Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women

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"A resource of excellent caliber...Highly recommended for those who suspect that they are unconscious survivors of abuse and especially for therapists to dig into the darkest shadow part of human existence."
ELIZABETH KUBLER-ROSS, M.D.
SECRET SURVIVORS is the first book to expand the definition of incest to include any adult abuser and to focus on what incest does to survivors. E. Sue Blume shows how incest is often at the root of such problems as depression, sexual and eating ...
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Overview

"A resource of excellent caliber...Highly recommended for those who suspect that they are unconscious survivors of abuse and especially for therapists to dig into the darkest shadow part of human existence."
ELIZABETH KUBLER-ROSS, M.D.
SECRET SURVIVORS is the first book to expand the definition of incest to include any adult abuser and to focus on what incest does to survivors. E. Sue Blume shows how incest is often at the root of such problems as depression, sexual and eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, and phobias and panic disorders. Using this information and the author's guidance, survivors can identify themselves, develop alternative, nondestructive survival techniques and begin again on a new path toward a rich and empowered life.

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Blume offers new hope to the thousands of people who, each year, seek counseling for incest-related disorders or for other unexplained problemsthat can be caused by "hidden" incest.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Addressed to victims of incest--here defined to include sexual abuse by friends or caregivers--this is a realistic and sensitive study. New York psychotherapist Blume speaks to victims who have blocked childhood memories of abuse, and sets out to help them cope with ``Post-Incest Syndrome,'' which encompasses depression, guilt, substance addiction and sexual dysfunction. Survivors will also benefit from the author's perceptive advice on rebuilding self-esteem as a preparation for resuming friendships and sexual relations. (Feb.)
Library Journal
A therapist who works with incest victims, Blume offers help, advice, and support while exploring in depth the devastation wrought by this crime. She expands the definition of incest to include sexual abuse perpetrated by any caregiver (including teachers, relatives, or neighbors). Her book is written for those who know that they have been abused as well as those who have blocked such abuse from their memories. The ``Incest Survivor Aftereffects Checklist'' describes the many ways incest affects its victims. Using the concepts delineated in the checklist Blume explores how victims protect themselves against awareness that cannot be faced through aftereffects such as dreams, addictions, and interpersonal issues. She then offers numerous specific suggestions for recovery, including descriptions and evaluations of therapeutic interventions in the final chapter.-- Jodith Janes, Cleveland Clinic Foundation
Booknews
An insightful and thorough discussion for victims and those who work with incest survivors. Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780345419453
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/28/1998
  • Pages: 352
  • Sales rank: 399,795
  • Product dimensions: 5.55 (w) x 8.26 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Table of Contents

THE INCEST SURVIVORS' AFTER EFFECTS CHECKLIST
Spoiled Love: An Overview
Supposition and Research: What We Know, What We Think We Know
In Somebody Else's Hands: Control, Power, and Boundary Issues
The Secret and Its Enforcement: The Emperor's New Clothes
Am I Crazy?--No, You're Coping--(Part I)
Once Remembering Begins: The Crazies (Part 2)
Spoiled and Soiled: Guilt, Shame, Self-Blame and Self-Esteem
Anxiety, Fear, Terror, and Phobias
Anger and Rage
Avoiding Pain: Addictions and Compulsions
Victimization and Self-Destructiveness
At War with the Body
Sex (Is Not Sex)
Relationships, Part 1--The Self, Then Others
Relationships, Part 2--Intimacy: Replaying the Incest
Hope, Healing and Beyond
Resources
Index
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  • Posted November 20, 2009

    The Best Book On Trauma That I Have Ever Read

    This book, "Secret Survivors" is the most helpful book that I have ever read, and I continually use it for reference when we're going through specific issues. I struggle with Complex PTSD and DID, and have read many books regarding both diagnoses. E. Sue Blume's book is outstanding among all. Even though "Secret Survivors" was not written specifically to address Dissociative Disorders, I still find it incredibly helpful. We have to adapt some parts of the book to fit our different parts, but it is still the most comprehensive and useful information that I have ever found, and that includes DID specific books. "Secret Survivors" is still extremely relevant even now in 2009.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 8, 2007

    E. Sue Blume wrote my story ~

    When I read Secret Survivors, I was amazed at how accurate she was in describing a survivor. Not only did she describe survivors, she broke it down into different types of abuse, different types of perpetrators, and different kinds of coping skills. I felt like she was a fly on the wall in my own home. I couldn't describe my abuse any better than she did. The book made me feel less alone in my healing. I felt like others had made it through this horror and they lived. My therapist and I worked through this book together. It was very healing for me. Thanks E. Sue Blume!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 6, 2005

    Finally, understanding myself

    I have been in therepy since 1999 and nothing has moved me as much as this book. It really explains every aspect of the aftereffects in laymen terms. It hits on anxiety, trust, and much, much more. This will be my 'go to' book when I'm down and need reassurance. Also, this book will help your spouse/partner understand why you do things that you do.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 5, 2005

    The best book on incest and women available

    This book is amazing. I came to it after reading quite a bit of literature on this subject, and it was the best, hands-down: informative, reassuring, hopeful, professional, and at the same time easy to read. As another reviewer said, it is like reading about your own life...any survivor will relate to it, learn from it, and thus find hope.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 29, 2004

    A must read for all incest survivors and spouses

    This was the first book I picked up on incest survival and I couldn't have picked a better one. I have dog eared and highlighted more than half of this book. I felt as if I were reading a book about ME. I *finally* had words put to the feelings I have been experiencing all my life. But it did more than that, it gave me hope and strength. It also is a wonderful guide for what to do next. This book touched me to my soul, as it will you.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 7, 2003

    Incredibly Informative!

    I just completed this book and my therapist is now reading it. This is the first book I've ever read that describes how the incest has affected ALL aspects of our lives. It prooves my point that authorities would rather deal with effects rather than causes, ie. Alcoholism, Drug abuse. They also only address the mental/emotional disorders with medications but not what caused these disorders. So we have MEDICATED incest survivors still using 'coping mechanicisms' and not 'feeling.' And it perpetuates blame onto the survivor once again ' It's what's wrong with me.' Nothing gets resolved, just covered up. Again the prepetrator wins because we don't heal. I LOVE THIS BOOK! All survivors MUST read this book. The most freeing experience to know I'm not crazy after all!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 15, 2002

    The only book you'll need on this subject

    Blume uncovers the truth about the trauma of incest.The after-effects of incest can last a life-time. I found this book at the library, and was determined to buy it from the book store.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 3, 2002

    eye opening

    The checklist at the beginning of the book was an insight into my world of secrets and it helped me to understand that it wasn't my fault. It has been on my book shelf for 8 years.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 30, 2000

    a thorough and comprehensive self book that trancends far beyond normally all too popularized mass market self help

    a surprisingly knowledgeable, friendly a thorough self help tool. Finally authentic research at the lay person's door. E. Sue Blume works hard to answer all kinds of questions. For those who know about incest and still find questions nagging them...this book is perfect for you. For those of you who have no idea what you may be going through, this book is also perfect for you. Everyone needs to give him or herself or someone else a copy of this book. It is an astounding book made for the purpose of redressing injury.

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