Saying Goodbye Without Saying Helloby RaeBeth McGee-Buda
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The journey of pregnancy brings hope, joy, and love for the expecting mother. The hope of giving birth to a new life. The joy of feeling this new life grow inside of her. The love that starts with a test that doesn�t ever end. Dreams for the unborn child flood the new mother�s mind, as well as those around her. Each step of the pregnancy is a cherished moment. The anticipation of meeting her cherished baby builds from the very first month and ends after birth.
This is the story of one mother and how a few words changed her life forever. How a piece of her faded when she heard these words: �There�s no heartbeat.� When RaeBeth Buda laid in the hospital in labor, she and her husband heard those dreaded words.
What happens when all of those dreams are shattered in a moment�s notice? How does one cope with the loss of their child? This is the story of their journey and of the devastating grief of the loss of her daughter, Dakota Emily Buda.
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RaeBeth McGee-Buda was born in southwestern Pennsylvania in 1987, the second daughter of Rachel Yost and Arthur Curtis McGee. RaeBeth grew up loving to read and write poetry, as well as short stories. Her childhood dream was to become a teacher. Rae Beth's dream of writing was created in her eleventh grade literature class where writing became her passion.
RaeBeth married in August 2012 to her husband, Gregory Stephen Buda Jr. and resides in a small Pennsylvania town of Fairchance. RaeBeth is a full time mother of one beautiful little girl and a mother to an angel in heaven as of May 27th, 2013.
She graduated from American Intercontinental University in 2010 with her associates in business administration. She enjoys spending her time writing and feels that connecting with readers is her main goal.
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A highly emotional read. INITIAL THOUGHTS Approaching this book I totally admit to wondering if I will read it all, or what it will be like reading it but I Really want to read this one both for the blog tour and myself. This is a subject very close to my heart. MY REVIEW I was given a free e-copy of this book from the author via Sparkle Book Tours in exchange for my honest review of it. I have seen two different covers for this book, the one I featured I feel after reading the book is the one the author would want to show most. The cover shows a depiction of "heaven" up in the fluffy white clouds and has had an image of Dakota laced on one of the clouds as an angel. I think this is a comforting image to think of if you have lost a child. The other cover features a pregnant so perhaps more suitable to those who may find themselves disturbed or offended by the cover image above perhaps not wishing to know how similar a still born child can and does look like a healthy one. The is quite simply put a true real life account of something that happened to the author Raebeth, and her family. It acquaint us with how Raebeth and her husband Greg met, then the birth of their first daughter Emma. Then it explains Raebeth's second pregnancy, the joy at feeling the baby movements that she was feeling for a second time. There's the doctors concerns about the weight of the baby, followed with his affirmation that the baby is fine and doing well. I'm trying to be reserved in the details as I think you really need to discover them via the book. To summarise when Raebeth goes into labour, there's a problem when the nurses start to try and monitor the baby, they cannot find a heartbeat. The medics tell Raebeth and her husband the devastating news that their beloved little baby has in fact dies within Raebeth's womb. Then to make matters seem even more horrific Raebeth has to go through a natural labour, in the same way every pregnant does. She has to deliver her baby as if she were alive. Raebeth recounts all this to the reader within the book. Raebeth is so detailed and eloquent in the way she includes the reader in her innermost thoughts and emotions. Raebeth also explains the feelings and what her family did and said when learning the news. Raebeth gives details of what the hospital do for her and her baby girl Dakota. They have some one take photographs and take hand and feet casts as keepsakes for Raebeth and her family. We also learn other peoples views on what and how they think Raebeth, Greg, Emma and the family should be. How they should mourn, grieve and even how they should or should not speak of Dakota. Somewhat petty jealousies come to the fore when they are the last thing that Raebeth and her family need. The book enlightened me to have differently hospitals can handle such a situation. One thing that irked me a little whilst reading the book was a comment by Raebeth being annoyed about someone likening her loss to that of a miscarriage. I'd just like to say on one hand I totally understand , she held her child, early miscarriages cannot do that as the child is not fully formed etc. However some miscarriages are quite similar to the experience Raebeth went through. I do know this from personal experience. I "miscarried" at 22.5 weeks through my pregnancy, and had to give birth in a pretty much the same way as Raebeth. Had I waited to "give birth" another few weeks the event would have been recorded on my medical record and legally classed as a "still birth". I too held my baby son, though the hospital I was in did not provide any photographs or memento's at all. I think my reaction to her Miscarriage vs Stillbirth comment irked me so much as I feel the medics need to update their terminolgy perhaps to reflect the loss a parent feels. I did initially feel Raebeth was in some way be-littling miscarriage but upon reading further and having the experience of talking to her online I believe this not to be the actual true case. The way the book is written is both admirable and exceptional. It is a brave thing that Raebeth has done sharing her innermost thoughts and feelings with the reader. I felt like she was actually having a conversation with me rather than my reading her book. It is so well written, it's as if you are hearing her voice putting everything in to plain words we all know not a load of medical jargon that could just go over our heads. I am both pleased and honoured that Raebeth chose to write this book and I was given it to read it. My review feels quite inadequate in it's description of this book and what it contains. My normal sum up does not suffice for this book as how can I say I "enjoyed" a book about a stillbirth? Enjoyed is not the right wording, though I do feel hopeful in the way Raebeth was treat at the hospital she delivered Dakota in. Though I do share her hate of the ward/room "it" all happened in. All I can think of as a sum up is that Raebeth shares her story beautifully, and I think it could be found helpful to other women who have similar experiences, to know they are not alone, that life goes on and that it's okay to smile and laugh again when you are ready to.
This book is about the author telling her story through what she experienced before, during, & after losing her angel!!! I literally felt like if I was next to her the whole time!!! This book is not only for woman that lost their angels to read, it is for EVERYBODY!!! It has life lessons embedded throughout the book!!! It had me emotional from beginnig to end!!! This book was an eye-opener for me, it showed me I'm not alone, there are other angel Moms that had the same questions that I had during my experience!!! We are blessed Mommies!!!
Saying Goodbye Without Saying Hello by Raebeth McGee-Buda is an emotional and very inspiring book. It is an amazing story that had my attention from the very beginning. In her own words, Raebeth tells us the true story of her life before, during and after her pregnancy with her Angel baby Dakota Emily. Her words are very captivating as she tells us the emotions that she felt during and after her pregnancy. I can’t say that I understand what Raebeth went through and how she felt after her pregnancy because I haven’t ever experienced it to know. Reading her story has made me realize and opened my eyes to understand what any woman who are expecting goes through when they lose a child after being born. I had a rollercoaster emotion the whole time I was reading her book and had tears in my eyes. I think Raebeth McGee-Buda is an amazing woman and an inspiration. She has gone through a lot in the past months with the loss of Dakota but she has managed to stay strong for herself and her family. For the past month or two she has been spreading the word about October being the month of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness and remembering all the angel babies and their families. Raebeth McGee-Buda’s book Saying Goodbye Without Saying Hello is a must read. I definitely recommend her book to any of my friends who are mothers and soon to be mothers. I hope this book will inspire you as it did me.
This is a true story, told by a mother who has lost her child due to stillbirth. I am not a huge reader of non-fiction, but I had read (fiction) books by this author previously, and when I heard that she was writing this story, I knew that I was in for an emotional ride. I have never had a child, so I could not fully comprehend what someone who has, feels when they are expecting. The excitement and joy at finding out that you are to be a parent is something I may never get to find out, but many women do. This story takes the reader on a journey of wonder, excitement, happiness, joy, worry, dread and grief. I had to keep putting this book down to dab at the tears streaming down my face, but I also had to keep reading. This story had me feeling everything the author felt at each stage of her pregnancy. Although I cannot fully comprehend the emotional merry-go-round that this author (and other parents) have gone through, I felt my heart break whilst reading Dakota Emily's story. What struck me about RaeBeth McGee Buda was that she was obviously grieving for her daughter, Dakota Emily Buda, whilst writing this story. Her heart and emotions are bared on the page for everyone to see. What astounds me is her inner strength, which filled me with awe! Her faith that her daughter was sent here by God for a short time, touched me deeply. Why things like miscarriage, S.I.D.S (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) and stillbirths happen is still a bit of a medical mystery. Why? is a good question. Why does this still happen when we have better medical care? Why do some children die, when others survive? Maybe there is a rhyme and/or a reason for this, but it is elusive. All we have is faith; faith that those who are taken away too soon, will be waiting for us when it's our time. However, sometimes faith is cold comfort for those parents who have lost a child. My heart goes out to each and every one who have lost their child/children. I highly recommend that this book be read by everyone. It is an emotive story, but if you or one of your family members has also suffered through the loss of a child, you will find that you are not alone. - Lynn Worton