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Secrets of Better Sex


Organized in a convenient A-to-Z format, Secrets of Better Sex gives concise prescriptions for solving problems and improving the quality of your lovemaking: how to increase and sustain arousal, enjoy longer orgasms, talk to your partner about sensitive issues, and much more. Discover thirteen attitudes for Super Sex; five tips for overcoming performance anxiety, whether you're a man or a woman; twelve entertaining fantasies to spice up a too-routine sex life (sexy and fun at any time of the day); and advice for ...
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Organized in a convenient A-to-Z format, Secrets of Better Sex gives concise prescriptions for solving problems and improving the quality of your lovemaking: how to increase and sustain arousal, enjoy longer orgasms, talk to your partner about sensitive issues, and much more. Discover thirteen attitudes for Super Sex; five tips for overcoming performance anxiety, whether you're a man or a woman; twelve entertaining fantasies to spice up a too-routine sex life (sexy and fun at any time of the day); and advice for keeping the sexual fires burning after menopause, surgery, or through chronic illness. Learn the latest information on such topics as sexually transmitted diseases, safe sex, impotence, and more... an erotic calendar of events for every month of the year... lists of sources of imaginative erotica... and a revealing look at sexual techniques from other cultures.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781402837432
  • Publisher: Prentice Hall Press
  • Publication date: 12/1/1996
  • Pages: 285

Table of Contents

Introduction v
Afterplay 1
Five Hints for Sex-Enhancing Afterplay 4
Aging 4
Women's Primary Concern About Sex and Aging 6
Men's Primary Concern About Sex and Aging 7
Five Easy Ways of Boosting Sexual Power 7
Anal Sex 8
Seven Important Guidelines for Anal Sex 8
Three Alternatives to Anal Intercourse 10
Anatomy, Sexual 10
How to Teach Him About Your Genitals 11
How to Teach Her About Your Genitals 12
Anxiety, Performance 14
Five Tips for Overcoming Performance Anxiety 15
Aphrodisiacs 16
Arousal 17
The Step Beyond Desire 17
Why You--Or Your Partner--Aren't Getting Excited About Sex 18
When He Loses His Erection During Lovemaking 19
The Four Keys to Male Arousal 19
The Four Keys to Female Arousal 21
The Secret to Increasing Arousal During Lovemaking 21
Attitudes About Sex 21
The Thirteen Attitudes for Super Sex 22
Aural Arousal, the Stimulation of Sound 24
Six Hints for Erotic Expression 25
Bisexuality 27
Body Image and Sexuality 29
How You Feel About Your Body Affects Your Sexuality 29
The Top Five Female Body Issues 30
The Top Five Male Body Issues 31
How You Can Learn to Love Your Body 31
How You Can Help Your Partner Learn to Love His or Her Body 32
Boredom, Sexual, Overcoming 32
Six Steps to Climbing Out of the Sexual Boredom Rut 33
Breasts 35
Top Six (Nonmedical) Breast Questions 37
Calendar, Creating a Romantic 39
Celibacy, Creative 40
Why Do Some People Choose to Be Celibate? 40
Should People Choose to Abstain from Sex? 42
How Can People Handle Abstinence? 42
Five Keys to Surviving a Sexual Drought 43
Checklist, the Sexual Relationship 44
Twenty Questions About Sex 44
Clitoral Stimulation 45
How to Make Love to a Clitoris 46
Communication 48
How Important Is Communication? 48
Five Principles of Communication 49
How to Discuss the Touchiest Sexual Issues 50
The Secret to Creating Positive Sexual Change 52
Seven Nonverbal Ways to Let Your Partner Know What You Want 53
Compulsive Sexual Behavior 53
Condoms 55
The Shoppers' Guide 55
Ten Most Often Asked Condom Questions 56
Condom Play: How to Incorporate Condom Use Into Loveplay 58
Female Condom 58
Conflict Resolution 60
Six Steps for Conflict Resolution 61
Cunnilingus 61
Cybersex 61
Desire 64
Six Tips for Handling Disparate Levels of Desire 66
What Causes Loss of Desire? 67
Divorce, Impact on Sexuality 68
Ten Steps to Becoming Sexually Active After Divorce 70
Dysfunction, Sexual 71
Ejaculation 72
Premature Ejaculation 72
Three Techniques for Curing Premature Ejaculation 74
Delayed Ejaculation or Male Orgasmic Disorder 74
How to Handle Male Orgasmic Disorder 76
Female Ejaculation 76
Erection 77
Anatomy of an Erection 77
What Men Say About Erections 78
Four Steps for Handling Your Erection Difficulties 78
Four Steps for Helping Him Handle His Erection Difficulties 79
Erotica 79
Ten of the Best Books and Videos Aimed at Women and Couples 81
Exercise 81
Extramarital Affairs 81
Top Eight Reasons People Have Affairs 81
Types of Affairs 82
Five Most Commonly Asked Questions About Affairs 85
Fantasy, Sexual 89
What Fantasies Are and What They Are Not 89
Why They're Good for You and When They're Not 92
Top Ten Sexual Fantasies 92
Should You Share or Act Out Sexual Fantasies with Your Partner? 94
Fear, Overcoming 95
Five Fears to Overcome for Great Sex 95
Fellatio 96
Fetishism 96
Flirting 98
Five Rules of Flirting 100
Foreplay 100
Seven Tips for Hotter Foreplay 101
Frequency of Lovemaking, and How to Increase 103
Six Sexual Energizers 104
G Spot 106
What Women Say About Their G Spots 107
How to Stimulate Her G Spot 107
Gender Role Expectations 107
Three Keys to Becoming a More Complete Lover 109
Guilt, Overcoming 109
Three Suggestions for Overcoming Guilt 111
Health and Sexuality 112
Four Health Steps for Enhancing Sexuality 113
Homosexuality 114
Five Questions Most Often Asked by Heterosexuals About Homosexuality 114
Hormones 116
Hot Spots 118
Five Hot Areas 118
Hysterectomy, Affect on Sexuality 119
What Happens to a Woman's Sexuality Following a Hysterectomy 119
How to Handle Post-Surgery Loss of Libido 121
Illness and Disability 122
Seven Steps to Restoring Sexual Responsiveness 123
Impotence 124
Five Steps a Man Can Take to Restore Sexual Function 126
Five Steps a Woman Can Take to Help Restore a Man's Sexual Functioning 127
Infertility 127
Five Ways to Make Sex Hotter While Trying to Conceive 128
Intercourse 129
Seven Ways to Enhancing Intercourse 130
Intimacy 131
What Is Intimacy? 131
How to Overcome His (or Your) Fear of Intimacy 133
Jealousy, Sexual 134
Five Steps to Defusing Jealousy 136
Joy Break 137
Kegels 140
How to Exercise Your Love Muscles 141
Kinky Sex 142
Five Most Common Forms of Kinky Sexplay 143
Kissing 145
Six Essential Kissing Tips 147
Lovebites 148
Five Best Spots to Lovebite 149
Lovemaps 149
What Is a Lovemap? 149
Three Steps for Creating a New and Positive Lovemap 151
Lubrication 152
Four Steps to Take in Relieving Vaginal Dryness 153
Marriage, (and/or Monogamy) Spicing Up 155
Five Steps to Rekindling Marital (Monogamous) Sex 156
Beyond Bubble Baths and Lingerie: Twelve Less Obvious Ideas for Reviving a Tired Sex Life 157
Marriage, Open 158
Essential Open Marriage Questions 159
Marriage, Sexless 159
Five Steps for Putting Sex Back in Your Marriage 161
Massage, Erotic 161
Six Steps to an Erotic Massage 162
Masturbation 163
Top Ten Questions About Masturbation 164
Medications, Prescribed, Sexual Effect of 167
Medication Action List 169
Mental Health, Effect on Sexuality 170
Five Steps to Shaking off the Sexual Blahs 171
Menopause, Effect on Sexuality 173
Eight Steps to Maintaining Sexual Responsiveness During and After Menopause 174
Menopause, Male 175
Ten Steps to Alleviating the Male Midlife Crisis 177
Myths, Sexual 178
Top Ten Myths About Sex 178
Noncoital Sex 180
Five Ways of Having Sex Without Penetration 181
Overcoming Obstacles to Good Sex, Daily 183
Twenty Suggestions for Overcoming Daily Obstacles to Sex 184
Oral Sex 186
How to Get A Reluctant Partner to Give and Receive Oral Sex 187
Six Steps for Performing Cunnilingus 188
Three Tips for Receiving Cunnilingus 188
Six Steps for Performing Fellatio 189
Three Tips for Receiving Fellatio 190
Orgasm 190
What Is An Orgasm? 190
Male Orgasm 192
Four Techniques for Delaying Orgasm 193
Female Orgasm 194
How Can A Woman Experience Orgasm During Intercourse? 195
Behavior Traits of Easily Orgasmic Women 196
Theories About Orgasm 197
Secret to the Simultaneous Orgasm 198
Multiple Orgasm 198
How Women Can Experience Multiple Orgasms 199
How Men Can Experience Multiple Orgasms 199
The Perineum Halt: How She Can Help 200
Extragenital Orgasm 201
Spontanious Orgasm 201
Whole-Body Orgasm 201
Why Faked Orgasms 202
Painful Intercourse, Dyspareunia 203
Paraphilias 205
What Is a Paraphilia? 205
What Causes Paraphilias? 206
What Are the Treatments? 207
Performance Anxiety 207
Peyronie's Disease 207
Playing Hard to Get 208
Pornography 209
Positions, Intercourse 209
Advantages, Disadvantages, and Variations of the Six Basic Intercourse Positions 210
Pregnancy 215
How Does Pregnancy Affect Sexuality? 215
How Does Childbirth Affect Sexuality? 216
Five Rules for Lovemaking During Pregnancy and After Childbirth 217
Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) and Sexuality 218
Three Tips for Managing Cycles of Desire 219
Prostate Problems and Sexuality 219
Five Steps for Handling Prostate Problems 220
Quickies 221
Recovery Sex 222
Five Steps to Recovery Sex 222
Sexual Aftershock of Abortion 223
Ten Steps to Assist Healing and Restore Sexuality 224
Sexual Abuse 225
What to Do If You or Your Partner Has Been Abused 226
Alcohol and Drug Abuse's Effect on Sexuality 226
Rape 229
Five Steps to Helping Yourself (or Your Partner) Become Fully Sexual Again 230
Romance 230
Six Ways to Keep (Or Put Back) the Romance in Your Relationship 234
Safe Sex 235
Sex Activities in Ascending Order of Risk 236
Seasonal Sexual Slump 236
Secrets, Sexual 238
Five Keys to Sharing Sexual Secrets 240
Sensuality 240
Five Exercises for Awakening Sensuality 243
Sex Education 243
Top Ten Questions Parents of Children and Teens Have About Sex 244
Sex Therapy 246
Five Warning Signs Indicating Therapy is Needed 248
Sex Toys 249
Five Tips for Enhancing Couple's Vibrator Use 250
Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Sexuality 251
Top Five Questions People Have about STDs 251
AIDS 252
Smoking, Effect on Sexuality 254
Taoist and Tantric Sex, or Eastern Sexual Techniques 255
Four Eastern Sex Techniques Any Couple Can Use 256
Teenage Sex 257
Five Crucial Teen Sex Guidelines 259
Trust 259
Trust Scale 260
What Your Answers Mean 262
Vaginismus 266
Eight Steps for Curing Vaginismus 267
Wet Dreams 268
Zipless Sex or Quickies 269
Five Golden Rules of Quickies 270
Index 273
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