Secrets of the Southern Belle: How to Be Nice, Work Hard, Look Pretty, Have Fun, and Never Have an Off Moment

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From Phaedra Parks, breakout star of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, comes a true Southern Belle’s witty, practical, and no-nonsense guide to life.

She’s the voice of reason on the Bravo’s massively popular The Real Housewives of Atlanta, known for her major career, happy home life, redonkulous caboose—and for being the ultimate Southern Belle. Phaedra Parks has spark, but she’s also got serious savoir faire. She’s spent her entire life as a Southern Belle and she has a lot to ...

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Overview

From Phaedra Parks, breakout star of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, comes a true Southern Belle’s witty, practical, and no-nonsense guide to life.

She’s the voice of reason on the Bravo’s massively popular The Real Housewives of Atlanta, known for her major career, happy home life, redonkulous caboose—and for being the ultimate Southern Belle. Phaedra Parks has spark, but she’s also got serious savoir faire. She’s spent her entire life as a Southern Belle and she has a lot to share. What’s more, she honestly believes life as a Belle is simply better, for you and for the people around you.

As Phaedra knows better than anyone, if you are a Southern Belle, men would find you fascinating and women would want to be your friend. You would always be perfectly put together and never at a loss for words. You would have access to the very best of traditional Southern ways as well as the freedoms and opportunities of the twenty-first century. You would be charming and impeccable. You would never wear sneakers outside the gym.

In Secrets of the Southern Belle, Phaedra dispenses invaluable advice about fashion, etiquette, dating, and the workplace, giving a modern twist to traditional values and Southern etiquette. From nailing an interview to hosting the perfect backyard barbeque to the art of playing hard to get, Phaedra will help you tackle whatever comes your way—without ever breaking a sweat.

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Phaedra Parks retains her cool Southern Belle demeanor whether she's mediating problems on the set as The Real Housewives of Atlanta, signing autographs at charity events, winning cases in the courtroom, hanging out with her husband Apollo, or cuddling with her two toddler sons. How does she do it? The happy workaholic reveals all her fashion, etiquette, dating, social, and workplace secrets in this fascinating new book. (P.S. As this is written, Bravo is developing Rich People Problems, a show that will focus on Parks' work with high society clients.)

Publishers Weekly
09/16/2013
In this disorganized etiquette book, lawyer Parks, a star of Bravo’s The Real Housewives of Atlanta, reinvents herself as a Southern Emily Post. Parks invites readers onto her porch for a dose of good old-fashioned Atlanta etiquette “with a tall glass of sweet tea and a plate of ladyfingers and cucumber sandwiches.” The author is helpful on topics like table manners, dress codes, parenting, and money management, and downright informative when speaking on propriety at a Southern funeral. However, this is a belle with an edge, who insists that women should wear panty hose and delivers diatribes against tattoos (contained in the chapter, “Looking Like a Tramp”). She regards helplessness as a good strategy for women because “men crave being needed,” and though “Be Nice” is the title of the first section, veiled snarkiness is often the theme of this self-important book. “I gladly give everyone credit for at least trying to behave well. However, the truth is, some people could use some extra help,” writes Parks. The author’s pointers prove both entertaining and insufferable. (Nov.)
Library Journal
If Parks can be a fabulous homemaker, managing partner of a boutique law firm, and star of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, you can, too. Okay, not a TV star, but Parks is here to tell you how to be a Southern belle. Hot on the blogs.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781476715452
  • Publisher: Gallery Books
  • Publication date: 11/12/2013
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 165,813
  • Product dimensions: 5.36 (w) x 7.26 (h) x 0.94 (d)

Meet the Author

Phaedra Parks

Phaedra Parks has been one of the Real Housewives of Atlanta since 2010. She is also managing partner of The Parks Group, a boutique law firm specializing in entertainment, intellectual property rights, civil, and criminal litigation. She is a certified mediator and arbitrator. Born and raised in Georgia, Phaedra received her BA with honors from Wesleyan College in Macon, Georgia, and her JD from the University of Georgia. She has also served as consulting producer and talent for one of BET’s most-viewed shows, Tiny and Toya. Her volunteer and philanthropic work includes board membership of the Junior League of Atlanta, Atlanta Children’s Shelter, American Heart Association, Ambassador for Be A Hero and the American Bar Association’s Advisory Board. Phaedra is the proud wife of Apollo Nida and mother of Ayden.

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Secrets of the Southern Belle

° How to Be Nice °


I would like to believe that most people have good intentions, because, really, who actually wants the rest of the world to think they were raised by wolves? So I gladly give everyone credit for at least trying to behave well. However, the truth is, some people could use some extra help. If you ever have the pleasure of spending time in the South, you can readily note the fundamentally different way southerners interact with people. People who are not from the South are often confused or genuinely surprised when they experience true southern hospitality. Smiling, greeting strangers on the street, and opening doors are not common in all parts of the world. But it surely makes us happier people!

Our ability to be kind and generally respect others comes from most of us being raised under the biblical premise of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” In the South, whether you live in downtown Atlanta or rural Alabama, there are no strangers. Most of us realize from early childhood that karma is real and the bridge you so easily burn might well be the bridge you have to cross to get home. In different parts of the world that move at a faster pace, being insensitive or considering most people as dispensable seems to be the norm. But in the South we treasure being respectable and respecting others. Unfortunately, as we see more migration from other parts of the world, we also see an increase of poor manners and rude behavior. But the Southern Belle prides herself on treating everyone like the next president, because potential is not always obvious; your parking valet today might be chairman of the city council tomorrow.

So we greet people. It’s such a small thing, but I notice that in some cities, no one ever says hello, good morning, or have a nice day. They intentionally avoid making eye contact with any and all living things. (Apparently their shoes and belt buckles are quite the conversationalists!) I find it particularly odd in business, when the salespeople or tellers don’t speak or thank you for your patronage. Don’t they realize that without customers they would not have a job? I guess my mama’s favorite adage, “Common sense isn’t common,” is definitely true in most cases. To intentionally ignore someone’s presence is just simply rude; if someone pretends you don’t exist for long enough, you might start believing them!

We say, “Hello, how are you doing today?” even if we have no interest in the answer. Everybody always says, “I’m fine, thanks for asking, and how are you?” We might mention the weather. When appropriate, a Belle will try to bring a compliment into the conversation. It’s as simple as this: we treat the people we meet as human beings. We try to pay attention to them.

And I’d like to think we try to be considerate. We aren’t in as much of a hurry, so we’ll let somebody get in line in front of us if asked nicely. We are especially kind to the elderly and the infirm. We do favors for people. We are warm, but at the same time we are formal, which is why we are always well-groomed. Some of these habits, which some might consider old-fashioned—like writing notes and sending flowers—are very charming and endearing, as you will learn on your way to becoming a Southern Belle.

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  • Posted December 29, 2013

    Normally, a book like this wouldn't find its way into my hands,

    Normally, a book like this wouldn't find its way into my hands, but I will admit that being a fan of The Real Housewives of Atlanta made me a little curious. A modern day book of manners, Secrets of the Southern Belle is filled with tips on how to live a fabulous life as a "lady" and how to do things "properly".




    Like most books of its kind, there are guidelines on relationships, keeping a home, work life, and entertaining. Parks' humor and southern twist makes those old standards fun to read. And yes, she gets a few jabs in, like what to do when someone attempts inappropriate communication with your significant other (looking at you, Kenya) and other reality show related tidbits.




    I'm not necessarily the target market for this book, but it could be helpful for young women who need guidance on the appropriateness of certain behaviors and situations. 

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 29, 2013

    Phaedra is the truth and people should take note! This book is n

    Phaedra is the truth and people should take note! This book is needed for many!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 25, 2014

    I will be honest I only watch a few espisodes of RHoA during it

    I will be honest I only watch a few espisodes of RHoA during it entire series. I am very impress with this book that Phaedre Parks has written. Very detail in my opinion. Of course being from the Midwest with Southern roots. I enjoy reading it (read it twice) would recommend it to anyone that needs explanation and why on tips on being a lady. Kudos to Phaedra Parks!!!

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