Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts Workbook for Men: Nine Questions to Ask Before - and After - You Remarry

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Complete with twenty-eight self tests—two of them brand-new—and a new group discussion guide, the expanded and updated Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts workbooks for men and women will help couples uncover and understand the unique shaping factors they bring into their second marriage both as men and women and as individuals.

Exercises and assignments will help couples identify and meld their love styles, face the myths of ...

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Overview

Complete with twenty-eight self tests—two of them brand-new—and a new group discussion guide, the expanded and updated Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts workbooks for men and women will help couples uncover and understand the unique shaping factors they bring into their second marriage both as men and women and as individuals.

Exercises and assignments will help couples identify and meld their love styles, face the myths of remarriage honestly, become soul mates, identify each person’s “hot topics,” and much more.

The discussion guide in each workbook integrates with the Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts DVD (sold separately and includes seven pre-marriage sessions plus two additional sessions specifically designed to help prepare couples for remarriage) to facilitate lively and eye-opening interaction. Each session links with the workbook exercises and concludes with exercises each couple can do together between each lesson.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780310275848
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • Publication date: 9/1/2006
  • Edition description: Expanded & Updated Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 112
  • Sales rank: 244,421
  • Product dimensions: 6.10 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.38 (d)

Meet the Author

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are founders of RealRelationships.com and the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. Their bestselling books include Love Talk, Crazy Good Sex, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Their work has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today, and they have appeared on CNN, Good Morning America, and Oprah. They live with their two young sons in Seattle.
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Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts Workbook for Men

Nine Questions to Ask Before-and After-You Remarry
By Les Parrott Leslie Parrott

Zondervan

Copyright © 2006 Les and Leslie Parrott
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0-310-27584-9


Chapter One

Exercise One

The Remarriage Motivation Test

On a scale of 1 to 10, rate how much of a factor each of the following motivators are for you to get married. Take time to consider each item, and be as honest as possible.

1. Love at first sight is a factor in why I'm ready to get married again.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

2. Rebounding from the pain of a previous marriage is a factor in my motivation for this second marriage.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

3. Rebellion against my ex-wife is a factor in my motivation.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

4. Loneliness contributes to my reasons for getting married again.

Not atAll True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

5. A sense of obligation is a factor in motivating me to marry.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

6. Financial advancement is a part of my decision to get remarried.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

7. Sexual attraction is a factor driving me to get married at this time.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

8. Escape from an unhappy first marriage is causing me to want to get married again.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

9. Pressure from others has something to do with why I am getting married again.

Not at All True Extremely True of Me 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Scoring: Add up your score from each of the nine items. There are ninety possible points on this test. Add ten to your score. If your score is fifty or less, you can rest easy in the fact that you are probably not getting remarried for some of the most common negative reasons. If your score is greater than twenty-five, you will certainly want to do some soul-searching on your own and with your partner about the items that you ranked highest. We also strongly suggest talking about these motivators with an objective counselor.

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Excerpted from Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts Workbook for Men by Les Parrott Leslie Parrott Copyright © 2006 by Les and Leslie Parrott. Excerpted by permission.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents


How to Use This Workbook     5
Exercises
The Remarriage Motivation Test     6
The Remarriage Readiness Questionnaire     8
Your Personal Ten Commandments     10
Making Your Roles Conscious     12
From Idealizing to Realizing Your Partner     14
Exploring Unfinished Business     16
Assessing Your Self-image     18
Defining Love     20
Your Changing Love Style     22
Cultivating Intimacy     24
Listening to Your Self-Talk     26
Avoiding the Blame Game     28
Adjusting to Things Beyond Your Control     30
How Well Do You Communicate?     32
The Daily Temperature Reading     34
I Can Hear Clearly Now     36
Couple's Inventory     38
Your Top Ten Needs     40
Identifying Your Hot Topics     42
Mind Reading     44
Sharing Withholds     45
Creating a Clean Slate     46
Remarried with Children     48
Your Spiritual Journey     50
Improving Your Serve     52
Study Your Spouse     54
Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start     56
Money Talks and So Can We     61
Sessions: For Group or Couple Discussion with the DVD Curriculum
Introduction     70
Have You Faced the Myths of Marriage with Honesty?     73
Can You Identify Your Love Style?     77
Have You Developed the Habit of Happiness?     80
Can You Say What You Mean and Understand What You Hear?     83
Have You Bridged the Gender Gap?     87
Do You Know How to Fight a Good Fight?     90
Are You and Your Partner Soul Mates?     93
Additional Sessions: For Couples Considering Remarriage
Are You Ready to Get Married Again?     99
Do You Know How to Blend a Family?     102
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