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Iris Krasnow interviewed over two hundred wives whose marriages have survived for fifteen to seventy years to discover their secrets to marital bliss. Here, these women offer the truth about marriage and the importance of maintaining a strong sense of self.

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While divorce rates soar towards fifty percent, some happy couples are too placid to notice. What does it take to stay hooked in our chaotic society? To find out, Iris Krasnow (Surrendering to Marriage) interviewed more than 200 wives married for fifteen to fifty years. What she discovered is that these resilient women had maintained a strong sense of self, often in bold, sometimes secretive ways. The Secret Lives of Wives sets pointers for successful marriage often missed in more theoretical books. Now in trade paperback and NOOK Book.

Publishers Weekly
A wife of 23 years and mother of four grown sons, Krasnow (Surrendering to Marriage) advises wives that if they care about their families they "should find a way to make their marriage work." To this end, Krasnow has compiled the strategies for marital commitment of more than 200 women from across America who range in ethnicity, economic status, level of education, age when they married (from 15 to 70 years). Several know the self-affirming value of separate vacations and passions: Gail spends summers solo, painting in Italy, returning energized. Likewise, empty-nester Tracey, who has wonderful memories of her childhood sails with her father, became a yacht salesperson. Shelley turned infidelity to her advantage: her husband's affair with her best friend reinvigorated her marriage rather than destroying it Shauna compartmentalizes her life: because her husband, a good father and provider, is uninterested in sex, she has a landscaper boyfriend who loves sex. Perhaps the best advice comes from a Bengali in an arranged marriage who says women have to take responsibility for their own happiness. Although often trite, overwritten, and unfocused, this is also a spirited, frequently perceptive work that aims to fix marriages by empowering wives. (Oct.)
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"At first this book terrified me: another submission and sacrifice marriage manual for wives? Instead Iris Krasnow delivers astonishing candor, realistic compassion, and invaluable wisdom when it comes to how paradoxically infuriating and rewarding long-term marriages can be. The best book on marriage ever." — Leslie Morgan Steiner

“In this breathtaking book The Secret Lives of Wives, Iris Krasnow opens a window into the inner world of women whose unique courage and vision has enabled them to find relationship happiness over the long term. With wit and wisdom, she thoughtfully tells their stories and then fills the reader with brilliant ideas and concepts to apply to their own lives. This is as much of a men’s book as it was written by and for women.”  — Dr. Bill Cloke

“Iris Krasnow has managed to demystify the workings of long-term marriages by confirming the mysterious uniqueness of each one. The secret, she finds, lies in the way two people negotiate their own personal amalgam of companionship and sex, compromise and disappointment, lust and tenderness, trust and lies. The challenge for the rest of us is to do the same.” — Suzanne Braun Levine

“She whips up a spirited, enlightening cocktail of comfort, support and grace. Fulfilling and well-structured.” — Kirkus Reviews

“One of Ten Titles to Pick Up Now. ‘Boyfriends with boundaries,’ separate summers, and other therapeutic strategies for maintaining wedded bliss over the long haul.” — O, The Oprah Magazine

Leslie Morgan Steiner
"At first this book terrified me: another submission and sacrifice marriage manual for wives? Instead Iris Krasnow delivers astonishing candor, realistic compassion, and invaluable wisdom when it comes to how paradoxically infuriating and rewarding long-term marriages can be. The best book on marriage ever."
Dr. Bill Cloke
“In this breathtaking book The Secret Lives of Wives, Iris Krasnow opens a window into the inner world of women whose unique courage and vision has enabled them to find relationship happiness over the long term. With wit and wisdom, she thoughtfully tells their stories and then fills the reader with brilliant ideas and concepts to apply to their own lives. This is as much of a men’s book as it was written by and for women.”
Suzanne Braun Levine
“Iris Krasnow has managed to demystify the workings of long-term marriages by confirming the mysterious uniqueness of each one. The secret, she finds, lies in the way two people negotiate their own personal amalgam of companionship and sex, compromise and disappointment, lust and tenderness, trust and lies. The challenge for the rest of us is to do the same.”
The Oprah Magazine O
“One of Ten Titles to Pick Up Now. ‘Boyfriends with boundaries,’ separate summers, and other therapeutic strategies for maintaining wedded bliss over the long haul.”
Library Journal
Some couples do stay hooked. Author of the New York Times best-selling Surrendering to Marriage, Krasnow interviewed women with long-lasting marriages and discovered that things work best when both partners have a sense of self separate from the marriage. Since Krasnow regularly speaks to women's groups, often addressing 1000-plus women a month, she'll have an audience.
Kirkus Reviews
Marital mysteries revealed by women who hold the keys to wedded bliss. After marriage, writes Krasnow (I Am My Mother's Daughter: Making Peace with Mom—Before It's Too Late, 2007, etc.), comes learning to live with your spouses' myriad idiosyncrasies, and later on, figuring out how to love that bloated, wrinkled oaf camped out on your living-room couch. The author's latest is an informative look into the lives of married women set alongside Krasnow's scrutiny of her own marriage. She whips up a spirited, enlightening cocktail of comfort, support and grace, in which women from all walks of life describe their relationships with their spouses both before and after marriage. Krasnow investigates how women have been able to maintain their happiness and sanity within their family lives, particularly during times of hardship, loneliness, despair and self-discovery. But marriage isn't always rosy, and its appeal can fluctuate—indeed, one of the book's most engaging passages explores why the popularity of marriage has waned over the years. When discussing marriage through history, the author cites artist and poet Georgia O'Keeffe, a woman who loved her husband, the celebrated photographer Alfred Stieglitz, but who pinned much of her matrimonial success on the fact that she was able to separate the personal and professional aspects of her life. Finally, Krasnow urges readers to remember the importance of including romance in marriage, suggesting that each romantic memory builds years onto a successful marriage. Fulfilling and well-structured.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781410443526
  • Publisher: Gale Cengage Learning
  • Publication date: 12/16/2011
  • Edition description: Large Print
  • Pages: 421
  • Product dimensions: 5.60 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Iris Krasnow is the author of the New York Times bestseller Surrendering to Marriage, as well as Surrendering to Motherhood, Surrendering to Yourself, and I Am My Mother’s Daughter. She lives in Maryland with her husband and four sons.

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Table of Contents

Prologue xiii

I Who Needs Marriage? 3

II Then and Now 21

III Separate Summers 41

IV Through Sickness and Loathing and Death 63

V Resurrecting Childhood Passions 89

VI Why Love Lasts 117

VII Naughty Girls 149

VIII The Man Next Door 183

IX Believe-It-or-Not Marriages 201

X Lessons from the Golden Girls 231

Acknowledgments 261

Bibliography 265

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INTRODUCTION
"There's much that is extraordinary about a life that is predictably ordinary" (p. 37).

Even the most starry-eyed newlywed knows that marriage is a roller coaster. Yet, most women enter the institution with little idea of just how far down it can really go—and even less about how to survive when it does. In her provocative and enlightening new book, The Secret Lives of Wives, Iris Krasnow draws from interviews with more than two hundred long-married women to share their strategies for building an enduring and fulfilling marriage.

Krasnow knows where of she speaks. She's been wed to her husband, Chuck, for twenty-three years. She's the first to admit that it hasn't always been easy—especially when they had four sons, ages three and under, in diapers together. (Twins made that happen.) One of her secrets to staying married, shared by other longtime wives she interviewed, is that as her children have gotten older Krasnow spends part of the summer apart from Chuck. As she writes: "Many of the happiest wives need time alone in which to remember and celebrate who they are" (p. 42).

Of course, Krasnow recognizes that each marriage is unique and there are no universal cure-alls. In Tracey's marriage, for example, too much separation was the biggest challenge that she and her husband faced. After Glenn was made partner in an accounting firm, he worked long hours and Tracey felt lonely—until she took a job as a yacht salesperson. By turning a favorite pastime into a fulfilling career, the mother of three grown children reinvigorated their thirty-six-year marriage.

Many of Krasnow's interview subjects praise strong outside friendships as a critical component of their marriages. Krasnow puts it bluntly, "you don't get it all from one person in one place" (p. 40). A strong circle of girlfriends and even boyfriends—with limits provides an important outlet for discussing interests not shared by one's husband.

Ideally, male friendships should remain platonic, though Krasnow's research reveals that a sexual attraction to another man can actually be good for a marriage, so long as it's not acted upon—repeatedly. Forty-eight-year-old Reed indulged in one secret, extramarital kiss and stopped it there. "I am careful to avoid him now," she says, "[but] our very short encounter gives me something extra… it's like having a valuable gold coin secretly hidden deep in my pocket." (p. 175).

Despite the proven physical and psychological benefits of long-term marriage, Krasnow is not advocating for women to stick it out in abusive or loveless relationships at all costs. "Some couples obviously need to divorce," she writes. She also knows that some choices—including Mimi's embrace of the swingers' lifestyle and Liza's willingness to sacrifice an important male friendship at a jealous husband's insistence—aren't for everyone.

Instead, Krasnow shares what she calls "real stories about real wives … [to] give all of us a break from feeling compelled to live up to a mythical model of what marriage should be" (p. 174). By turn funny, salacious, heartwarming, and tragic, The Secret Lives of Wives is a riveting read that inspires everyone to "push through the inevitable trouble by the sheer force of … love" (p. 5).

ABOUT IRIS KRASNOW

Iris Krasnow is a graduate of Stanford University who covered fashion for the Dallas Time-Herald before becoming the national feature writer for United Press International. She is currently a journalism professor at American University in Washington, D.C.

Krasnow frequently speaks on issues related to family, relationships, and female empowerment in the national media, at business organizations, women's groups, and religious and academic institutions across the country.

Her previous books include, I Am My Mother's Daughter, Surrendering to Yourself, Surrendering to Motherhood, and the New York Times bestseller, Surrendering to Marriage.

A CONVERSATION WITH IRIS KRASNOW
Q. Almost ten years ago, your New York Times bestseller, Surrendering to Marriage, also encouraged wives to stick it out in imperfect marriages. If you were speaking to someone who read your earlier book, what would you tell her is different about The Secret Lives of Wives? How have you—and your marriage—changed since writing Surrendering to Marriage?

I wrote my first marriage book when our kids were young and our marriage was young. But I knew the score then and I know it now: Marriage can be hell. The grass is seldom greener on the other side. And no one is perfect, including you. So you may as well work your hardest to love the person you are married to. I'll tell you what is different: A decade ago I was starting to realize that the happiest wives had full lives of their own. What I know now with wholehearted certainty is that the happiest wives are those who not only have work they love and separate interests, but they have many different people in their lives, men and women. Having a variety of friends helps us stretch in new directions beyond the mother-wife roles. It takes a village to nurture a long-running marriage, as no one person can meet all of your needs. People who expect one spouse in one house to fuel them happily-ever-after are on a course toward divorce.

Q. In your prologue, you recount seeing Dennis Kucinich and his young wife, Elizabeth, making out on an airplane. Silently, you wished them "grit and the ability to surrender in paving the way toward a forever marriage" (p. xi). Your previous three books also recommend that women surrender to motherhood, marriage, and themselves—surprising advice from a woman writer in the post-feminist world. Can you define what you mean by "surrender?

My use of the word "surrendering" in my book titles and in the body of my work is very much a spiritual embrace, a yielding to a purpose larger than our own selfish desires. Surrendering in marriage means you realize that happily-ever-after doesn't mean you get to be happy all the time. Surrender means an acceptance of imperfections. Surrendering to marriage means you work constantly to keep your commitment to forge onward through health, sickness and the inevitable battles. My view of the concept of surrender when it comes to love is that this is victory, and not defeat.

Q. "The battle cry of this book for all of us graying wives with teenage hearts: My kids are leaving home, and I need more than just marriage and my job. I want passion, change, surprises. I want more fun"(p. 18). You seem to have aimed the book toward boomers in long-established marriages, but it seems like a lot of newlyweds could really profit from these wives' candid stories.

I teach journalism at American University and the young women I teach are very interested in what marriage means and how they can succeed in this institution. My students are children of the Divorce Revolution who came of age with the statistic that nearly half of American marriages end in divorce. Any young person can benefit from the wisdom of us long-married spouses who have figured out secrets and strategies to achieve "until death do us part". Although the women I interviewed are predominantly at midlife and beyond, their issues long-term relationships—the roller coaster of love and hate—are therapeutic for any woman, at any age. Let me add that I hear from a lot of men, young and old, who have also picked up marriage tips from my books!

Q. Did any of the wives profiled in The Secret Lives of Wives make an appearance in one of your earlier books? How did you conduct your search for interview subjects?

My sister Fran, a divorce lawyer in Chicago, has been quoted in other books. And of course, the evolution of my own marriage appears again. Mostly, though, this is fresh material, new people in marriages I knew nothing about until I started digging. You'd be surprised how quickly I was able to find women to interview. It seems that most veteran wives are eager to dish about the ups and downs of their marriages. Their willingness to share the edgiest of sagas is even more pronounced when they are assured their identities will be concealed. You may not know the true names of some of my sources but I promise you all these stories, even the most unbelievable, are true to the bone.

Q. Of the numerous women you interviewed, whose story made the biggest impression on you personally?

Falisha is a woman who has stuck with me. She is a Muslim wife in an arranged marriage. Her husband, a loyal and respectful man she considers her best friend, hasn't initiated sex for months. They have two young children together and she is a successful accountant. Despite this dry spell, Falisha considers her marriage to be happy: "Nothing is perfect", is the theme of her story, and she tells her girlfriends who complain about their imperfect husbands to stop whining about what they don't have, appreciate what they do have and keep striving to make things better. I liked her candor and her willingness to work through their problem with counseling and talking openly, no matter how uncomfortable the conversations become. Many people leave marriages that have gone tepid without putting in any effort on getting some of the steam back. Or they stay married, sleep apart and conduct affair after affair. Falisha is smarter than that.

Q. What was the most interesting story that ended up leaving out of the book?

I interviewed a 60-year-old woman whose husband of 30 years committed suicide after their anniversary trip to Italy. Although he was mildly depressed about the recession depleting his business, she was shocked that he took his own life. Her high school boyfriend with whom she remained close over the decades helped her heal and she ended up marrying him. I was fascinated by this story but left it out because it was so complicated I could have written an entire book about her.

Q. You make it very clear that your husband, Chuck, is "a man of few words" (p. 258) and even sometimes "stingy about sharing other parts of himself" (p. 25). How does he feel about the fact that you are revelatory in your writing of some intimate aspects of your relationship?

I do not share the most intimate aspects of our relationship. There are sacred secrets to be shared with nobody but us. What I do openly share is some of my own pain and the joy and peace and madness that are common themes in most long marriages. Over the course of a long journalism career writing about love and intimacy, I have found that when I open up and speak the truth it not only engages my readers it also makes them more honest and pro-active about their own relationships. I am a journalist, not a psychologist, yet the women I interview generously bare their hearts. If I expect them to be frank and real, I must be frank and real. How does my husband feel about my straight-shooting writing style? He says that Iris Krasnow books help him understand more fully who he is, who I am, and who we are as couple. Chuck is a keeper!

Q. What is the most critical advice that you—as a wife—would like to pass on to your four sons—as future husbands?

I have two sons in college and their 17-year-old twin brothers are seniors in high school. The two most important pieces of advice I will give these boys when they are of the age when they are seriously choosing life partners is: Pick women who have full and happy lives of their own independent of you. And I will tell them that the three primary ingredients in making a marriage last are trust, respect and friendship. If you don't have those qualities in your relationship, look elsewhere.

Q. Now that you are facing an empty nest with the twins entering college in the fall of 2012, are you making any plans to re-arrange your marriage to accommodate this next step?

Our marriage of two separate people with separate interests, and sometimes separate lives, doesn't need changing or re-arranging once our children leave our nest. I have always had work I love independent of my family, and so has my husband. We will continue to branch out in our professions, me as an author and as a professor, Chuck as a woodworker and architect. And as we continue to grow as individuals our marriage will continue to strengthen and expand. Although our children may no longer live in our home, we will always be parents together of four sons who will need us at every juncture of their lives. I'm also told by older friends that often those college graduates move back into their bedrooms! I will welcome that. I often love marriage, and sometimes I loathe marriage. But I always love the family structure we've created together over the course of going on a quarter-of-a-century. Our marriage, and those portrayed in The Secret Lives of Wives, are examples of how to ride the roller coaster of a long relationship without sacrificing your commitment to the partnership or your need for personal growth. You can have it both ways!

Q. You lecture frequently and often address large crowds of women about issues of family and intimacy. What are some of the most common questions you are asked?

Young women want to know if marriage will dramatically alter their lives. That answer, of course, is yes. Midlife women often have the 20-year-itch. Many are settled in marriages that have lost their steamy quality and they are hungry for secrets on how to go the distance. I tell them to look within for power and direction and not to count on a spouse, or any other person, to make them happy. Happiness must first come from within and of course, a solid marriage adds to that sense of well-being. Women in their 80s have more answers than questions. I'm thinking of one 87-year-old wife of sixty-two years I met at a recent event. While I was signing her book she leaned over to me and said, "Honey, you want to know the real secret to staying married? Don't get divorced."

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  • Did The Secret Lives of Wives challenge any of your beliefs about marriage? Whose story resonated most with you? Was there a wife whose marriage you wished you could have? If so, what are the steps you could take to achieve it?
  • Do you agree with Krasnow's assertion that "you can shake loose legally from a vintage marriage, but you will forever be entangled in a place so deep that even the best lawyer is incapable of performing a clean extraction" (p. 37)?
  • Whether it's taking up a discarded hobby or giving more attention to your appearance or taking a separate vacation, are you considering altering some behavior or attitude after reading this book?
  • Many of the women profiled gave up their jobs and careers when they married or became mothers. For them, returning to work revived their self-confidence as well as their marriages. But Alice and Jade are working wives and mothers. For them, the necessity of work breeds feelings of resentment toward their husbands. Jade complained, "even when I was working seventy hours a week … I still did the lion's share of the work around the house" (p. 143). Is a successful marriage a socioeconomic luxury?
  • Cynthia has never had sex with her college boyfriend, but they regularly meet for lunch and follow it up with a make out session in his car. Mimi and her husband, Gerald, are swingers who regularly engage in foursomes. Do you consider Cynthia and Mimi's marriages to be "technically" monogamous? Is Shauna's infidelity okay since her husband doesn't seem to care?
  • Do you think all of the wives profiled have an accurate sense of their husbands and marriages?
  • Were you surprised by Falisha's overwhelmingly positive experience as a wife in an arranged marriage? Krasnow writes that, "divorce rates in India, where 95 percent of marriages are arranged, are among the lowest in the world" (p. 219). What do you see as the benefits of an arranged marriage versus a "love" match?
  • How—if at all—do you think the surge in Internet dating will affect marriage and divorce statistics in the decades to come?
  • Would you recommend The Secret Lives of Wives to your husband?
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  • Posted November 4, 2011

    I Also Recommend:

    interesting

    Enjoyed it. Beautiful written. Great Read

    8 out of 8 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 18, 2011

    An honest look at what it takes

    Most of the one-star reviews on this page seem to be about the size of the sample excerpt available. I agree that it's too short - especially because this is such a great book!

    Married for more than two decades herself, Krasnow interviews two hundred of her fellow "oldyweds" and combs their stories for the best insights about how to make marriage work. The most important insight is this: a happy marriage is between two happy and fulfilled individuals; it can't be a source of happiness and fulfillment in itself.

    How the individuals in a marriage achieve fulfillment differs wildly from couple to couple. Women in this book talk about things as diverse as rediscovering childhood passions, spending more time with girlfriends, and yes, having flirty friendships with men. Krasnow presents it all in an even-handed, nonjudgmental way. Her mantra: it's their marriage, not mine.

    A fascinating look at what marriage *really* looks like today.

    4 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 16, 2011

    Highly recommended.

    I thought this book would make me smile. I was a paradigm shift for me. I'm so glad I read it. I have recommended it to 2 of my friends.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 8, 2011

    Sample

    The book may be great, but this so-called sample will not give you any idea because it is nothing from the book,but one paragraph for 17 pages??

    3 out of 11 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 6, 2012

    Hmmm don't judge a book by its cover.....errr sample

    Giving a book a bad review based solely on the sample because you're too cheap to buy the whole book is really not fair. How dare you lower the score of a book because you didn't get enough for free.

    This is a great book that inspires you to push through when you're feeling like its time to throw in the towel.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 19, 2012

    This was one book that I did not want to end....that's how AWESO

    This was one book that I did not want to end....that's how AWESOME it was!

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  • Posted October 20, 2011

    Sample!!!!!!!!

    This is the worst sample ever!It dos not even show you a whole paragraph!You do not get the story line at all!!!!!

    2 out of 7 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 19, 2011

    Sample

    This is the worst sample I have downloaded! The book starts on page #16 of the 17 page sample and it isn't even a complete paragraph.

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  • Posted January 26, 2012

    I expected something different

    I have to say that I went into this book expecting something very different.

    I am glad to know that my married life is pretty much the same as all the other women - but I couldn't get over how in each woman's story I read over and over that the woman just 'submitted' or 'accepted' her life and then went on...

    There were not 'secrets' that I haven't heard myself saying.

    Maybe I interpreted it wrong, but it did very little for me or the growth of my married life.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 21, 2012

    Not much here

    Very hard to get thru and the message is repetitive. Could have been written in 25 pages or less.....

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  • Posted January 2, 2012

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    Life altering!

    I am still young at only 27 but I have been with my husband of 2 years for nine. I never thought marriage would be easy but I have to tell you, this book made a world of difference in the way I view all the years I plan to be with my husband. It is a must read!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 1, 2012

    Repetitive

    I liked the concept, but the format was very repetitive. Every chapter goes a little like this: Introduction with flashback of authors life, followed by brief introduction of the person interviewed with a story, reflection of random memory by author that may or may not be relevent to the story just shared. Save some time by skipping over the flashbacks and read the stories of those interviewed. Which coincidently have the theme of "times will be tough, get a hobby and everything will be okay when you reflect on it later."

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 30, 2011

    Wonderful book

    I found this book to be a well written and interesting read. As a woman married for 16 years, I found alot of the stories in this book entertaining and the advice offered by other married women to be useful.

    I think this is a must read for all married women.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted December 8, 2011

    loved it

    This is a great book...I'm a young woman and hope to be married in my not too far future. This book is relevant to my life and makes me think about marriage in a little bit of a different light. I'm thankful for seeing the next step in my future through an alternate lens then the same one I've known for a long time.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 22, 2011

    Phenomenal

    A must read for anyone who is in or plans to be in a relationship.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted November 20, 2011

    Fascinating Read

    This is an interesting look into real lives, some extreme, and what they do in order to keep it going.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 18, 2011

    Highly Recommend!

    ¿The Secret Lives of Wives¿ pulls back the blinds as well as the sheets on real marriages, some blissful, others rocky, still others outrageous.

    Regardless, these well-told stories prompt the reader to assess their own marriage, and for that the reader will be grateful.

    Iris Krasnow offers an entertaining, informative and thought-provoking read, one that should be welcomed in any bedroom, one that could generate plenty of conversation and even activity there ¿ under the sheets and behind the blinds.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 4, 2011

    I did not agree with any of these woman.

    Many of the woman in this book decided to be with bad company rather than by themselves. I am married, never would I or my husband take trips without each other. I stopped reading more than half way through this book because it was upsetting and unbelievable.

    1 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 4, 2013

    eye opener

    i love how the author told the women's stories in such different examples. both enlightening and entertaining it was hard to put this book down






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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 25, 2012

    Stupid sample

    I am not buying because the 17 page sample revealed nothing about the book.

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