in child development and has written for such publications as Women's DayChild, and Newsday, Vanessa Ochs offers suggestions on how to tread the fine line between reasonable precaution and overprotection in her new bookSafe and Sound: Protecting Your Child in an Unpredictable World.

The child of profoundly overprotective parents, Ochs always felt that her sheltered childhood caused her to be incapable of self-protection as an adult. As a result of this experience, Ochs came to believe that while parents feel that they are shielding their children from harm, they are often unaware that they are damaging their children by inhibiting their ability to assess risky situations and make judgments. Safe and Sound is a reassuring guide for parents of children from infancy through the teen years, and it offers practical advice on how to evaluate each age-appropriate situation. Utilizing the red-yellow-green of a stoplight, Ochs has created a useful system for decision making that will help parents come to conclusions about when to protect and when to let go, and also offers comforting advice and strategies to cope with irrational fears. With chapters arranged by age group, Ochs covers such topics as physical and emotional well-being, social situations, and travel. The final chapter provides a poignant look at the rituals we use to protect ourselves and our families, and how they provide us with a sense of security. Safe and Sound is a unique resource that will enable parents to raise self-reliant children who are capable of evaluating risk and looking out for themselves.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Ochs, a journalist who specializes in child development and family-related topics, writes a direct and sympathetic guide for parents who are ``no longer sure how to draw the thin line between sane caution and overprotection.'' After her own injury in a car accident precipitated a bout of extreme overprotection of her children, Ochs determined to examine the rational and irrational reasons behind parental overprotection. The bulk of the book is devoted to chapters arranged by stages of a child's life, starting with pre-birth. In each, Ochs outlines the typical protective decisions facing parents and provides sensible tips on knowing when to let go. She suggests a strategy, modeled on traffic lights, for assessing typical anxiety-provoking situations-``an easy green'' is leaving a child with a grandparent, while a ``red light'' is a teenager's request to go to a party where drinking is likely. The final chapter takes an insightful and poignant look at family protection talismans and rituals-from wearing St. Christopher medals to once-a-week phone conversations-and how they give a sense of security to parents and offspring of all ages. (Aug.)
Kathryn Carpenter
Drawing on her experience as both an overprotected child and a parent suddenly overprotective after a car accident as well as on interviews with other children and parents, Ochs explores how parents rationalize overprotectiveness, just what overprotectiveness is, and the negative effects it has on children's development. She cites case studies with subjects ranging from infants to teens that illustrate how to both assess dangers and encourage developmental steps appropriate to each age. Because overprotected children suffer low self-esteem, difficulty in making friends, inability to identify and meet their own needs, anxiety about going to school, and related problems, Ochs' advice to parents on evaluating risks and overcoming fears to make rational decisions about activities or situations involving their children is particularly welcome. Ochs' warm and accessible book addresses a problem that is often ignored or regarded as a sign of good parenting.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781101500248
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
08/01/1995
Sold by:
Penguin Group
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
256
File size:
238 KB

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