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It is easy to develope a crush on a guy, and sometimes it can Feel like it happened overnight. But no matter how Past it happens, or how often you catch yourself daydreaming about him in social studies, there is nothing wrong with you.
Maybe he First caught your eye when he rushed in to homeroom seconds before the bell rang. Then you realized that his locker was three down From yours, and when you jammed your coat in your locker door one day, he laughed with you-not at you-as he helped you get it unstuck. Now you Find yourself looking For him in the hallways, and you made it your business to Find out that he has third-period lunch.
It can happen just like that. You get caught off guard by a crush, and before you know it, thinking about him has turned into your Full-time hobby. In other words: You're sweating him bad.
But while it's easy to crush on a guy you barely know, it is really hard to see whether this crush might develop into something deeper-that is, until you at least know his middle name. That's why, when you have a crush, you need to collect as much information as possible about that adorable guy you're in like with.
Besides getting the scoop on whether you and he have anything in common, it also makes sense to Figure out whether he's romantically available and in a position to like you back. IF you're crushing on your big sister's boyfriend, For example, you have to realize that a relationship will never work.
Do you like him for him? It's easy to Fall For the stereotypical bad boy (or jock, or intellectual), but if you are Falling in love with animage you need to go deeper. What is it you like about him? That he hangs with the mysterious grunge-heads at the back of the school, scrawling graffiti on brick walls? Or have you learned that behind his tough exterior, he's a vegetarian like you and is also interested in Native American history?
If you are simply dazzled by what he represents, then there is no Future. But if you appreciate all that he is, then this relationship has a solid chance.
Yes, opposites most definitely attract, but if you and he have no interest in each other's likes and dislikes, it'll be a mighty boring match. This is why it's logical that you'd Fall for your co-chair on the community service committee, your co-worker at Burger Barn, or your bandmate. There's no pressure to be exactly alike, but at least make sure his Star Wars babble doesn't put you to sleep.
He doesn't have to spend his Free time escorting old ladies across the street, but it would be a good sign if he treats you, his Friends, and his classmates with respect. It's cool if you Find his lunchtime rants on the history class rent-a-sub amusing; it's scary if you overlook his nasty habit of giving the younger boys wedgies during gym class.
Don't pine away For the Brazilian boy you met on a camping weekend. Letters and e-mails can sustain a Friendship, but if his next planned trip to the States is not until next year, you might want to start dating other boys. Long-distance relationships are really hard to keep going. Likewise, it's always fun to have a crush on a celebrity, but it shouldn't hold you back From Finding a date to the homecoming dance. Realistically, what are the chances of even meeting Freddie Prinze, Jr.-let alone scoring a date with him?
While you may sometimes Feel as if you'll never meet anyone, you only need to look around to see that every day you have dozens of opportunities to meet boys. In Fact, in your whole life you'll probably never have as many cutie encounters as you do right now.That doesn't mean you have to have a crush on a guy. Between volleyball practice, science club, and your volunteer work at the senior citizens' center, you've got plenty going on right now. It's just that it's so easy to Fall in like when you're surrounded by lots of potential crushes. Check out the number of hotties you might encounter on a given school day: