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Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again

Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again

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by Christina Rasmussen

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     After studying to become a therapist and crisis intervention counselor—even doing her master’s thesis on the stages of bereavement—Christina Rasmussen thought she understood grief. But it wasn’t until losing her husband to cancer in her early 30s that she truly grasped the depths of sorrow and pain that accompany


     After studying to become a therapist and crisis intervention counselor—even doing her master’s thesis on the stages of bereavement—Christina Rasmussen thought she understood grief. But it wasn’t until losing her husband to cancer in her early 30s that she truly grasped the depths of sorrow and pain that accompany loss.
     Using the knowledge she gained while wading through her own grief and reading hundreds of neuroscience books, Rasmussen began to look at experiences in a new way. She realized that grief plunges you into a gap between worlds—the world before loss and the world after loss. She also realized how easy it is to become lost in this gap.
     In Second Firsts, Rasmussen walks you through her Life Reentry process to help you break grief’s spiral of pain, so you can stop simply surviving and begin to live again. She shows you that loss can actually be a powerful catalyst to creating a life that is in alignment with your true passions and values. The resilience, strength, and determination that have gotten you through this difficult time are the same characteristics that will help you craft your wonderful new life.
     Her method, which she has used successfully with thousands of clients, is based on the science of neuroplasticity and focuses on consciously releasing pain in ways that both honor suffering and rewire the brain to change your perception of the world and yourself. Using practical exercises and stories drawn from her own life and those of her clients, Rasmussen guides you through five stages of healing that help you open up to new possibilities. From acknowledging your fear, to recognizing where you stand now, to taking active steps toward a new life, Rasmussen helps you move past the pain and shows that it’s never too late to step out of the gap and experience life again—as if for the first time.

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Second Firsts will change the way you think about life after loss. With simplicity, science, and raw authenticity, Christina takes you on a journey from a world of loneliness and pain to one of possibilities and action. Her kind and knowledgeable words provide hope and show you that loss can actually inspire the strength and conviction to create the life of your dreams. And her own life stands as a testament to the power of this process.”
—Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times best-selling author of Love for No Reason and Happy for No Reason
Second Firsts is about creating a bigger life after loss. It is about dreaming of a brand-new way to fall in love again with living fully. It is certainly not an easy task, but this little book makes it easier.”
—Karen Salmansohn, best-selling author of The Prince Harming Syndrome and The Bounce Back Book
“We can all learn from the wisdom of those who have experienced loss and survived. Second Firsts can be your life coach and direct you to heal and create a new life.”
—Bernie Siegel, M.D., author of Buddy’s Candle and 365 Prescriptions for the Soul
“Christina Rasmussen brilliantly carries the torch for all of those who have suffered loss. She has created the life reentry process that will help all people of all ages, and Second Firsts will be the guidebook for those who are ready to let go and choose life again.”
—Kristine Carlson, New York Times best-selling author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Women and Heartbroken Open: A Memoir Through Loss to Self-Discovery
“In this moving book, Christina has drawn on both her personal and professional experience with grief to assist those who are suffering to find their way to a new ‘normal.’ In Second Firsts you will discover how to move from merely surviving to once again thriving.”
—Anita Moorjani, New York Times best-selling author of Dying to Be Me
“Christina Rasmussen rode the roller coaster of exhaustion, hope, anxiety, and despair along with her husband throughout his battle with cancer. After he passed—just like everyone who loses a loved one—she faced the additional challenge of rebuilding her life. In Second Firsts, Christina does more than share her remarkable regenerative journey. She shows us why we must start living again and how to go about it. This engaging, touching, and helpful work is a must read for anyone facing or coping with the loss of someone close.”
—Edward J. Benz Jr., M.D., president and CEO of the Dana Farber Cancer Institute
“This powerful book guides us through five transformational stages that awaken the journey back to life after loss. The steps ignite the fire within every human soul who has experienced a death or a divorce. Every word is delivered with compassion and truth. Christina is certainly not afraid to tell you to move on if you have been stuck inside that Waiting Room of loss for far too long.”
—Marie Diamond, star of the international bestseller The Secret, feng shui master, and global transformational teacher, author, and speaker
“Christina gives people who are dealing with the physical and mental pain of grief hope for a sunnier tomorrow. I only wish Second Firsts was available to me sooner. This book will be on my night table forever.”
—Jackie Hance, New York Times best-selling author of I’ll See You Again
Second Firsts is an important and powerful book! Christina Rasmussen not only beautifully inspires and empowers you to dream again after loss, but also gives you the tools to make those dreams come true.” 
—Mike Robbins, author of Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken
Second Firsts is a practical guide for anyone who lost too much and forgot to get back to life. If that’s you, get this book and start living again.”
—Thomas Kersting, nationally acclaimed psychotherapist and TV personality
Second Firsts will take you on a journey where you get to rediscover yourself no matter the loss or the heartache you have experienced. It will not ask you to wait for time to heal you, that’s for sure. Instead it will take you by the hand and lead you to a path of reentry with actions, steps, and tools.”
—Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., best-selling author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness
“Christina Rasmussen's Second Firsts offers sage practical advice to individuals—widowed or divorced—who need to begin life anew. Readers will find a book that, while sensitive to grief and loss, offers hope and a roadmap to finding meaning and purpose after life-changing loss.”
—Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D., professor at the Graduate School, The College of New Rochelle and
senior consultant at the Hospice Foundation of America
Second Firsts walks into your life, grabs you by your courage, and gets you back on your feet. One day at a time. One action at a time. One new thought at a time. In the end you get to meet your new identity. Wow.”
—Allison Maslan, best-selling author of Blast Off!: The Surefire Success Plan to Launch Your Dreams into Reality
Seconds Firsts is an invaluable resource that not only inspires hope but also provides critical and practical information about healing for those who have lost so much. Christina’s vulnerability and willingness to reveal the ins and outs of her own transformation make it feel as though she is walking hand in hand with you on your way back to life after loss. This uniquely honest book makes you truly believe that it is possible to connect again with life in a meaningful and rich way.” 
—Carley Flam Decker, Ph.D., clinical psychologist
“In Second Firsts, Christina Rasmussen has created the ultimate guidebook for navigating devastating loss, discovering the gifts of grief, and reentry into a passionate, vibrant, thriving life. Let Christina light your way out of despair as she reveals the unimaginable grace that awaits your life after loss.”
—Nancy Levin, author of Writing for My Life . . . Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Me 
“Finding happiness after tragedy and loss may seem hopeless, but as Christina Rasmussen has personally discovered through grieving the untimely death of her husband, life still happens. In this wonderful guide about rediscovery, Christina shares inspirational stories and offers practical advice to renewing your happiness while encouraging you to embark on a new journey.”
—Dan Caro, inspirationalist and burn survivor, author of The Gift of Fire: How I Made Adversity Work for Me
“If you have experienced loss in your life, Christina's book will quickly empower you to vibrantly refill, renegotiate, and embrace your broken-hearted spirit. Please, use your limited time and energy wisely and seize her Life Reentry program early in your grief. It will undoubtedly be a big victory for you and the universe. It’s a realistic, strategic, life-shifting, never-look-back program based on neuroscience and personal experience that leads you to feeling more genuinely alive than you ever thought possible.”
—Carolyn Moor, founder of Modern Widows Club
“Devastating, heartbreaking loss is part of every single life. Christina has been there herself, and in her book, Second Firsts, she takes your hand—offering comfort and step-by-step guidance to help you find your way back into the sunlight. This book will get you living and breathing again by showing you the way to a joyful, hopeful, and loving life.”
—Paul S. Boyton, president and CEO of The Moore Center

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Meet the Author

Christina Rasmussen is a coach, crisis-intervention specialist, and speaker on a crusade to change the way we live after loss. As the founder of Second Firsts, an organization to help people create a pathway back to life after loss, Christina has helped thousands of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the power of the human mind.
Websites: secondfirsts.com and www.thelifestarters.org

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Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Every so often the right book gets into your hands at exactly the right time. This was the case for with Christa Rasmussen’s Second Firsts:  Live, Laugh and Love Again.  I had recently set a personal goal that I wanted to change my relationship with loss and grief. Throughout my life, whether the it has been the death of a loved one or the loss of a key relationship, I have struggled with moving forward.  In these times, I am an isolator, privately trying to attend to these wounds when the reality has been, I really don’t know how to do this. Speaking from experience, Christina Rasmussen shows the way.  After sharing her own heartbreak, the loss of her 34-year old husband, she introduces her Life Reentry program which provides practical steps to help you reprogram not only how you think about loss and grieving, but also to help you build new habits that encourage you to also focus on living at the same time.  After acknowledging the loss you have suffered, a large part of this method focuses on thinking of and using plug-ins for yourself.  A plug-in is a small actionable step that you can take to push yourself to move outside of your comfort zone.  An example of a plug-in post-divorce, breakup or death, would be to set up an online dating account or accepting an invitation for a date.  The focus of a plug-in is on the steps you are taking to rebuild and create a new life; not on the outcome of those steps. After every loss we endure, we are at a crossroads when we have to assign meaning to that loss.  If loss and grieving are handled improperly, or not at all, the negative effects can be long-lasting.  If you were never taught how to process grief, observed grieving that was accompanied by a lack of living or want to learn how to grieve wisely, this book is for you.
ErinMatlock More than 1 year ago
As someone who has been greatly affected by sadness, I was hesitant to open a 'grief book' that might open old wounds. From the first chapter, however, I was home. I read the entire book in one evening and was overjoyed at finally having a guidebook written to lead someone, step by step, out of grief. It was as if Christina Rasmussen knew somehow she was destined for this work. To choose a path of grief counseling, and then to lose her husband so young. It's as if God sent her to us personally to shepherd us into our new life. Christina shows you exactly why your brain holds you in a place of grief, and how it can betray you in your journey out. She personally holds your hand and guides you through your own re-entry into life. She is a shining example of a life filled with beautiful, happy Second Firsts.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing. I have never experienced loss in the way most people think of loss, but Christina does an amazing job with explaining that there are other forms of loss. This book is very inspiring. As I was reading it, I felt as if the author was really there with me and it made me think a lot about my own life, and I felt "safe" and no anxiety when thinking about it. It was very well written and Christina does an amazing job with explaining the material in a way that makes it easy to understand, and I have benifited greatly from reading this book. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has experienced loss of any kind even in the form of abandonment or rejection. One of the best books on a subject like this I have ever read.
floridalynnblue More than 1 year ago
The best book I've read in years. It makes you want to be happy again. It helps you believe in life again & that anything is possible.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Simply amazing book!  I couldn't put it down.  Christina's words, her story, the exercises...  Truly Transformational.   Nice work Christina.  This book will help the masses. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was touched by the raw and heartbreaking story of this wife and mother facing the loss of her husband. But what followed was an inspiring story of triumph over her grief. Focusing the largest portion of her book on her "Life Reentry" process. Many books on grief repeat the usual phases, but this one busts past those steps and into real world solutions. She also offers continuous support through her "Message in a Bottle" newsletter, Facebook, Twitter, and her many speaking engagements.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After my husband died, I entered a temporary "holding pattern" where I was getting things done but stuck between my old life, and the new life that is yet to be. Christina uses analogies for behaviors and thought patterns following a loss that help identify ways of escaping the waiting room, while respecting the deep grief and sadness that occurs when your spouse dies.