Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children [NOOK Book]

Overview

This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will
help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.


Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in
bondage?and how ...

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Overview

This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will
help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.


Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in
bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text.


A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with
Your Adult Children
will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to
help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.



  • S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money

  • A = Assemble a Support Group

  • N = Nip Excuses in the Bud

  • I = Implement Rules/Boundaries

  • T = Trust Your Instincts

  • Y = Yield Everything to God


Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780736938587
  • Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
  • Publication date: 2/1/2008
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 42,598
  • File size: 2 MB

Table of Contents

Foreword   Carol Kent     9
Why I Had to Write This Book     13
The Parent as Enabler
"But I'm Only Trying to Help"     27
Why We Enable, and Why We Must Stop     41
Get Smart and Take Action!     61
"But Deep Down He's Really a Good Kid"     71
The Power of Love and Forgiveness     85
The Six Steps to SANITY
"S"-STOP Your Own Negative Behavior     101
"A"-ASSEMBLE a Support Group     111
"N"-NIP Excuses in the Bud     117
"I"-IMPLEMENT Rules and Boundaries     127
"T"-TRUST Your Instincts     137
"Y"-YIELD Everything to God     143
Developing an Action Plan     153
Considering the Consequences     171
Other Vital Issues     185
When Drugs and/or Alcohol Are Involved
When Your Child Is Disabled
When Your Adult Child Is a College Student
When Little Children Are Involved
When Blended Families Come Together
Epilogue     199
Resources     209
Notes     213
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  • Posted April 5, 2012

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    A Great Help!

    While much of this book gave advice for parents of grown children with addictions and in trouble with the law, which is not the case with my grown son, I still could use the advice to stop enabling and stop feeling guilty about NOT enabling! The issue with my adult son is a severe lack of respect and his constant desire to debate every topic and his disrepectful choice of words. To the extreme. I now realize that no matter how much I want to have a good relationship with my child (grown), I can't do it by myself and the years of me trying to has just been enabling my son to push his responsibilities onto me. And then resent me for it. I think every parent should read this book. Even those with young children because you'll see where not to go wrong to begin with (ex: doing everything for your child out of love, instead of having them being the person responsible for their own actions). This book also encourages you to pray and allow God to take over. I agree.

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  • Posted February 13, 2012

    Awesome book! Helped me so much!

    Reading this book, I saw myself in the author's words. Doing things to "help" my adult child and what I was doing wasn't helping at all. I was enabling. I was adding to the problem.
    There are no easy answers but this book gave me hope that I might regain some SANITY in my life and I can enforce boundaries to keep my other relationships (my husband and minor daughter) in tact. Great Christian perspective!

    5 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 1, 2012

    Wow......and Wow

    I am not even a parent! But I needed to read a book to help mine understand boundaries better and this book blew my mind. It really got to the core of enablers and how good intentions go wrong. But more importantly, the book did a great job giving true clarity to how parents go from good intentions to nibbling bad behavior.

    I would recommend this for anyone, not just parents in need, but for anyone who is thinking about having kids. Reading from this point of view really gives you a picture as to how fine the line really is.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 22, 2011

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    Great book

    Highly recommend for parents struggling with adult children, when to give in to their requests for money, living at home, etc. Great Christian book, good for all parents dealing with this issue.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted August 28, 2011

    It's never too late!

    wow.. just the book I needed. Powerful and inspirational. Made me realize a lot about myself and my enabling ways with my 19 year old son. I have always felt the guilt, pain, and worry she talks about in her book. No more! I knew my enabling ways were not helping my son and only hurting him and this book has confirmed a lot of things for me. I see there is light at the end of the tunnel. I will follow her six step to gain my SANITY back although I know it will not be easy. I know it will be challenging and I am scared, but know I have to do this and just let him go.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 1, 2012

    Highly recommended... I plan on passing this book around to other suffering parents!

    Awesome book!! I felt like it was written for me! I was Enabler in Chief and this book has given me a sense of freedom. It has helped me to identify what I need to do and to realize I cannot change anyone but myself.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 22, 2011

    Awesome - Must read

    I love this book...it has helped me tremendously. I even lent the paperback out and had to buy it for my nook. I refer to it all the time.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 17, 2011

    Hard core advice and strategies for the parent that is a chronic enabler of their adult children! Great book

    I bought this book for my mother, who's enabling of my niece has become out of control. It has a "tough lovr" concept that is a breath of fresh air.

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