Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before - and After - You Marry

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before - and After - You Marry

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by Les and Leslie Parrott
     
 

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ISBN-10: 0310259827

ISBN-13: 2900310259823

Pub. Date: 10/01/2006

Publisher: Zondervan

Are you tired of marriage books that sound like they were written thirty years ago? Do you want real, honest advice from a couple who knows the hopes and struggles of today's couples? Do you want to build a marriage that will last a lifetime? Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is the first comprehensive marriage preparation program specifically designed for today's

Overview

Are you tired of marriage books that sound like they were written thirty years ago? Do you want real, honest advice from a couple who knows the hopes and struggles of today's couples? Do you want to build a marriage that will last a lifetime? Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is the first comprehensive marriage preparation program specifically designed for today's couples. And it's the first program for couples developed by a couple.

And Les and Leslie Parrott are no ordinary couple. As marriage counselors and teachers, they're on the cutting edge of marriage research and education. Each year they teach a blockbuster relationships course to hundreds of college students. They see the struggles and dreams of couples up close. And they reveal the flaws and foibles of their own relationship to show how challenging—and rewarding—marriage can be. Most important, however, Les and Leslie Parrott share a dream: to equip couples in their twenties and thirties to prepare for lifelong marriage before it even starts. They know from experience that many couples spend more time preparing for their wedding than they do for marriage. Having tasted firsthand the difficulties of wedding bell blues, they show young couples the skills they need to make the transition from single to married smooth and enjoyable.

Whether you're contemplating marriage, engaged, or newly married, Les and Leslie will lead you through the thorniest spots in establishing a relationship. You'll learn how to uncover and deal with problems before they emerge. You'll discover how to communicate, not just talk. And you'll learn the importance of becoming soul mates—a couple committed to growing together spiritually. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is more than a book—it's practically a premarital counseling session! So start today, while your love is fresh. Save your marriage—before it starts.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
2900310259823
Publisher:
Zondervan
Publication date:
10/01/2006
Edition description:
Revised
Pages:
176

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments. 11
Before You Begin. 13
Question 1: Have You Faced the Myths of Marriage with Honesty?. 19
Question 2: Can You Identify Your Love Style? . 35
Question 3: Have You Developed the Habit of Happiness? . 59
Question 4: Can You Say What You Mean and Understand What You Hear? . 77
Question 5: Have You Bridged the Gender Gap? . 97
Question 6: Do You Know How to Fight a Good Fight?. 117
Question 7: Are You and Your Partner Soul Mates?. 137
Notes . 157

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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 22 reviews.
jwdriggs More than 1 year ago
While this book isn't ground breaking in any sort of way, what it does it does well and that's to get you talking about things before you get married. Me and my wife read this when we were engaged and having been married before there were a lot of things that I related too. It may seem silly to talk about who's going to take out the trash and who's going to do the dishes, however if you aren't both on the same page then conflict will arise due to lack of communication. Of course there is so much more to this book than that. It's a quick read and one you owe yourself and your future spouse. It's best if you both read through it.
Jeannine44 More than 1 year ago
I'm getting married October 24th 2009. My fiance and I have been going to pre-marital counseling and reading this book! Honestly, this book is so eye opening, and I feel like it's not only preparing me to keep and open mind in my marriage, but also making me aware of that fact that.... There is no perfect marriage and there is no "Happily Ever After" that a couple has not WORKED their booty's off to attain!! Marriage doesn't come easy, and it only becomes great when both parties have WORKED HARD at it! I love this book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Our church selected this book for pre-marriage classes. At first I thought it was simplistic because I thought that my boyfriend and I had talked about everything. Was I wrong! This book really facilitates talking about the really important things to kicking off your marriage. I would really recommend doing the workbook at the same time as the book 'it has points in the book to complete the exercises'. This really forces you to apply what you are reading.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book. It has been so great for my fiance and I to read during our engagement. Even if you're already married, I think it would still be really helpful. There are so many things in it that seem like they would actually be common sense, but I never would have thought about it in the way they explain it and what to do in certain situations. Buy it if you are even considering marriage!
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This book was an easy read with great common sense points that most people wouldn't have given much thought before going into a marriage
Guest More than 1 year ago
In preparation of our upcoming nuptials my Finance and I read this book. It was not a dull read at all and the workbooks made comparing notes (or rather relationship expectations) fun and exciting (as opposed to creating anxiety). This book is relevant to readers at any stage of a committed relationship. It is a great guide to cooperating and living a fulfilling life as companions.
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This book was required reading for premarital counseling at our church. Since when does being a Christian require one to dismiss all discourse on gender differences (are they innate or learned?) as having been settled 'once and for all?' (and by science, no less) as this book suggests? The advice in this book reflects that premise: In the book that was 'contextualized for my gender' I was told how to deal with my emotions when my husband forgets the anniversary of our first date while his gender-contextualized book reminds him that 'most men do not realize that women need to be respected, because men and women react very differently to not being respected.' What? It would be silly if this weren't so harmful. People read these books with eyes and ears wide open as they are preparing for marriage, in good faith that it will dole out helpful advice. Instead of talking couples through thought-provoking questions to ask of themselves and each other, couples are told to take gender stereotypes into account when communicating and interacting with their spouse. Marriages need all the help they can get. I want my marriage to be grounded in faith but I don't think I should be asked to swallow outdated and harmful gender stereotypes in order to get permission to marry. The fact that our preist based her marriage counseling on this book made us seriously second-guess our decision to marry in that church.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My fiancee and I just finished this book and had a great time while we were working on it. While we already had great communication, this book helped us think about a few things we hadn't come up with on our own and reconfirmed our thoughts and expectations about how we want to live our lives together. I highly recommend this to anyone getting married!
Guest More than 1 year ago
My fiance and I used this book and the workbooks for our pre-marital counseling. It was a down to earth look at communication, understanding ourselves better, and where do we as a couple meet in the middle. It upholds a model of biblical equality for the male/female relationship and was very refershing in its honesty. I have recommended this to other engaged couples and recommend it to you, as well.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A friend recommended that my fiance and I read this book, and it helped our relationship immensely. The authors opened our eyes to many myths about the marriage relationship, and helped my fiance and I understand one another better. The workbooks were also helpful, because we wrote our answers individually, then discussed our responses. By reading this book together, my fiance and I discovered more about each other than we had previously in our three year dating relationship. He has since read the book by himself, raving about how much it has helped him understand our upcoming roles as a Christian husband and wife. I think every engaged couple should read this book. I now feel better prepared for marriage, thanks to the insightful words of Les and Leslie Parrott.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Most practical advice on marriage I have read yet! Down to earth examination of problems couples face and how to solve them. Also great b/c written by husband and wife team, so both perspectives are well represented.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
;) Alright